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It's strange that you ask since I have actually been considering starting up my own business but not for a while just yet. I would love to work as a barista and then eventually have enough money and experience to open up my own coffee business with a French theme that sells French patisseries. People can only dream though... :rolleyes:
haha sweet!

Well, your very specific, and seem to know what you might want, that's a great start if you ask me =)

You sound like me when you posted here so I had a feeling you might also have thought on setting up a business lol

but yeah, its great to plan that way =)
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i think you should leave if you think it's not for you. I got a scholarship to imperial college but i dropped out as i realised it just wasn't for me and it was affecting my health. When it gets to that stage you just have to do what's right for your health as getting stressed to the point of breakdown is not doing anyone any good :hugs:

I hope you figure out what your next step is going to be and if you ever want to talk/discuss anything feel free to pm me. Good luck
Were you on drugs or something? Dropping out of x number of universities, effects on your health, backpacking...... a little bit concerning.
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Were you on drugs or something? Dropping out of x number of universities, effects on your health, backpacking...... a little bit concerning.
lol no i've never done drugs. combination of lack of direction in life combined with mental health issues I don't smoke either and i'm a vegan


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lol no i've never done drugs. combination of lack of direction in life combined with mental health issues I don't smoke either and i'm a vegan


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lol no i've never done drugs. combination of lack of direction in life combined with mental health issues I don't smoke either and i'm a vegan


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Admitting it is the first step. Well done really pleased for you.
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cheers guys


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I'm thinking of dropping out too! Just don't think uni is for me, I like the idea of a degree, and I want to do well. But the whole university lifestyle just doesn't suit me, I have no motivation here. I love working and being busy so I'm not usually lazy but something about only having 10 hours a week of contact time, being in a boring town and being 5 hours away from home just isn't living up to my hopes of what uni would be! Not sure whether to stick it out though! Hmm!!
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I'm thinking of dropping out too! Just don't think uni is for me, I like the idea of a degree, and I want to do well. But the whole university lifestyle just doesn't suit me, I have no motivation here. I love working and being busy so I'm not usually lazy but something about only having 10 hours a week of contact time, being in a boring town and being 5 hours away from home just isn't living up to my hopes of what uni would be! Not sure whether to stick it out though! Hmm!!
From my experience I'd do what you feel is best for you. Lots of people will tell you that you're making a huge mistake and try convince you to stay but at the end of the day it's your decision. The sensible thing to do would be to stay until the end of the semester to say that you've actually achieved something from university but if you're like me and aren't able to handle it any longer then drop out if it's really what you want to do.
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0/2 so far. Anybody else fancy a go?
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*Sigh* I'm currently doing chemistry - in my first term of first year and I honestly don't feel cut out for it. I keep thinking I'm going to fail and the workload is intense - I feel all I ever do is post labs and tutorials, I never have time to even go over lectures/extra work nvm societies! I don't want to drop out, and I'm gonna see how the rest of the year goes, but it is a bit demotivating that one of my course mates dropped out last week (and she was actually very smart!)
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I'm so glad I found this thread and people in the same situation! I'm currently at uni in my first year, and hating it. I don't like the course, the tutors or the people, due to a mess up on the universities part, I'm in accommodation far away from the university. I'm in a massive city (London, over 5 hours on the train from home) and have had the worst few months that have really affected my mental and physical health and my coursework has been terrible, not like me at all, so I think I'm going to withdraw this week, and apply for another uni to start again in September! My family are keen for me to do it because I'm so unhappy but I guess I'm just kinda worried about going home and having to tell everyone that I dropped out and also being a year older than everyone when I start again.
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I dropped out of university 3 weeks ago. Just like you, I hated the course and didn't really connect with anyone apart from three other people (one who dropped out a week after me). I've always lived in London, so personally I missed the big city, I felt like the campus was just too isolated and not vibrant enough.
My health also deteriorated, my hair started falling out, I had lost 8kg in 4 weeks, and I was exhausted all the time. I started missing lectures, which was not like me at all, I never missed anything at school or sixthform. I didn't have time to play video games, play sports, socialise or do any of the things I would usually do. University was consuming my life and I hated it.
Not gonna lie, I cried a lot. Everytime I spoke to my mum on the phone, I'd break down into tears.
Dropping out was a hard decision, and I worried about what everyone would say too, but my family and friends have been very supportive, plus I'm applying to start uni in September 2014 so it's not like I've written uni off completely. I actually made a YouTube video on my last day at uni telling everyone I was dropping out and why, it felt like the easiest way for me, now everyone knows, they know my reasons, I don't have to repeat myself all the time and I avoided all the awkward conversations.
Also, whilst I was at uni, I met loads of 19 year olds, 20 year olds and even a 24 year old. There's people older than that even so don't worry about being a year older
Sometimes withdrawing is the best option. Good luck with whatever you decide to do though
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I dropped out of university 3 weeks ago. Just like you, I hated the course and didn't really connect with anyone apart from three other people (one who dropped out a week after me). I've always lived in London, so personally I missed the big city, I felt like the campus was just too isolated and not vibrant enough.
My health also deteriorated, my hair started falling out, I had lost 8kg in 4 weeks, and I was exhausted all the time. I started missing lectures, which was not like me at all, I never missed anything at school or sixthform. I didn't have time to play video games, play sports, socialise or do any of the things I would usually do. University was consuming my life and I hated it.
Not gonna lie, I cried a lot. Everytime I spoke to my mum on the phone, I'd break down into tears.
Dropping out was a hard decision, and I worried about what everyone would say too, but my family and friends have been very supportive, plus I'm applying to start uni in September 2014 so it's not like I've written uni off completely. I actually made a YouTube video on my last day at uni telling everyone I was dropping out and why, it felt like the easiest way for me, now everyone knows, they know my reasons, I don't have to repeat myself all the time and I avoided all the awkward conversations.
Also, whilst I was at uni, I met loads of 19 year olds, 20 year olds and even a 24 year old. There's people older than that even so don't worry about being a year older
Sometimes withdrawing is the best option. Good luck with whatever you decide to do though
Well done. Brave and courageous decision! I dropped out of oxford in 2006 and many of the things you write about were the same for me. Uni took over my life and didnt let me live it at all. I left it a whole year before dropping out and i'm still recovering. Having left quite early in the year I hope you don't have any long term effects like me. My hair was falling out, i couldnt sleep, lost all interest in sports and I missed soooo many lectures it was bad! My mass fell and all the while the few friends I did make were unaware and the people on my course effectively bullied me for asking questions and coming across as thick (this was the worst! My self confidence plumetted!) Eventually I didnt know enough material to be able to do the problem sheets and I fell more and more behind! All this while I was battling what I know know were classic signs of anxiety and depression! So basically university made me go from being a top 4A student at school to being unable to even live day to day properly.

Anyone reading or finding this please don't let uni consume your life. If you are so unhappy it is affecting your mental health, LEAVE! It's simply not worth it long term!

Anyone have any questions feel free to quote or pm me


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I am currently a first year Engineering student at Cambridge and I'm pretty much settled on dropping out. I returned home around a week ago and I really can't see myself going back after the holidays.
This term has been awful. I already had pre-existing depression and anxiety to an extent; but it's been a lot worse recently due to university.
I have no idea why I'm even on my course- I don't enjoy it, I have no interest in and can't see myself working in the field in later life.
I'm tired of people telling me to stick it out and that it will get better etc etc. But I know that this just isn't working out for me. It is refreshing to read threads like this and seeing others feeling the same.
I seriously lack in direction and just need some time to find myself and figure out what I really want to do. So I will take a year or two out and then probably apply somewhere else. I really want to save up some money and do lots of travelling.
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My son has just made the hardest decision of his life so far to leave university. Pressing the send button on the email was agonising for him but seeing how unhappy he has been over the last three months I think he has made the right decision. His course was not what he expected; as a non drinker he found living in halls a nightmare and spent his evenings alone in his room (the friends he made on his course were mostly still living at home). Despite much support from the university (I can not fault them) he was struggling to be motivated due to the other issues he was facing and therefore there was a distinct possibility he would fail at least one of his modules.
So why was the decision so difficult?
Because he was/is worried that he will be seen to be a failure. There is a lot of pressure on intelligent young people to go to university (guilty as charged!) but one of the lessons learned is that your mental health is worth far more than what other people might think about you. So if you are in the same position my advice would be the same as to my son - what is the point of soldiering on half heartedly? At best you won't do yourself justice and will get poor results or even fail (which will make you even more downhearted) but at worst, you will have a complete breakdown from which it can be difficult to recover.

We don't know what the future holds - he will be looking for work in an uncertain jobs market but whatever happens he has our support. He asked if I was disappointed in him. My reply was 'I am disappointed FOR you, that you didn't have the experience at university I hoped you would have' Maybe he will apply again in the future - but for now we are breathing a sigh of relief and looking forward to a stress free Christmas!
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My son has just made the hardest decision of his life so far to leave university. Pressing the send button on the email was agonising for him but seeing how unhappy he has been over the last three months I think he has made the right decision. His course was not what he expected; as a non drinker he found living in halls a nightmare and spent his evenings alone in his room (the friends he made on his course were mostly still living at home). Despite much support from the university (I can not fault them) he was struggling to be motivated due to the other issues he was facing and therefore there was a distinct possibility he would fail at least one of his modules.
So why was the decision so difficult?
Because he was/is worried that he will be seen to be a failure. There is a lot of pressure on intelligent young people to go to university (guilty as charged!) but one of the lessons learned is that your mental health is worth far more than what other people might think about you. So if you are in the same position my advice would be the same as to my son - what is the point of soldiering on half heartedly? At best you won't do yourself justice and will get poor results or even fail (which will make you even more downhearted) but at worst, you will have a complete breakdown from which it can be difficult to recover.

We don't know what the future holds - he will be looking for work in an uncertain jobs market but whatever happens he has our support. He asked if I was disappointed in him. My reply was 'I am disappointed FOR you, that you didn't have the experience at university I hoped you would have' Maybe he will apply again in the future - but for now we are breathing a sigh of relief and looking forward to a stress free Christmas!
I wish my parents were as sympathetic as you. Being from an indian background mine didnt acknowledge my mental health issues and still dont. They refuse to believe it is an illness. So O got no support from home when I dropped out which was very tough! Keep up being a good parent . you rock man!


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I'm in my second year studying a business degree. I'm thinking of dropping out as well as i don't enjoy the subject, but only because i'll get a better chance at getting a decent job lool. I intended to study art as this is my passion, but changed my course last minute. I'm from an asian background as well. Everyone keeps telling me that i only have a couple years left so just hold on. I'm always stressed about exams and coursework as i'm not very good with exams. I feel more stressed than from last year, before starting this course. I hope this course flysss by. Im just constantly worrying about exams.
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This week I made the decision of dropping out of university. For those who have also dropped out of university, what did you do afterwards and do you regret your decision?
I dropped out of university this time last year, and started at a different university/course this year.

I dropped out for a mix of reasons - depression, hated living in halls, finances, didn't enjoy the course, etc.

Once leaving, I signed onto JSA as I looked for a job (which I was unable to find until the end of May) whilst volunteering in a charity shop. Found myself in a relationship, and spent a lot of time embracing that and the happiness that came with it (as I had the time, and stress levels were at an unusual low). I "repaid" myself the money I'd lost from the halls and earnt maybe £1000 on top of that which was good.

Since returning to university, I can't say my experience has been any better - if not worse. But this time I'm trying to see it through with the hope I'll at least get a degree out of it, if not any other aspects of university life.
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Has anyone ever dropped out during the 3rd year of their course?

I did 1st and 2nd years on another course, failed because the tutors were awful, switched to another similar course at the same uni and now I'm in 3rd year. All of it has been awful - I've struggled with the work and barely passed the units I did well on, suffered terrible anxiety & bullying, I find it next to impossible to make friends and just being at uni makes me miserable. I was only recently diagnosed with a disorder that means it's difficult for me to socialise normally and that I struggle with self-directed study, which I wish had happened sooner because now it's a bit late to get arranged support from uni. I see the counsellor at uni every week but she doesn't offer much advice.

Everyone tells me I should just stick it out and finish it off. The reason this year is particularly bad is that people I know from my old course graduated in the summer so I'm around a group of people I've tried so hard making friends with but haven't succeeded at all - it's terrible. This year we only have tutorials once a week for 2 units including a dissertation, so up to 10 minutes of tutorial time per week which is usually in a noisy, busy studio space and shared with another student, so everything is very self-directed and I find it so difficult. I've talked to my course leader about it twice already and he keeps saying he's doing what he can to arrange more contact time but nothing's happened.

I'm contemplating doing as best as I can for now, but if my mental health suffers any further I can't any more. If I do fail, I'll probably look at alternative options and finish my education another time, or even pursue a different degree in the future. This saddens me as I'm intelligent, used to get good grades at school and would like a chance at getting a job I enjoy, so therefore I would be expected to at least get a degree, but the 'uni lifestyle' and course structure make it impossible for me to cope with!
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I'm considering dropping out too, and applying to a uni closer to home for September 2014, but I'm worried I've left it a bit too late in terms of UCAS.

I'm not enjoying the uni experience at all, I'm quiet and don't enjoy drinking, so the whole drinking culture of uni isn't for me. I can never get any sleep because everyone else in my halls are so loud when they pre-drink/ go out every night. At my uni, we are made to do 3 courses in our first year, and I'm really struggling with one of them (economics) in which we have tests every 6 weeks. I spend all my time panicking and worrying over these tests and don't get to spend time focusing on the other 2 subjects I've chosen. I've already failed the first economics test and I know i'm going to fail the others, and the exam. I've been home for Christmas for 3 weeks now and I still can't sleep for worrying about uni. I end up crying a lot.

Really don't know what to do.
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