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    (Original post by Horny Cabbage)
    Then again i'll say that's it's not that simple. In terms of getting an average looking girl back to your place to have sex.
    Yes, so you keep saying.

    But what may be true for you is not true for the majority.

    The majority of 2nd and 3rd year students, and indeed, all young men by extension, have sufficiently well-developed social skills that they can take a girl home from a nightclub most weeks if they are willing to put the groundwork in. Its really NOT difficult, IF you know what you are doing.
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    (Original post by jay2013)
    If you look like this guy then you won't have any problems:

    http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/23...91eb21df7b.jpg

    If you look like this guy then pray:

    http://cdn2-b.examiner.com/sites/def...?itok=Nv5F0GXO
    What do you mean? Even the ugly/mediocre girls go for hot guys only?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What do you mean? Even the ugly/mediocre girls go for hot guys only?
    Simple question would an ugly guy pick the "ugly" girl or would he fork the hot girl? same applies to a lot of girls.
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    (Original post by vickidc18)
    Simple question would an ugly guy pick the "ugly" girl or would he fork the hot girl? same applies to a lot of girls.
    yeah, but what makes a person attractive? their face? their hair? their physique? their dress sense? their posture? their facial expressions? their witty reparte? their flirting?

    Most of these things can be improved. Anyone who says "I can't pull because I'm unattractive" just isn't making enough effort.
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    Be yourself. Just go for it. Don't hesitate to talk to the girl you see across the room at a party.

    Make sure you do this, this is the biggest tip I wish someone had given me:

    GO AROUND TO AS MANY PEOPLE/GIRLS AS YOU CAN IN FRESHERS WEEK

    Especially if you're on a quiet course, in a quiet hall or isolated somehow from the main group of people. For some reason, some uni's can get very cliquey after around the first month as friendship groups form around common attributes like halls. So it is easier to get in with a group and meet girls if you have formed the basis/laid the foundations at the beginning. Don't fall for the trap, as I did and several others may have, of hanging out with your hall buddies on day 1, 2 and 3. If they are only interested in drinking and not socialising/meeting other people, let alone girls, then your social circle gets limited early on, making it harder (not impossible) to perform the networking task in weeks 4 onward. It just makes it a lot easier.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What do you mean? Even the ugly/mediocre girls go for hot guys only?
    lol I was half joking!

    The more attractive you are, the easier it will be. To be honest that's pretty much common sense. However not everyone is going to look like that model I posted and not everyone is going to look like that second guy either. If you're not attractive like a model, a 10/10 so to speak, then you've got to use "game" - I don't really like using that term but it's probably the only term I know of that can be used in this sense. Honestly most of it is common sense but:

    You have to dress appropriately (i.e. if you're going to a superhero-themed party then you have to dress like a superhero like superman or batman)

    You have to take care of yourself - shower everyday, anti-perspirant, aftershave when needed, suitable haircut, beard or no beard

    You have to converse with girls even if it's the most nerve-racking, scariest thing ever :eek:. Get to know them, flirt with them, tease them about stuff. Also socialise with guys as well.

    And, most importantly, don't expect anything to happen. I've found that good things happen when I don't go chasing it and when I'm not looking for anything. That doesn't mean you don't try, far from it. But sometimes you just need to be in the right place at the right time.

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Be yourself. Just go for it. Don't hesitate to talk to the girl you see across the room at a party.

    Make sure you do this, this is the biggest tip I wish someone had given me:

    GO AROUND TO AS MANY PEOPLE/GIRLS AS YOU CAN IN FRESHERS WEEK

    Especially if you're on a quiet course, in a quiet hall or isolated somehow from the main group of people. For some reason, some uni's can get very cliquey after around the first month as friendship groups form around common attributes like halls. So it is easier to get in with a group and meet girls if you have formed the basis/laid the foundations at the beginning. Don't fall for the trap, as I did and several others may have, of hanging out with your hall buddies on day 1, 2 and 3. If they are only interested in drinking and not socialising/meeting other people, let alone girls, then your social circle gets limited early on, making it harder (not impossible) to perform the networking task in weeks 4 onward. It just makes it a lot easier.
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    (Original post by jay2013)
    lol I was half joking!

    The more attractive you are, the easier it will be. To be honest that's pretty much common sense. However not everyone is going to look like that model I posted and not everyone is going to look like that second guy either. If you're not attractive like a model, a 10/10 so to speak, then you've got to use "game" - I don't really like using that term but it's probably the only term I know of that can be used in this sense. Honestly most of it is common sense but:

    You have to dress appropriately (i.e. if you're going to a superhero-themed party then you have to dress like a superhero like superman or batman)

    You have to take care of yourself - shower everyday, anti-perspirant, aftershave when needed, suitable haircut, beard or no beard

    You have to converse with girls even if it's the most nerve-racking, scariest thing ever :eek:. Get to know them, flirt with them, tease them about stuff. Also socialise with guys as well.

    And, most importantly, don't expect anything to happen. I've found that good things happen when I don't go chasing it and when I'm not looking for anything. That doesn't mean you don't try, far from it. But sometimes you just need to be in the right place at the right time.


    Christ almighty, it tells you something about the catastrophic effect of the internet on young people's socialising skills that maintaining basic hygiene and the act of actually talking to people are considered having "game".


    wtf is the world coming to...
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    Its exactly the same as pre university. If you are attractive and witty it will be sex on tap. If not, it is hard work and often a 'water water everywhere but not a drop to drink' experience. If you have to ask this question you are probably in the latter camp. So do the most with you appearance and clothes, don't be a sexist arse and keep trying. Eventually you will succeed..
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    (Original post by cole-slaw)
    A far higher percentage of students than 50% are socially competent enough to pull in the uni nightclub.

    When I was a fresher, our course rep took us to the uni nightclub and said "if you can't pull in here, there is something wrong with you", and you know what, he was 100% right. The few people that couldn't pull did genuinely have social issues.

    I don't like this habit on TSR of people attempting to reframe serious levels of social incompetence as some kind of normal attribute, because if you believe that ****, you lose all your social confidence and it soon becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

    Ultimately, if you're a reasonably normal bloke and you make some kind of effort at all, you WILL pull.
    Agree largely with your post, but would say a lot boils down to how attractive you are.

    Been on nights out with mates, who've had girls literally coming onto them because of their aesthetics. If you're average, then you need a bit of luck and game, unless you have literally no standards. Also, in my experience some girls attract 'easier' girls than others. I'm at Warwick, and there are loads of frigid girls, had two girls back to my room, who've then said I'm not going to have sex with you lol after getting with each other all night.

    Wonder if being off campus adds another dimension to pulling? was pretty easy in freshers, considering you were often going back to the same place/easy to hitch a taxi ride etc whereas living in the city may be a little different.
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    Don't expect to get laid, and don't try too hard.
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    (Original post by liarpoker)
    Agree largely with your post, but would say a lot boils down to how attractive you are.

    Been on nights out with mates, who've had girls literally coming onto them because of their aesthetics. If you're average, then you need a bit of luck and game, unless you have literally no standards. Also, in my experience some girls attract 'easier' girls than others. I'm at Warwick, and there are loads of frigid girls, had two girls back to my room, who've then said I'm not going to have sex with you lol after getting with each other all night.

    Wonder if being off campus adds another dimension to pulling? was pretty easy in freshers, considering you were often going back to the same place/easy to hitch a taxi ride etc whereas living in the city may be a little different.
    The thing about aesthetics though, is that its not like you can't do anything about them. Get a better haircut, sort out your complexion, work on your physique, sort out your dress sense, and you can look 100% more attractive.

    Add to that, a lot of attraction is in what you say and how you act rather than how you look, and its not impossible to completely transform your luck in the space of a few months. IF you make the effort.

    Of course, there is also the point that a lot of the guys you see apparently effortlessly pulling hot girls at clubs have also chatted to those girls before and have put in the groundwork being funny and friendly and flirty for a few weeks.

    A lot of my mates complained that I seemed to be able to pull easily during my undergrad, but the truth was I wasn't just chatting up randoms from scratch, I was pulling girls that I already vaguely knew, already had an inkling liked me, and had put in quite a bit of effort with.
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    Hot girls get guys hitting on them all of the time. So they're so used to it. So I've developed this pretty fool proof method of getting a girl to talk to me first (on a night out). I stare, point at them, laugh, then walk outside to the smoking area (it's quiet there). 9 times out of 10 they'll come outside and ask why I did what I did. Then you just say something like 'you are beautiful and I wanted to get your attention'. That's all she wrote.

    But you've got to do everything with a ton of confidence otherwise they'll think you're a freak.

    The percentage of girls that will come outside will go down the less attractive you are, but it's a numbers game. If you're not the best looking creature then you've just got to stick at it. Or drop standards and the percentage will go back up.
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    (Original post by vickidc18)
    Simple question would an ugly guy pick the "ugly" girl or would he fork the hot girl? same applies to a lot of girls.
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What do you mean? Even the ugly/mediocre girls go for hot guys only?
    A lot of good looking girls are insecure and think they're ugly. So they lower their standards. Same for dudes.
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    (Original post by cole-slaw)
    The thing about aesthetics though, is that its not like you can't do anything about them. Get a better haircut, sort out your complexion, work on your physique, sort out your dress sense, and you can look 100% more attractive.

    Add to that, a lot of attraction is in what you say and how you act rather than how you look, and its not impossible to completely transform your luck in the space of a few months. IF you make the effort.

    Of course, there is also the point that a lot of the guys you see apparently effortlessly pulling hot girls at clubs have also chatted to those girls before and have put in the groundwork being funny and friendly and flirty for a few weeks.

    A lot of my mates complained that I seemed to be able to pull easily during my undergrad, but the truth was I wasn't just chatting up randoms from scratch, I was pulling girls that I already vaguely knew, already had an inkling liked me, and had put in quite a bit of effort with.
    Yeah fair

    Does definitely seem to depend, because I for some reason generally go for randomers. I think it's because living on campus was very gossipy, so would much rather pull a randomer than someone all my mates knew/accommodation blocks were quite close-knit. Never been really one to pull too close to home, partly because I've known one night stands turn into full blown relationships within a term. Alcohol also tends reduce my attention span ridiculously, so on many occasions, girls I've known have said hello to me in clubs, and I've literally smiled/said hi and then moved on instead of attempting to develop things.

    I think second year, I'm planning to put a bit more effort into that side of nights out. Nights out this year were mainly getting hammered with mates, and then just having a pretty rogue night out. If I pulled, I pulled, but usually wasn't too fussed.

    Any experience of house parties and pulling? Reckon I'll frequent those more than clubs next year.

    Yeah, that's true, there are definitely guys though that do manage it, probably the ones who are 8+/10.
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    Carry a bag of sperm around with you to ensure that all of the semen-demons are made aware of your presence.
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    Stop trying so damn hard, and perhaps let it happen naturally. You reek of desperation.
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    tbh
    1)Just walk into the club like what up I got a big ****
    2)Walk up to the bar No shoes, no shirt, and still get serviced
    3)???
    4)Profit

    Thank me later when you're beating the girls off with your pogo stick.
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    (Original post by Michael!)
    Hot girls get guys hitting on them all of the time. So they're so used to it. So I've developed this pretty fool proof method of getting a girl to talk to me first (on a night out). I stare, point at them, laugh, then walk outside to the smoking area (it's quiet there). 9 times out of 10 they'll come outside and ask why I did what I did. Then you just say something like 'you are beautiful and I wanted to get your attention'. That's all she wrote.

    But you've got to do everything with a ton of confidence otherwise they'll think you're a freak.

    The percentage of girls that will come outside will go down the less attractive you are, but it's a numbers game. If you're not the best looking creature then you've just got to stick at it. Or drop standards and the percentage will go back up.
    Walk into the club and be like

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    I have a gf so I don't go to parties to hook up, but it seems now I'm taken I get more girls flirting with me... if only..
 
 
 
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