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    (Original post by redferry)
    Just remember she's just jealous!

    Just tell her you get everything off eBay for 99p
    Ha, might do :lol:
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    (Original post by Marky Mark)
    How do you know I haven't experienced bullying in the workplace or have been bullied myself? Pretending like this is a woman-only issue is not doing you or the OP any favour, I'm sure it's easy to brushoff valid criticisms as "*****y and vindictive" than to navigate to your closest mirror and reflect on your own actions.


    Someone asking you to do your job does not amount to rampant bullying. Refusing to carryout certain parts of your job in favour of more auspicious working conditions makes you incompetent.
    Not like this. This is done exclusively by women towards other women. Have you ever had your life systematically destroyed by people *****ing about you because of jealousy.

    You are just showing that you really don't get it...

    She is *****ing, making digs, turning everyone against her. That is bullying.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    "you want to know what my problem is? You're new and you suck up to the owner,
    You talk to everyone and you're confident. You dress like you're going out every day and chat to everyone. When I was new, I was terrified. I couldn't speak to anyone and I was scared to speak to the owner. And then you come in like some diva and think everyone loves you. I don't see why it should be any different for you than it was for me"
    I don't believe anyone would actually say that. That might be the reason why they behaved the way they did, but to actually be able to admit that to you and themselves shows an unusual level of self-awareness. So you're either projecting your own feelings about the way she treats you and just telling us that that's what said, or this woman has been very honest with you about her character. It doesn't excuse what she's said to you, but you could try and have a bit of empathy. Taking her out shopping and buying her things was a ****ty thing to do. She's jealous of your wealth so you take her out and flash your money around? It seems you have a lot to learn about people.
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    (Original post by redferry)
    Not like this. This is done exclusively by women towards other women. Have you ever had your life systematically destroyed by people *****ing about you because of jealousy.

    You are just showing that you really don't get it...

    She is *****ing, making digs, turning everyone against her. That is bullying.
    Male bullying is different you're right. Women are devious and try to emotionally break other women. It's disgusting
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    (Original post by ArtGoblin)
    I don't believe anyone would actually say that. That might be the reason why they behaved they did, but to actually be able to admit that to you and themselves shows an unusual level of self-awareness. So you're either projecting your own feelings about the way she treats you and just telling us that that's what said, or this woman has been very honest with you about her character. It doesn't excuse what she's said to you, but you could try and have a bit of empathy. Taking her out shopping and buying her things was a ****ty thing to do. She's jealous of your wealth so you take her out and flash your money around? It seems you have a lot to learn about people.
    She did say that.

    Me have empathy?! To someone who's essentially mocked my phobia and treated my like **** because I happen to come from a wealthy background? Sorry, what? I've tried to be nice to her. What should I empathise with? She has no reason to dislike me. Jealousy is a horrible trait.

    Sharing it was ****ty how? :confused:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks

    Yeah I think she seems like that too



    So me being unable to do one tiny aspect of my job because of a diagnosed mental health condition is being a diva? Sorry what?

    If someone came to me and asked for help for a valid reason Id do it, no questions asked. And no, she's making allowances because the disability discrimination act says reasonable adjustments must be made

    Would you say someone in a wheelchair who asked for a ramp instead of the stairs should man up?


    Ignore him. What you're being made to go through is completely unfair. It sounds like blatant jealousy because you're obviously a confident, capable and attractive young woman. You make them feel worse about themselves and they resent you for it.

    And I think if you have diagnosed general anxiety, she is discriminating against mental illness. Just remind her of that next time.


    I think you should write a formal complaint to the company providing a detailed account of how her behaviour constitutes bullying.

    Good luck, work place bullying is the worst Don't let them change you though, keep dressing and behaving how you want.
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    Record it simple.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    1) that's being nice. If I was skint and someone bought me my favourite mascara id be grateful. Would buy them a drink next month to make up for it

    2) in what way? I just use my bag. Like I said I don't wave it around it hasn't got a massive name on it...

    3) I wasn't. The tasks are given for us to divide up amongst ourselves. She just wants to make me do it because she doesn't like me very much
    You've obviously been treated very unfairly. And this is a minor issue. But do you not think that if someone was primed against you, then anything nice you say could still be taken in a negative light?

    Buying her that make up does a set of things:
    Says you can afford it, she cannot.
    Says that you think her make up isn't good enough, and she should use different make up.
    Says that you know better essentially about how SHE should present herself.

    It's something you can't do with someone you're not friends with.

    At the end of the day I'd talk to your manager about this one on one, and if your manager doesn't do anything talk to her manager. The company has opened itself up to a law suit through bullying in the workplace, that's something they will need to and want to address.
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    (Original post by ArtGoblin)
    I don't believe anyone would actually say that. That might be the reason why they behaved the way they did, but to actually be able to admit that to you and themselves shows an unusual level of self-awareness. So you're either projecting your own feelings about the way she treats you and just telling us that that's what said, or this woman has been very honest with you about her character. It doesn't excuse what she's said to you, but you could try and have a bit of empathy. Taking her out shopping and buying her things was a ****ty thing to do. She's jealous of your wealth so you take her out and flash your money around? It seems you have a lot to learn about people.
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    (Original post by redferry)
    Not like this. This is done exclusively by women towards other women. Have you ever had your life systematically destroyed by people *****ing about you because of jealousy.

    You are just showing that you really don't get it...

    She is *****ing, making digs, turning everyone against her. That is bullying.

    I get the feeling that you're tarring all workplaces and indeed ALL women with the same brush which is unfair. Just because you've been bullied doesn't mean the OP is being bullied.


    The OP is also mentally ill this can all just be in his head we can't take her word for it and all we have here is her word for it.
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    (Original post by Marky Mark)
    I get the feeling that you're tarring all workplaces and indeed ALL women with the same brush which is unfair. Just because you've been bullied doesn't mean the OP is being bullied.


    The OP is also mentally ill this can all just be in his head we can't take her word for it and all we have here is her word for it.
    I get the feeling you have zero life experience. Or no female friends or siblings working in these types of environments.
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    (Original post by Marky Mark)
    I get the feeling that you're tarring all workplaces and indeed ALL women with the same brush which is unfair. Just because you've been bullied doesn't mean the OP is being bullied.


    The OP is also mentally ill this can all just be in his head we can't take her word for it and all we have here is her word for it.
    No just these kinds of women. And the OP is a girl.

    You lack a basic understanding of mental illness clearly.
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    (Original post by ChickenMadness)
    I get the feeling you have zero life experience. Or no female friends or siblings working in these types of environments.

    I have zero life experiences because I think doing your job means just that doing your job and not asking people to make allowances for you because you've had it tough or something?


    Being called a diva is not even hurtful it's a joke is what it is. If the OP is that fragile that he cannot handle criticism then he needs to quit working with people which is probably the best idea since this job is giving him anxiety.


    The OP's boss told her to jog on basically. I think this speaks volumes.



    (Original post by redferry)
    No just these kinds of women. And the OP is a girl.

    You lack a basic understanding of mental illness clearly.

    I've asked the OP this before and she didn't answer. Do the colleagues know that the OP is mentally ill? This whole thing could have been "ironed-out" if the OP had explained herself. I suspect the OP hasn't done this which is why people are being negative.


    You've got a chip on your shoulder.
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    (Original post by Marky Mark)



    I've asked the OP this before and she didn't answer. Do the colleagues know that the OP is mentally ill? This whole thing could have been "ironed-out" if the OP had explained herself. I suspect the OP hasn't done this which is why people are being negative.


    You've got a chip on your shoulder.
    She told them she had a germ phobia so yes she did explain.

    And you've got absolutely no clue what you are talking about. You're one of those race to the bottom types clearly.
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    Oh OP, it's just sad how you're being treated. Be strong, don't cry over some jealous *****, stand up to her. Recording what she says is best, imo.

    Good luck with your problems, be they anxiety, your phobia, or the workplace.
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    (Original post by redferry)
    She told them she had a germ phobia so yes she did explain.

    And you've got absolutely no clue what you are talking about. You're one of those race to the bottom types clearly.

    A lot of people use the term phobia loosely these days i.e. I have anxiety, I have a phobia to X. I assume this why the OP was called the diva i.e. someone that believes they are above others.This is why I said the OP needs to mention that she is has been clinically diagnosed in my previous posts.



    I have no clue what I'm talking about?


    You're a zoology student aren't you? :lol:
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    (Original post by Marky Mark)
    I get the feeling that you're tarring all workplaces and indeed ALL women with the same brush which is unfair. Just because you've been bullied doesn't mean the OP is being bullied.


    The OP is also mentally ill this can all just be in his head we can't take her word for it and all we have here is her word for it.
    Having a mental illness doesn't mean it's all in my head wtf


    (Original post by Marky Mark)
    I have zero life experiences because I think doing your job means just that doing your job and not asking people to make allowances for you because you've had it tough or something?


    Being called a diva is not even hurtful it's a joke is what it is. If the OP is that fragile that he cannot handle criticism then he needs to quit working with people which is probably the best idea since this job is giving him anxiety.


    The OP's boss told her to jog on basically. I think this speaks volumes.






    I've asked the OP this before and she didn't answer. Do the colleagues know that the OP is mentally ill? This whole thing could have been "ironed-out" if the OP had explained herself. I suspect the OP hasn't done this which is why people are being negative.


    You've got a chip on your shoulder.
    My boss didn't tell me to jog on, my boss actually told the other girl to be more sympathetic. And I did answer, I said they're aware of it. I have told them.
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    (Original post by TolerantBeing)
    Ignore him. What you're being made to go through is completely unfair. It sounds like blatant jealousy because you're obviously a confident, capable and attractive young woman. You make them feel worse about themselves and they resent you for it.

    And I think if you have diagnosed general anxiety, she is discriminating against mental illness. Just remind her of that next time.


    I think you should write a formal complaint to the company providing a detailed account of how her behaviour constitutes bullying.

    Good luck, work place bullying is the worst Don't let them change you though, keep dressing and behaving how you want.
    Thank you really good advice
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    (Original post by Aile)
    Oh OP, it's just sad how you're being treated. Be strong, don't cry over some jealous *****, stand up to her. Recording what she says is best, imo.

    Good luck with your problems, be they anxiety, your phobia, or the workplace.
    :hugs:
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    (Original post by Marky Mark)
    I have zero life experiences because I think doing your job means just that doing your job and not asking people to make allowances for you because you've had it tough or something?


    Being called a diva is not even hurtful it's a joke is what it is. If the OP is that fragile that he cannot handle criticism then he needs to quit working with people which is probably the best idea since this job is giving him anxiety.


    The OP's boss told her to jog on basically. I think this speaks volumes.






    I've asked the OP this before and she didn't answer. Do the colleagues know that the OP is mentally ill? This whole thing could have been "ironed-out" if the OP had explained herself. I suspect the OP hasn't done this which is why people are being negative.


    You've got a chip on your shoulder.

    Sounds like you have no idea of these female bullying situations lol. It's very common.
 
 
 
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