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    (Original post by claret_n_blue)
    Hi, I'm 22 yr old Indian guy and I've pretty much been through exactly what you just described so I know how you feel lol and how I changed it and am still trying to change things. I don't have time to write loads here at the moment because I need to go out but if you want someone to chat to properly then feel free to drop me a PM



    Now am I talking about all White people? No, but I currently live in the deep south (been here for 5 years now) and I have noticed this whenever I hang out with too many Whites. When it comes to hanging out with Asians and Hispanics I never have this issue, I NEVER EVER have this issue when it comes to hanging out with Black people. Now I have decided that I will not live in a majority White neighborhood ever because of what I have heard from my Black friends. I act normal around all groups but White people always give me a tough time whenever I hang out with them and they are the majority.

    I don't hate White people, I have some White friends that are cool but in most cases I just have a tough time enjoying myself when I hang out with a lot of White people.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    In honest opinion, I'm not here fishing for compliments or sympathy, this is a genuine problem that I'm having and some genuine advice would reassure me.
    I'm a British born Chinese girl, 5'3 and I wouldn't say I was ugly but I'm definitely not pretty - just below average.
    So having been living in the UK for all my life, I've always been a victim of racial bullying that was until I got into university. I think being called 'chinky' n all the **** has literally lowered my self esteem. And I've always felt ugly next to my friends whereby guys always choose them over me like being partners or such. i was always the one left with no partner until a friend's would feel sorry for me and be my partner. I've never really had a boyfriend, been asked out or even kissed. I've tried internet dating, but realistically, I findthey don't work out. I have penty of male friends but I always find myself friendzoned or they end up liking my friend's. I am a sociable person but its like guys never ask for my number or show any interest. I'm already 20 so I'm beginning to feel like there's something wrong with the way I look. I'm fashionable, don't wear tonns of makeup, play games, watch anime, smart. I'm currently studying a respectable degree, I drink n all that but I've literally got nothing and its making me feel like ill forever be alone.
    There must be a reason why I'm getting no guys. I'm not desperate, its the fact that everyone around me can easily get someone...I've liked a few guys but they just don't return the feelings and I know it can't be forced.
    I've had worse. I can't even speak the language anymore. (I still understand it in chunks) That's even more disgraceful than not having a partner. Not being able to identify with your own people(s).

    (Yes, I am Chinese, born in a country where Chinese is the main language)
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    In honest opinion, I'm not here fishing for compliments or sympathy, this is a genuine problem that I'm having and some genuine advice would reassure me.
    I'm a British born Chinese girl, 5'3 and I wouldn't say I was ugly but I'm definitely not pretty - just below average.
    So having been living in the UK for all my life, I've always been a victim of racial bullying that was until I got into university. I think being called 'chinky' n all the **** has literally lowered my self esteem. And I've always felt ugly next to my friends whereby guys always choose them over me like being partners or such. i was always the one left with no partner until a friend's would feel sorry for me and be my partner. I've never really had a boyfriend, been asked out or even kissed. I've tried internet dating, but realistically, I findthey don't work out. I have penty of male friends but I always find myself friendzoned or they end up liking my friend's. I am a sociable person but its like guys never ask for my number or show any interest. I'm already 20 so I'm beginning to feel like there's something wrong with the way I look. I'm fashionable, don't wear tonns of makeup, play games, watch anime, smart. I'm currently studying a respectable degree, I drink n all that but I've literally got nothing and its making me feel like ill forever be alone.
    There must be a reason why I'm getting no guys. I'm not desperate, its the fact that everyone around me can easily get someone...I've liked a few guys but they just don't return the feelings and I know it can't be forced.
    I have chinese friends, I spend time in Hong Kong, I love it there back in the uk now and i prefer asian people. I find it difficult for me to talk to british people for a long time as it always seems to end up being about alcohol and football.

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    (Original post by Flyingaround)
    I have chinese friends, I spend time in Hong Kong, I love it there back in the uk now and i prefer asian people. I find it difficult for me to talk to british people for a long time as it always seems to end up being about alcohol and football.

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    But this is because you have issues stick to your own kind ..

    Dont marry britisher women, they have slept with blacks and have sexually transmitted diseases

    They will also divorce you and take away your money

    It is easier to hire them as call girl escort, and wear a condom
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    (Original post by Anonymas)
    But this is because you have issues stick to your own kind ..

    Dont marry britisher women, they have slept with blacks and have sexually transmitted diseases

    They will also divorce you and take away your money

    It is easier to hire them as call girl escort, and wear a condom
    I don't have issues, well actually you also said you have issues. I just know that when i go singapore, hong kong, people actually smile and talk to me and even just watching the way people are on the train, it's a whole different world to the uk, people aren't afraid to show that their enjoying something like people in the uk, they try to hide it in order to act cool. It's annoying.
    It's really not my fault that people accept me more there, and i am happy for it and i want to go back.
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    This is just a false thread. All these stereotypes about white people being racist on dates is lying. Trolling.

    White people are the easiest to get on with outside of your own people. All other ethnic groups come with so much baggage and silly conformity.

    I know lots of people dating white people. My friend is married to a white guy, she's indian, her sister is married to a white guy too, no problems. She told me a funny story about how her husband made a joke about Indian people using knives and forks that came out completely wrong, but she knew he was nervous and she was pissing herself laughing. If white people, oh my gosh, are not 100% perfect on date it doesn't mean that are being racist. Stop being so precious you morons.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This is just a false thread. All these stereotypes about white people being racist on dates is lying. Trolling.

    White people are the easiest to get on with outside of your own people. All other ethnic groups come with so much baggage and silly conformity.

    I know lots of people dating white people. My friend is married to a white guy, she's indian, her sister is married to a white guy too, no problems. She told me a funny story about how her husband made a joke about Indian people using knives and forks that came out completely wrong, but she knew he was nervous and she was pissing herself laughing. If white people, oh my gosh, are not 100% perfect on date it doesn't mean that are being racist. Stop being so precious you morons.

    This is not a false thread, everything that has been said on this thread is true I guess truth hurts!
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    (Original post by Anonymas)
    Same here but I'm a Sri lankan girl

    1. When I have hung around too many Whites, they have often made too many comments about my race, asked too much about my culture, made false assumptions about it and then made some "suggestions" about what is wrong with my culture and how the British culture is better.

    2. When I do hang around too many White people, I find that they are very sensitive, especially the men. I remember one time when a friend asked me if I would date a White man, I said no because I am not attracted to them. Two White guys behind me called me a racist and said that no one would want to date "curry trash" anyways.

    3. I find that when I hang around too many Whites they try their best to control my views. I know when a White girl asked me about my views on dogfighting, I said "hmm no comment, guess those people need something better to do with their time". Well she said "yea you better oppose it because it is wrong and by all means you need to join groups and fight out against such an atrocity, it is just wrong".

    4. White women have a very tough time taking No for an answer. I am currently dating a Latino and this White guy who asked me out months ago (I denied him) keeps on bothering me and she has actually managed to convince herself that I like her when I don't. She tries her best to intervene when my girlfriend and I are making out or talking, she disrupts the conversation and keeps trying to talk to me and when I ignore her she gets a fit.

    5. White people say some of the most racist things about my race and culture without even knowing that they are being racist "you cow worshipers" and sometimes they call my people "slum people", according to them they are just "joking" and not being racist.

    6. White people are very very very nosy about my personal life. I mean I hate it, when I hang with Black people and they ask me what type of girls I like, I answer and they say "ayy brah you got yo taste". White people? Well they say the following "I mean yea but you are being close minded, you don't have to like Indian girls I mean you should give Blondes and Redheads a chance because you just never know, being like you are being will get you nowhere in life and I mean we need to diversify and everything".
    I can confirm this
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    (Original post by Mirouko)
    I'm an Indian living in the UK I had loads of racism from jealous people,it's the white lower class,they are jealous of our success we are doing better than them in their own country .So don't worry about it and study well.

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    In honest opinion, I'm not here fishing for compliments or sympathy, this is a genuine problem that I'm having and some genuine advice would reassure me.
    I'm a British born Chinese girl, 5'3 and I wouldn't say I was ugly but I'm definitely not pretty - just below average.
    So having been living in the UK for all my life, I've always been a victim of racial bullying that was until I got into university. I think being called 'chinky' n all the **** has literally lowered my self esteem. And I've always felt ugly next to my friends whereby guys always choose them over me like being partners or such. i was always the one left with no partner until a friend's would feel sorry for me and be my partner. I've never really had a boyfriend, been asked out or even kissed. I've tried internet dating, but realistically, I findthey don't work out. I have penty of male friends but I always find myself friendzoned or they end up liking my friend's. I am a sociable person but its like guys never ask for my number or show any interest. I'm already 20 so I'm beginning to feel like there's something wrong with the way I look. I'm fashionable, don't wear tonns of makeup, play games, watch anime, smart. I'm currently studying a respectable degree, I drink n all that but I've literally got nothing and its making me feel like ill forever be alone.
    There must be a reason why I'm getting no guys. I'm not desperate, its the fact that everyone around me can easily get someone...I've liked a few guys but they just don't return the feelings and I know it can't be forced.

    Just ignore them and befriend only other Asian people and study well.
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      (Original post by Anonymas)
      Same here but I'm a Sri lankan girl

      1. When I have hung around too many Whites, they have often made too many comments about my race, asked too much about my culture, made false assumptions about it and then made some "suggestions" about what is wrong with my culture and how the British culture is better.

      2. When I do hang around too many White people, I find that they are very sensitive, especially the men. I remember one time when a friend asked me if I would date a White man, I said no because I am not attracted to them. Two White guys behind me called me a racist and said that no one would want to date "curry trash" anyways.

      3. I find that when I hang around too many Whites they try their best to control my views. I know when a White girl asked me about my views on dogfighting, I said "hmm no comment, guess those people need something better to do with their time". Well she said "yea you better oppose it because it is wrong and by all means you need to join groups and fight out against such an atrocity, it is just wrong".

      4. White women have a very tough time taking No for an answer. I am currently dating a Latino and this White guy who asked me out months ago (I denied him) keeps on bothering me and she has actually managed to convince herself that I like her when I don't. She tries her best to intervene when my girlfriend and I are making out or talking, she disrupts the conversation and keeps trying to talk to me and when I ignore her she gets a fit.

      5. White people say some of the most racist things about my race and culture without even knowing that they are being racist "you cow worshipers" and sometimes they call my people "slum people", according to them they are just "joking" and not being racist.

      6. White people are very very very nosy about my personal life. I mean I hate it, when I hang with Black people and they ask me what type of girls I like, I answer and they say "ayy brah you got yo taste". White people? Well they say the following "I mean yea but you are being close minded, you don't have to like Indian girls I mean you should give Blondes and Redheads a chance because you just never know, being like you are being will get you nowhere in life and I mean we need to diversify and everything".
      It's awful that people have been that racist to you, it really is. But that entire post is so racist to white people. Obviously, you've had really bad experiences with SOME white people, but that sweeping racial generalisation disgusts me tbh.
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        (Original post by Anonymous)
        In honest opinion, I'm not here fishing for compliments or sympathy, this is a genuine problem that I'm having and some genuine advice would reassure me.
        I'm a British born Chinese girl, 5'3 and I wouldn't say I was ugly but I'm definitely not pretty - just below average.
        So having been living in the UK for all my life, I've always been a victim of racial bullying that was until I got into university. I think being called 'chinky' n all the **** has literally lowered my self esteem. And I've always felt ugly next to my friends whereby guys always choose them over me like being partners or such. i was always the one left with no partner until a friend's would feel sorry for me and be my partner. I've never really had a boyfriend, been asked out or even kissed. I've tried internet dating, but realistically, I findthey don't work out. I have penty of male friends but I always find myself friendzoned or they end up liking my friend's. I am a sociable person but its like guys never ask for my number or show any interest. I'm already 20 so I'm beginning to feel like there's something wrong with the way I look. I'm fashionable, don't wear tonns of makeup, play games, watch anime, smart. I'm currently studying a respectable degree, I drink n all that but I've literally got nothing and its making me feel like ill forever be alone.
        There must be a reason why I'm getting no guys. I'm not desperate, its the fact that everyone around me can easily get someone...I've liked a few guys but they just don't return the feelings and I know it can't be forced.
        OP, it sounds like you have it all tbh. Popularity, a social life, intelligence and style.

        I know you're worried cos you're 20 and haven't had any experience/attention from the opposite sex, but most guys your age are just so immature you're lucky you haven't! If you do end up meeting someone you like, be friendly as usual but maybe a little flirty too and see how it goes...
        In time you'll meet someone, for now, stop worrying about it and enjoy yourself!
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        (Original post by Flyingaround)
        I have chinese friends, I spend time in Hong Kong, I love it there back in the uk now and i prefer asian people. I find it difficult for me to talk to british people for a long time as it always seems to end up being about alcohol and football.

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        Self hating at the best!

        Please don't tarnish us...
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        (Original post by Flyingaround)
        I don't have issues, well actually you also said you have issues. I just know that when i go singapore, hong kong, people actually smile and talk to me and even just watching the way people are on the train, it's a whole different world to the uk, people aren't afraid to show that their enjoying something like people in the uk, they try to hide it in order to act cool. It's annoying.
        It's really not my fault that people accept me more there, and i am happy for it and i want to go back.

        if you love us so much you would know - we are NOT Asians, We are Orientals

        Women shi dong fang ren bu shi yindu !!! Wo pai pai pai !!!
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        (Original post by Anonymous)
        In honest opinion, I'm not here fishing for compliments or sympathy, this is a genuine problem that I'm having and some genuine advice would reassure me.
        I'm a British born Chinese girl, 5'3 and I wouldn't say I was ugly but I'm definitely not pretty - just below average.
        So having been living in the UK for all my life, I've always been a victim of racial bullying that was until I got into university. I think being called 'chinky' n all the **** has literally lowered my self esteem. And I've always felt ugly next to my friends whereby guys always choose them over me like being partners or such. i was always the one left with no partner until a friend's would feel sorry for me and be my partner. I've never really had a boyfriend, been asked out or even kissed. I've tried internet dating, but realistically, I findthey don't work out. I have penty of male friends but I always find myself friendzoned or they end up liking my friend's. I am a sociable person but its like guys never ask for my number or show any interest. I'm already 20 so I'm beginning to feel like there's something wrong with the way I look. I'm fashionable, don't wear tonns of makeup, play games, watch anime, smart. I'm currently studying a respectable degree, I drink n all that but I've literally got nothing and its making me feel like ill forever be alone.
        There must be a reason why I'm getting no guys. I'm not desperate, its the fact that everyone around me can easily get someone...I've liked a few guys but they just don't return the feelings and I know it can't be forced.




        ^^ Nice girl complex :cool:
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        (Original post by Anonymas)
        Same here but I'm a Sri lankan girl

        1. When I have hung around too many Whites, they have often made too many comments about my race, asked too much about my culture, made false assumptions about it and then made some "suggestions" about what is wrong with my culture and how the British culture is better.

        2. When I do hang around too many White people, I find that they are very sensitive, especially the men. I remember one time when a friend asked me if I would date a White man, I said no because I am not attracted to them. Two White guys behind me called me a racist and said that no one would want to date "curry trash" anyways.

        3. I find that when I hang around too many Whites they try their best to control my views. I know when a White girl asked me about my views on dogfighting, I said "hmm no comment, guess those people need something better to do with their time". Well she said "yea you better oppose it because it is wrong and by all means you need to join groups and fight out against such an atrocity, it is just wrong".

        4. White women have a very tough time taking No for an answer. I am currently dating a Latino and this White guy who asked me out months ago (I denied him) keeps on bothering me and she has actually managed to convince herself that I like her when I don't. She tries her best to intervene when my girlfriend and I are making out or talking, she disrupts the conversation and keeps trying to talk to me and when I ignore her she gets a fit.

        5. White people say some of the most racist things about my race and culture without even knowing that they are being racist "you cow worshipers" and sometimes they call my people "slum people", according to them they are just "joking" and not being racist.

        6. White people are very very very nosy about my personal life. I mean I hate it, when I hang with Black people and they ask me what type of girls I like, I answer and they say "ayy brah you got yo taste". White people? Well they say the following "I mean yea but you are being close minded, you don't have to like Indian girls I mean you should give Blondes and Redheads a chance because you just never know, being like you are being will get you nowhere in life and I mean we need to diversify and everything".

        Professor Oak: Are you a boy or a girl?
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        (Original post by Meenglishnogood)
        :confused: and you are not?
        She could be adopted, a step or a half sibling
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        My best friend is from China; lots of girls think he's cute in an asian sort of way, but he gives of no vibes that he is interested in a relationship. Maybe it's something similar with you, maybe be more open. : )
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        (Original post by Clip)
        Even over the internet I can taste the salt of your bitter tears.

        As long as I've been on TSR, I've seen you trot this tired line out over and over and over again. It's completely at odds with reality, and really quite an offensive opinion.

        In the past, you've even claimed that there is no such thing as white woman / Chinese dude marriages - which is clearly nonsense.

        When are you going to get over it? You're just poisoning your own psyche and possibly your future happiness.
        Actually the people who claim that there are loads of white girls who would date or fancy Oriental guys are the ones at odds with reality.

        I will get over it when I actually see such couples in real life.
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        I'm UK Chinese too

        Relax don't panic, it will get better
       
       
       
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