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    (Original post by cathyi)
    BullViagra wonderfully demonstrates what I stated earlier, that when a man sees that a girl is desperate for him, he treats her like S**t immediately after.

    This is why I asked and am begging you not to send a second message if the first one remains unanswered!
    Don't worry, I won't! If he hasn't got the decency to reply to my first message then why should I bother sending a second?
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    When my ex contacted me after we broke up, honestly I was too hurt and angry to contact him back for a while but i did eventually send a civil 'hope everything's okay' text. Just wait and see. Even though sometimes I want to talk to him more than anything, at the same time I don't and won't because of how things ended... it's a weird one, but I don't necessarily think he didn't because he doesn't care. Breaking no contact feels like going back to square one of the origional heartache of the break up, so that could be a part of it and I know was a big reason for me.
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    (Original post by Summerhurryup)
    When my ex contacted me after we broke up, honestly I was too hurt and angry to contact him back for a while but i did eventually send a civil 'hope everything's okay' text. Just wait and see. Even though sometimes I want to talk to him more than anything, at the same time I don't and won't because of how things ended... it's a weird one, but I don't necessarily think he didn't because he doesn't care. Breaking no contact feels like going back to square one of the origional heartache of the break up, so that could be a part of it and I know was a big reason for me.
    To me, it feels like he doesn't care. If he cared then he would reply. I feel like we are never going to contact each other ever again.
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    Try very hard to move on.
    I had a messy break up with my ex, accidentally saw him a year later and things seemed fine then got into a heated argument later and we're not talking again.
    However I'm still very much in love with him even after he basically told me he went out with me because he was bored and had nothing better to do and we've been broken up much longer than we dated.
    Things happen for a reason, you guys broke up, he won't reply to you, it's obviously not meant to be. You might find it to be one of the best things that happened to you when you look back on it in a few months/years.
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    Never say never. I have had exes contact me years after the break up, looking to "hook up" again. It felt great telling them it was too late as I had since UPGRADED.

    Forwards ever, backwards never.................
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    Try very hard to move on.
    I had a messy break up with my ex, accidentally saw him a year later and things seemed fine then got into a heated argument later and we're not talking again.
    However I'm still very much in love with him even after he basically told me he went out with me because he was bored and had nothing better to do and we've been broken up much longer than we dated.
    Things happen for a reason, you guys broke up, he won't reply to you, it's obviously not meant to be. You might find it to be one of the best things that happened to you when you look back on it in a few months/years.
    I hope so! We had some great times together but maybe it is for the best.
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    I hope so! We had some great times together but maybe it is for the best.
    I thought we had great times too, thought we were such a good couple in most aspects but clearly not
    It takes so much strength every day for me to not call or message him and apologise, I know it ended up being a really unhealthy relationship and the relationship was as someone said "beneficial to him" which is really **** as I still like him so much.
    I make all these excuses to call/message him such as even though I don't want to get back together (total lie) I don't want to leave the last conversation we may ever have in an argument and not ending nicely.
    The only thing that stops me is how I remember our last conversation ended even after we had like a year to cool down, didn't contact each other during that time and we only met up by chance
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    I thought we had great times too, thought we were such a good couple in most aspects but clearly not
    It takes so much strength every day for me to not call or message him and apologise, I know it ended up being a really unhealthy relationship and the relationship was as someone said "beneficial to him" which is really **** as I still like him so much.
    I make all these excuses to call/message him such as even though I don't want to get back together (total lie) I don't want to leave the last conversation we may ever have in an argument and not ending nicely.
    The only thing that stops me is how I remember our last conversation ended even after we had like a year to cool down, didn't contact each other during that time and we only met up by chance
    Ah, that sucks. I kind of contacted him so we could leave it on a good note rather than an argument. I went to university and got caught up in it all and now all I can think about is him.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So, I went to university in September and during this time, me and my boyfriend broke up. It was a bad break up, which involved a lot of arguing and pain. After a month of no contact, I started to miss him so, tonight, I sent him a friendly whatsapp message saying: "Hey, how are you?"

    It's been over an hour now and he has not responded, I know he has read it from when he has last been seen online. I feel like a complete idiot now as I've been completely ignored by him. We were together for over two years (since I was 15, now I am 18) and he was my first boyfriend, first everything so he means a lot to me. I don't know if to just move on or to send another message. Please help :confused:
    Quite simply, by not replying he is doing the best possible thing he can do for himself because after a break up the best thing you can do to help you get over it and move on is cease absolutely all possible contact. Anything else is a step backwards that will cause progress to slow.

    So take a leaf out of his book and cut all contact with him; delete his number, facebook, everything. It's hard and it is a big step but trust me it will make things much easier for you in the long run.
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    Anonymous 1 and Anonymous 4,

    Men were created to be hunters. They only take pleasure in the chase, the struggle and finally the kill!

    They take no pleasure in having food served to them easy, while they are chilling under the shade of a tree.

    You must make them want you. In other words, you must act like you don't give a s**t if they are or ain't around.

    They will never appreciate you otherwise!
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    Ah, that sucks. I kind of contacted him so we could leave it on a good note rather than an argument. I went to university and got caught up in it all and now all I can think about is him.
    I really want to leave things on a good note even if we never ever contact each other again. But then I have no idea how the conversation would go and it could end up even worse than our last one and I'll constantly be thinking, try one more time to contact him so it'll end nicely. Our last conversation that ended horribly he showed to all his friends and they all commented/posted these annoying remarks about what I said.
    Everyone says it's the things you don't do that you regret but so far every possible contact I've had with him I have regretted by following that advice.
    He's still all I can think about sadly but I know deep down I'll never trust him and when I hear his voice, I feel like I'm falling in love with him all over again and I just melt and forget most of what I want to say.
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    Try to get out and distract yourself and live your life. I know it won't necessarily mean having a great day every day (but he doesn't need to know that). The more you are out there living life and doing things that make you happy the more he will notice that you don't need him, and even more to the point, you will begin to see that life can be great without him. Contacting him means you were reaching out, and you still care about him and you showed him that, and that is never a bad thing, or anything to be embarrassed about. In fact it would be stranger if you didn't care after two years. People deal with it in funny ways though, and not replying isn't always indifference. The fact that I moved city as well and felt like I'd never see him again meant even just playing with the idea of getting back together or keeping in contact hurt so much more because I knew that it couldn't work.
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    (Original post by Summerhurryup)
    Try to get out and distract yourself and live your life. I know it won't necessarily mean having a great day every day (but he doesn't need to know that). The more you are out there living life and doing things that make you happy the more he will notice that you don't need him, and even more to the point, you will begin to see that life can be great without him. Contacting him means you were reaching out, and you still care about him and you showed him that, and that is never a bad thing, or anything to be embarrassed about. In fact it would be stranger if you didn't care after two years. People deal with it in funny ways though, and not replying isn't always indifference. The fact that I moved city as well and felt like I'd never see him again meant even just playing with the idea of getting back together or keeping in contact hurt so much more because I knew that it couldn't work.
    I was reaching out, showing that I still cared and it's all been thrown back in my face. It hurts. But, maybe I should just move on.
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    (Original post by cathyi)
    Anonymous 1 and Anonymous 4,

    Men were created to be hunters. They only take pleasure in the chase, the struggle and finally the kill!

    They take no pleasure in having food served to them easy, while they are chilling under the shade of a tree.

    You must make them want you. In other words, you must act like you don't give a s**t if they are or ain't around.

    They will never appreciate you otherwise!
    Absolute nonsense.
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    (Original post by Lacesso)
    Absolute nonsense.

    You are Nonsense!
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    Yeah, I think you should try to move on. If it is really meant to be, then it wouldn't be this hard. Take heart in the fact that at least you haven't left things bitterly. Now, you should try to cut contact. It really is the best way to move on, in a kind of self-preservation way, as someone else mentioned earlier.
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    (Original post by Summerhurryup)
    Yeah, I think you should try to move on. If it is really meant to be, then it wouldn't be this hard. Take heart in the fact that at least you haven't left things bitterly. Now, you should try to cut contact. It really is the best way to move on, in a kind of self-preservation way, as someone else mentioned earlier.
    Yes, I don't want to force it.
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    I am signing out. Gotta sleep..........

    Anonymous 1,

    I wish you the best of luck. If this man is not the one, I am certain before too long you will meet the one.

    Treat him good, and he will cherish you right back.

    Take care.....
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    good luck! It does gets easier!
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    You need to move on.

    I did the same with my ex, it ended badly, I couldnt stop thinking about her, a few months of no contact later I sent her a friendly message and well....she totally ignored it. Took me a bit more time but in the end I realised that the past is the past and it was over and I had to stop feeling sorry for myself and thinking about her, and I finally got over her. Now I have mega upgraded and am with someone 1000 times better.
 
 
 
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