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    (Original post by fbrep2012)
    What is success to you? What would you have to achieve or accomplish in your career or in your life to be able to say that you are successful...
    Once I've got my degree, got a really good job that I enjoy, found someone, had kids .


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    I'm more concerned with being able to say "I am happy"
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    (Original post by ChaoticButterfly)
    I'm more concerned with being able to say "I am happy"



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    (Original post by _Charlotte15)
    Why?


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    Are you a robot?
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    (Original post by ChaoticButterfly)
    Are you a robot?
    No. Your more like the robot, it's a bit concerning you can't say something that makes you happy?


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    When I have paid off my mortgage? Or got a book published?

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    (Original post by _Charlotte15)
    No. Your more like the robot, it's a bit concerning you can't say something that makes you happy?


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    You don't understand why a human would want to be happy. Seem pretty robotic. :dontknow:
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    (Original post by ChaoticButterfly)
    You don't understand why a human would want to be happy. Seem pretty robotic. :dontknow:
    No I do, you said I find it hard the concept of saying I'm happy?


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    Mortgage paid off, kids doing well in school, living a healthy lifestyle and with decent chunk of early retirement savings.
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    (Original post by _Charlotte15)
    No I do, you said I find it hard the concept of saying I'm happy?


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    "I'm more concerned with being able to say "I am happy"" - CB 10 mins ago.

    as apposed to saying being successful. I'm implying happiness is more important than success. Although the two can be related depending on how you measure success.
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    When my net worth is more than £8 million
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    When I earn 30k. I'll be pretty happy then.
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    (Original post by ChaoticButterfly)
    "I'm more concerned with being able to say "I am happy"" - CB 10 mins ago.

    as apposed to saying being successful. I'm implying happiness is more important than success. Although the two can be related depending on how you measure success.
    Ohhh😂 see to me it didn't come across in that sense haha sorry


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    (Original post by fbrep2012)
    What is success to you? What would you have to achieve or accomplish in your career or in your life to be able to say that you are successful...
    When i earn £36k post tax.
    When i own my own home.
    When i've been married to the same woman for 10 years.
    When said woman has provided me with 3 genetic heirs.
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    Own my own property in London + qualified lawyer.
    This, plus a Band 1 ranking.

    Alternatively, falling exhausted off Emma Watson after a marathon like afternoon session.
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    (Original post by ChaoticButterfly)
    I'm more concerned with being able to say "I am happy"
    Are you not happy now?
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    (Original post by Vixen47)
    OMG I can't believe you replied!!
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    When I'm financially stable (so when I have like 60 k in my bank account) and I have a family
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    I dunno, when I've been knighted or something. I like to have some kind of awarded symbol that shows appreciation of my work. It's like how it used to be back when I'd receive awards in school. Boy, I miss those awards.
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    (Original post by Rakas21)
    Are you not happy now?
    Not really. I have things I am happy about but I am far to worried and stressed and miserable too much of the time. I'm also a firm believer in continually looking for ways to improve and maximize happiness anyway.

    Also this blog

    http://www.pentadact.com/2011-03-12-analysing-happiness/
    http://www.pentadact.com/2011-03-12-...ing-happiness/
    http://web.yonsei.ac.kr/suh/file/Eve...%20matter..pdf
    How we expect happiness and success to relate to each other.



    How it really works.



    Hence why I chase happiness rather than success. In order for success to keep you happy you would need to be continually improving at everything all the time, consistency getting a promotion every year etc. Which isn't going to happen. Even if it does you then find yourself with less time for hobbies etc and as you happiness levels decrease you become more miserable with less free time for recreational purposes. So unless you enjoy the day to day process of your job it isn't worth chasing a high flying career if you ask me.


    The reverse is also true. If something really bad happens you do eventually get over it and revert to the normal mental state. As long as you don;t have continue external factors causing you mental harm on a regular basis you actually feel ok in about any situation. Your mind adapts. I'm working on getting rid of the regular negative external factors though. It is also why getting a job promotion into a much more regularly stressful situation is not worth it in my view.
 
 
 
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