I personally wouldn't mind besides being a little uncomfortable for extreme PDA in any common areas if I were single...
I'd have a huge issue with it. Maybe its just me I have no problem with partners staying over my boyfriend comes and stays for one night a week my housemates stays over Friday to Monday every other week. I would have an issue somebody staying in my house Monday to Friday yes it may be shared housing but if you are paying rent its as much your house as it is theres. I think its disrespectful and it doesn't take a genius to realise having a partner there 5 days a week is not fair. Its about the privacy of your own home you don't know the partner, you want to be able to relax and chill at home not have some random guy hanging about.
I don't think its on personally i just find it disrespectful
I'm in a relationship and even I would find it annoying if my boyfriend was constantly staying over without contributing anything :s especially as a student, I mean I don't mind spending money on him but if it was bills and things I'd like a little bit of help.
If I were you, I'd get the rest of your house together and then offer your housemate an ultimatum - either:
- He pays twice as much for electric/water to cover both him and his boyfriend
- His boyfriend stops staying over so much
- You'll be going to the landlord, reporting it and getting yourselves a new housemate. The landlord is going to want to know who is living in his property, and if he finds someone else unexpectedly living there, he's probably going to be pissed off. Especially as they haven't signed a tenancy agreement.
Hey OP, completely understand how you feel! I live with my family and over the summer that's just gone, my brothers gf came down to stay for a couple of days, which eventually turned into a month. She put her shampoo in my bathroom, subscribed to Netflix registered to my house and her clothes somehow ended up in my wardrobe. I thought this was f*cking ridiculous, selfish and annoying - I was very stressed at work at the time and coming home to her randomly hanging about my house was so irritating. I barely knew the girl but I did like her - after she overstayed her welcome so majorly, I don't so much any more. I would never dream of staying so long in somebody else's space and I found it very inconsiderate & rude.
Basically, this is something that you can only understand if you've experienced it.
If it's that big of an issue, broach the subject with both your flatmate and his boyfriend. If he's going to be staying there, he should be at least contributing to the bills and cleaning - if he's a normal person, he will agree to contribute without any further problems. If he refuses, then you've got to decide whether it's worth calling your landlord and ending whatever friendship you've got with your flatmate. Furthermore, if living in the house with the boyfriend is uncomfortable for the female tenants, then I would suggest you bring that up as well. Needs to be dealt with sooner rather than later.