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    Have you ever had a crush on someone of that age that you know in real life, as opposed to filmstars/musicians/etc.?

    As for whether or not you have "a chance"... There's no nice way of saying that men of that age will probably see you as short-term fun rather than anything romantic or serious. It depends entirely on how young you look, as well. I dated a 30 year old when I was 16, and whilst it seemed fun and cool at the time, in retrospect I question why he couldn't get anyone his own age. When I was 19/20, my boyfriends were all in their late 30's.

    Age is also fairly arbitrary. Other than giving you expectations of what vague stage of life somebody is at, it tells you very little... So if you're one of those "too mature for guys my age"-girls (I used to think that way too; I'm not telling you off), please remember that being older does not necessarily mean someone is wiser, more mature, emotionally aware, or responsible.
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    (Original post by ilem)
    I take it you're 'too mature' for guys your age? :laugh:
    No. I'm sure there are plenty of mature guys my age. I'm just attracted to older guys more so.
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    (Original post by Inazuma)
    #did not answer my Q

    therefore quite clearly just a poser.

    oops.
    I didn't see your post.

    I don't think you need to be approached by somebody to know who you find attractive.
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    (Original post by TSR Mustafa)
    Yeah but you would enjoy having sexual relations with men who could pass for your father. if that doesn't creep you out at your age...
    No, because they wouldn't pass for my father. I wouldn't be having 'sexual relations' at my age anyway.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    OP, you'll find that people are a lot nicer IRL when it's harder to troll.

    Thank you
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I didn't see your post.

    I don't think you need to be approached by somebody to know who you find attractive.
    Plenty of young girls like older men by having watched johnnny depp, hugh grant, brad pitt, george clooney etc.
    It doesn't mean they all 'like older men'
    Finding someone simply attractive is irrelevant. I find some ladies attractive but I'm still straight.

    Hence it doesn't count unless one has acted on it before, so I'd still put you in the first category which is pretty much all young females..
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    (Original post by vader9280)
    They'll try to figure out the reason why you're attracted to older men, on a subconscious level.

    Being attracted to people of a certain age is not a sexual orientation so you can't really compare it being gay (which cannot change). So therapy might actually change this preference of yours.
    Thank you, but who said I want to change it?
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    (Original post by keturah)
    How old would you go?
    50's, I think.
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    (Original post by Aivicore)
    Have you ever had a crush on someone of that age that you know in real life, as opposed to filmstars/musicians/etc.?

    As for whether or not you have "a chance"... There's no nice way of saying that men of that age will probably see you as short-term fun rather than anything romantic or serious. It depends entirely on how young you look, as well. I dated a 30 year old when I was 16, and whilst it seemed fun and cool at the time, in retrospect I question why he couldn't get anyone his own age. When I was 19/20, my boyfriends were all in their late 30's.

    Age is also fairly arbitrary. Other than giving you expectations of what vague stage of life somebody is at, it tells you very little... So if you're one of those "too mature for guys my age"-girls (I used to think that way too; I'm not telling you off), please remember that being older does not necessarily mean someone is wiser, more mature, emotionally aware, or responsible.
    Thank you. A crush, no. But attraction, yes. Teachers, people I've seen about, the likes.
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    (Original post by Inazuma)
    Plenty of young girls like older men by having watched johnnny depp, hugh grant, brad pitt, george clooney etc.
    It doesn't mean they all 'like older men'
    Finding someone simply attractive is irrelevant. I find some ladies attractive but I'm still straight.

    Hence it doesn't count unless one has acted on it before, so I'd still put you in the first category which is pretty much all young females..

    I disagree with 'it doesn't count unless one has acted on it before'. I think you know who your attracted to, regardless. 'Finding somebody simply attractive is irrelevant' that doesn't make sense. This is all about attraction.
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    Tbh I find couples in relationships involving a big age gap to look a bit repulsive. It is just odd seeing a 40-50 year old with a girl under 20. People make assumptions, is she an escort? Is she looking for his money? Did he groom her?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I disagree with 'it doesn't count unless one has acted on it before'. I think you know who your attracted to, regardless. 'Finding somebody simply attractive is irrelevant' that doesn't make sense. This is all about attraction.
    It's one thing to find someone attractive though and another completely to do anything.

    As I said, many of my friends might agree an older guy is good looking and attractive, but they'd never act on it. So irrelevant really.
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    (Original post by noshahmad)
    Its okay if she was like 25 but right now I think that's quite gross

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    Are you a Muslim? Is a 50yr old with a 9yr old not gross?
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    Older guys are often hot, it's just because they seem very experienced and they can still be good looking but they are super confident and don't have some of the hang ups and silly behaviour that younger guys often show, plus they are often more cool about showing their feelings and they can be more honest and not so easily embarassed.

    However, I would urge OP to look to try guys just a few years older rather than old enough to be her Dad. If you are only 16, a lot of older men will just want to use and abuse you and chuck you away like a used toy when done with. It's totally inevitable that you just won't mean that much to them in the long run, you won't be interesting or experienced enough yourself to hold their attention and interest.

    I'm assuming it's not just about money and safety. It can seem quite a thrill to have a successful older man being attracted to you and there's a definite OMG, what if, kind of thing to it. Nine times out of ten though it doesn't work for the girl and you just end up feeling used.
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    Gross.
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    (Original post by Fullofsurprises)
    Older guys are often hot, it's just because they seem very experienced and they can still be good looking but they are super confident and don't have some of the hang ups and silly behaviour that younger guys often show, plus they are often more cool about showing their feelings and they can be more honest and not so easily embarassed.

    However, I would urge OP to look to try guys just a few years older rather than old enough to be her Dad. If you are only 16, a lot of older men will just want to use and abuse you and chuck you away like a used toy when done with. It's totally inevitable that you just won't mean that much to them in the long run, you won't be interesting or experienced enough yourself to hold their attention and interest.

    I'm assuming it's not just about money and safety. It can seem quite a thrill to have a successful older man being attracted to you and there's a definite OMG, what if, kind of thing to it. Nine times out of ten though it doesn't work for the girl and you just end up feeling used.
    For a younger guy this would be branded as arrogance :lol:
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    (Original post by Tom_Ford)
    Tbh I find couples in relationships involving a big age gap to look a bit repulsive. It is just odd seeing a 40-50 year old with a girl under 20. People make assumptions, is she an escort? Is she looking for his money? Did he groom her?
    Fair enough.
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    (Original post by Fullofsurprises)
    Older guys are often hot, it's just because they seem very experienced and they can still be good looking but they are super confident and don't have some of the hang ups and silly behaviour that younger guys often show, plus they are often more cool about showing their feelings and they can be more honest and not so easily embarassed.

    However, I would urge OP to look to try guys just a few years older rather than old enough to be her Dad. If you are only 16, a lot of older men will just want to use and abuse you and chuck you away like a used toy when done with. It's totally inevitable that you just won't mean that much to them in the long run, you won't be interesting or experienced enough yourself to hold their attention and interest.

    I'm assuming it's not just about money and safety. It can seem quite a thrill to have a successful older man being attracted to you and there's a definite OMG, what if, kind of thing to it. Nine times out of ten though it doesn't work for the girl and you just end up feeling used.

    Thank you!
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    (Original post by Tom_Ford)
    For a younger guy this would be branded as arrogance :lol:
    I suppose that's exactly it - older men can be arrogant and it's sexy. :love: Young guys often just look stupidly unrealistic doing it.
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    Just you wait when they have to pull out the Viagra pills...
 
 
 
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