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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Sorry to hear about this.

    It seems like you need a fresh start-which is how I knew I got myself to get over my fakeness too. Is there any way you'd be willing to start everything all over? Or maybe take some time out for yourself, decide what you want to do and who you want to be? It depends on the people too-some people are nice enough to not only accept you for your self perceived imperfections but to help you a lot with it too.
    There's no way I could get a fresh start, even if I moved colleges. My brother's popular, so everyone knows me because of him. Plus, I like college when I'm with my girlfriend and friend. It's just when everyone crowds me.

    Thanks for the advice!

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    That's a shame Have you thought about talking about all this with other people, places online/in your college that can help you? Like Samaritans for example, please get in touch with them, you can email them and tell them about this and see what advice they give you. They may be in a better position to help you as they deal with stuff like this. It wouldn't hurt to hear what they have to say.

    I'd say wear less make up to avoid spending 3 hours every morning and also what's wrong with your hair? People bullying for that is ridiculous. Having to straighten your hair everyday is ridiculous. If you want to spend less time in the morning, perhaps find another way of doing your hair that you like and that you wouldn't feel self conscious about and would take less time?

    So people wouldn't like you so much if you weren't the person they knew? Who cares? You can't please everyone. As long as you have your close friends and your girlfriend, why does it matter? I doubt that you'd get bullied again and if you did, wouldn't your friends, your brother and your girlfriend be there for you?
    I've talked about this with my brother and girlfriend. They're actually my only support system, and the rare people in my life that I'm happy to have. It's just that I know they're going to be biased. They're obviously going to tell me what I want to hear and not hurt my feelings, i.e. saying I look fine natural. But they have helped me get over the bullying quite a lot. It's just the fake-issue now.

    Me and my brother have naturally curly hair, so it's literally like Goldilocks style. My brother is self-conscious about his hair, too, and extensively straightens it. That's a good idea, actually. I'll have to ask my girlfriend for advice, though, as I have no idea how to style my hair otherwise.

    I just don't want what happened in school to happen again. It was the worst few years of my life, and I've literally done all of this to escape it. You are right, though. I shouldn't care. I just do.
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    I've talked about this with my brother and girlfriend. They're actually my only support system, and the rare people in my life that I'm happy to have. It's just that I know they're going to be biased. They're obviously going to tell me what I want to hear and not hurt my feelings, i.e. saying I look fine natural. But they have helped me get over the bullying quite a lot. It's just the fake-issue now.

    Me and my brother have naturally curly hair, so it's literally like Goldilocks style. My brother is self-conscious about his hair, too, and extensively straightens it. That's a good idea, actually. I'll have to ask my girlfriend for advice, though, as I have no idea how to style my hair otherwise.

    I just don't want what happened in school to happen again. It was the worst few years of my life, and I've literally done all of this to escape it. You are right, though. I shouldn't care. I just do.
    Ah that's good to hear But yeah, you can still ask for advice with whatever problems you have.. have a look at this and this Maybe you should tell them what you posted here and see what they have to say?

    Glad I helped with that, hopefully she'll find a way :yep: Some YouTube tutorials and things are good with ideas for hair too, so maybe you could check that out.

    I know what you mean, I have those times too, where it'd be good if I didn't care, but still do...
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    (Original post by Black Rose)
    Ah that's good to hear But yeah, you can still ask for advice with whatever problems you have.. have a look at this and this Maybe you should teell them what you posted here and see what they have to say?

    Glad I helped with that, hopefully she'll find a way :yep: Some YouTube tutorials and things are good with ideas for hair too, so maybe you could check that out..

    I know what you mean, I have those times too, where it'd be good if I didn't care, but I still do...
    Thanks for the links and advice!

    It's truly horrible when that happens, but there's probably not much we can do about it.
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    (Original post by Keyser-Soze)
    Thanks for the links and advice!

    It's truly horrible when that happens, but there's probably not much we can do about it.
    That's true. You're welcome, good luck with everything
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    That's true. You're welcome, good luck with everything
    Thanks, you too!
 
 
 
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