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    (Original post by Rump Steak)
    I've put the word 'discuss' in the title...

    Ok, it's interesting hearing your point of view- it's weird though, I'd say those ambitions are similar to mine too- I enjoy seeing my family, making people smile etc, and i do want a family and children in the future - but I don't feel I need a relationship early on to accomplish all that..

    As for drinking and sleeping with random people, I don't think I ever mentioned wanting to do that?

    Yes relationships under 25 can work. They can. But at the expense of other things in life in my opinion.


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    Yes, but you also want to do other things such as get a degree and travel around. I don't. I also would imagine I want to do those things quicker than you do.

    I tried going to university and I hated it. Missed my family, hated the immature people my own age, didn't like the work. I'm much happier this way.
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    (Original post by LightBlueSoldier)
    How is the fact that you've been with your boyfriend for two years as a teenager proof that young relationships can work in general? Probably less than one percent of relationships between teenagers last longer than 10 years, if that. I don't agree with OP for the most part but surely you recognize that your extremely limited experience is not grounds to be ultra aggressive with everyone who poses an opposing view?


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    Sorry if it came off as aggressive. I was just pointing out that not every relationship is immature
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    If we were to ban all relationships before the age of 25, then 25 would just be the new 15. People would emotionally mature much later. Yes, it would eliminate problems like little girls getting pregnant but on the most part it would just delay what would inevitably happen anyway.
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    My Mum and Dad met at 14 and 16 respectively and they've now passed their 20th wedding anniversary, there's all you need to know about why relationships before 25 are pointless.
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    (Original post by Rump Steak)
    Yes relationships under 25 can work. They can. But at the expense of other things in life in my opinion.
    I was dating guy 1 for 2 years in high school, got accepted to New York University - the top university in the english-speaking world for my primary area of study/interest (philosophy) and in the top 20 in the world for my other subjects (politics, psychology and sexuality studies).

    I've known my husband since my junior year of high school (2008); we started dating my freshmen year of university, when I was 17; we've been together for 4.5 years, married for 1.5 years. We've moved from the US to the UK together, lived on our own together for many years.

    In that time I've been a guest lecturer at my alma matter, I've been previously accepted to a graduate program at Columbia university; I'm currently a law student at Durham University, where my performance is well-regarded by my professors; I've worked on state-wide LGBT campaign back in the US as a project lead; I'm involved with multiple extra-curricular activities with research centers at the law school; I'll be applying for joint JD/PhD programs next year, fully expecting to get in to at least one of them with full funding + stipend.

    I fail to see how my relationship has been 'at the expense of other things in my life'? :curious:
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    I don't agree with the age of 25 but I do believe relationships before the age of 18 are pointless.
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    How abour if the person who we are with is the one who supports us in what we do?
    Hmm, let's see, my parents are doubting me and don't believe I can make my dreams come true, my brother doubting me. Friends're nice and fine, but no, they don't make me believe more in what I do.
    And then there's this person who supports me and believes I can do whatever I want, get to the uni I want and prove everyone wrong *-*. Not sure how does this affect my life and ruin my young age. If it ends up, and we break up, then we do. But foe now, I love him and he's made me a better person so why would I wanna end it all up just because I'm 18 and not 25?
    I get the point you're saying but that does not apply to everyone .
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    (Original post by Ruffiio)
    I don't agree with the age of 25 but I do believe relationships before the age of 18 are pointless.
    What about people who stay together? You've just done what OP has done but put a different age on it :curious:
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    I have never really thought about it, but I agree with everything the OP says. Great post.
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    (Original post by pane123)
    I have never really thought about it, but I agree with everything the OP says. Great post.
    Something I struggle with what you and OP are saying. While those things apply to you, why do you apply them to everyone? I can see why you don't want a relationship, but to call other people's relationships pointless is ignorant, silly and rude
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    (Original post by Tyrion_Lannister)
    Something I struggle with what you and OP are saying. While those things apply to you, why do you apply them to everyone? I can see why you don't want a relationship, but to call other people's relationships pointless is ignorant, silly and rude
    You should report the post if you find it so offensive.
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    (Original post by pane123)
    You should report the post if you find it so offensive.
    Can't you just answer the question?
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    If you're with the right person then they won't hold you back from anything. The only thing that you really can't do in a relationship is have sex with other people and that's fine by me. My relationship isn't at the expense of anything - it makes me happier than I would be if I was single because being in love is the best feeling I've ever had and I'm still going to get a degree and so is he. He wants to travel after university and I would never hold him back from that, I'll just go with him. I think experiences are better when shared with someone you love anyway.

    I did have a crap relationship from 16-18 but I don't regret it, I learned things from it and I've avoided making the same mistakes in my current relationship. Yes I was heartbroken for a while when it ended but I think it was worth it for the experience.

    Edit: I could see your point if you meant having children before 25 as that does limit some opportunities but even then, some people want that and if their priority is to have a family over travel/work etc then who are you or anyone else to say that what they want is wrong?
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    (Original post by Tyrion_Lannister)
    Can't you just answer the question?
    I can't really be bothered entering discussion with someone who looks to be offended wherever possible. I am not applying it to everyone, I like the post because it applies to me.
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    (Original post by pane123)
    I can't really be bothered entering discussion with someone who looks to be offended wherever possible. I am not applying it to everyone, I like the post because it applies to me.
    I'm not looking to be offended. But if you're only applying it to you that is ok
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    (Original post by donutaud15)
    I'll give the answer my husband always says: what's the point of waiting if you know you've found the right person?

    Things like decent degrees, jobs, travelling, ect are still possible even in a relationship (talking from experience) Not the easiest but tbh everything in life is hard.

    By the time I'm 25, I'd be married for six years. I don't really think I'm missing out on a lot.
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    Why would you get married at 19? That's ridiculous! You'd be lucky to still be married at 35.
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    (Original post by Robbie242)
    Well I don't hate the idea of commitment, I actually like it... so people are different and so some relationships will stand the test of time, your problems with relationships don't happen for everyone so many can be long and fulfilling without the need to resent the thought of commitment.
    You've never had a girlfriend though.
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    (Original post by Manic Boy)
    You've never had a girlfriend though.
    True but I still prefer the idea of long term commitment
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    (Original post by Tyrion_Lannister)
    That relationships under 25 can work. I've been with my boyfriend since I was 17
    ....So 2 years...Big woop. It will not last. That's the point.
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    (Original post by Manic Boy)
    ....So 2 years...Big woop. It will not last. That's the point.
    This is what I mean. You are using your experiences to **** all over my relationship. I also mentioned my grandmother, who married at 18, and my mum, who married at 20
 
 
 
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