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    Almost every male does, unless they don't find them attractive


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    (Original post by zippity.doodah)
    well that makes no sense - why wouldn't you instinctively look for sex/relations in an attractive female friend? I'm not saying you actively *want* to ruin a friendship, but come on, the feelings will exist if you have a friendship with them like you do with your male friends if they don't fall under those exceptions
    Because I am past the point where I am sexually attracted to every attractive woman.


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    (Original post by LightBlueSoldier)
    Because I am past the point where I am sexually attracted to every attractive woman.


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    what other kind of attractiveness is there to you other sexual attractiveness?
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    (Original post by zippity.doodah)
    what other kind of attractiveness is there to you other sexual attractiveness?
    Such a tsr post


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    (Original post by LightBlueSoldier)
    Such a tsr post


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    honestly! I want to know
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    (Original post by zippity.doodah)
    honestly! I want to know
    I know that some girls are attractive even though I have no interest in sleeping with them.


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    (Original post by LightBlueSoldier)
    I know that some girls are attractive even though I have no interest in sleeping with them.


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    why wouldn't you want to have sex with an attractive girl? I'm serious - I'm confused about how you're feeling :lol: if you're saying she makes you think she's attractive on account of her hetero-effect on you, what about her makes sex looks negative to you?
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    (Original post by zippity.doodah)
    why wouldn't you want to have sex with an attractive girl? I'm serious - I'm confused about how you're feeling :lol: if you're saying she makes you think she's attractive on account of her hetero-effect on you, what about her makes sex looks negative to you?
    I imagine once you've had sex enough you'll understand the feeling.


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    (Original post by LightBlueSoldier)
    I imagine once you've had sex enough you'll understand the feeling.


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    :smug: you can't tell me.
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    (Original post by zippity.doodah)
    :smug: you can't tell me.
    It basically boils down to the fact that the novelty of sex wears off.


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    (Original post by LightBlueSoldier)
    It basically boils down to the fact that the novelty of sex wears off.


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    (Original post by pshah2)
    Met a few girls on my course and at work. They keep cropping up into fantasies during my summer daydreams...

    Is this normal?

    Do guys tend to fantasise about their girl friends?
    For me, it has become like respiration or cellular growth. Something so commonplace and automatic that I barely notice it any more.




    (Original post by zippity.doodah)
    I did mention the exceptions, well there are more than I already said, so I'll list them all:
    1) ugly girls
    2) family members
    3) a friend's girlfriend
    4) a lesbian
    5) a girlfriend's female friends
    Apart from the family members, none of those categories escape my scrutiny.
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    (Original post by zippity.doodah)
    lol let's be honest, fellas, the only female friends we have are the ones we want to end up ****ing one day, when they open themselves to it, unless they aren't somewhat attractive.
    and girls, you should be extremely suspicous if you are attractive and a keen male friend of yours is calling you "a good friend~" because men's form of friendship with their heterosexuality is called "attraction". of course, to males, this attraction would be completely inert because there's no instinct of ****ing that person...
    obviously girls are usually the fussier gender with regards to sex, which makes them different to guys, because really, we'll **** pretty much anybody we find "somewhat attractive"...we're not fussy at all.
    Please speak for yourself. I think you think you know more about what goes through other people's minds than you really do.
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    (Original post by ApeMob)
    Isn't it weird to fantasize about someone you know. Kinda take the fantasy out of it. Too close for comfort :afraid: I'd be str8 up awks around a guy if he told me he did that.
    No way, celebrities etc are practically aliens, it's just so far removed from reality it's impossible to suspend disbelief enough to fancy them. I expect you will know a girl who has slept with at least a minor celebrity but just you try finding a boy who has done the same.

    Men are not hypergamous and therefore like to fantasise about girls for whom they are at least a candidate for dominant male. For that relationship to exist that that means they have to be part of the same tribe as you (friendship or acquaintance group).

    Obviously it's nothing like that black and white in real life but it sounds like a very good reason for why men tend towards the friends rather than celebrities end of the scale.
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    (Original post by scrotgrot)
    No way, celebrities etc are practically aliens, it's just so far removed from reality it's impossible to suspend disbelief enough to fancy them. I expect you will know a girl who has slept with at least a minor celebrity but just you try finding a boy who has done the same.

    Men are not hypergamous and therefore like to fantasise about girls for whom they are at least a candidate for dominant male. For that relationship to exist that that means they have to be part of the same tribe as you (friendship or acquaintance group).

    Obviously it's nothing like that black and white in real life but it sounds like a very good reason for why men tend towards the friends rather than celebrities end of the scale.
    Well this makes me very uncomfortable now. lol I'm no prude but it's just I've had nasty surprises from male acquaintances. It makes you question people you don't want to question knowing this.
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    (Original post by ApeMob)
    Well this makes me very uncomfortable now. lol I'm no prude but it's just I've had nasty surprises from male acquaintances. It makes you question people you don't want to question knowing this.
    I get that it feels weird and creepy but it really is a compliment more than anything else don't be afraid of male sexuality, they haven't done anything wrong.

    I will say that with close female friends with whom you might have heart-to-hearts they are not sexy at all, I expect they come more under the sister category. I think what I said applies more to peripheral friends and acquaintances where really the friendship is probably more about latent attraction than anything else.

    Btw I think they were morons for telling you haha. They should know that a girl is going to find that creepy. I expect if it were the other way round they themselves would probably just laugh it off and take an ego boost from it and they probably thought you'd feel the same.
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    No and it's Ramadhan. :lolwut:
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    Always.

    No harm in it as long as YOU are normal.
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    (Original post by anosmianAcrimony)
    Please speak for yourself. I think you think you know more about what goes through other people's minds than you really do.
    there was a scientific study that confirmed that men very rarely see their female friends as just friends, actually.
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    (Original post by zippity.doodah)
    there was a scientific study that confirmed that men very rarely see their female friends as just friends, actually.
    Citations or it never happened.
 
 
 
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