i want to be a feminist but i'm conflicted.

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The first wave of feminism, was concerned with suffrage. That is widely recognised as the first wave. You fail to realize the importance of getting the right to vote was for women; they had no representation in Britain at all...and all the other aims of feminism could only occur when women had the vote. ...


Until then, men could reinforce the patriarchy, continuously, and vote, in perpetuity, a government which continues to ignore women. Feminists will argue that the repression in women's rights stems directly from a right to vote. I think the logic was, that if a woman received the right to vote, it would open up the right to vote for other repressed groups.

Until then, men could reinforce the patriarchy, continuously, and vote, in perpetuity, a government which continues to ignore women. Feminists will argue that the repression in women's rights stems directly from a right to vote. I think the logic was, that if a woman received the right to vote, it would open up the right to vote for other repressed groups....

I've tried looking into myself, to find what the right , moral thing to do is and i just don't know. both sides have good and bad things, it's a stalemate.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nZ7mdJg-xWc - listen to this whilst reading below.

No side will hate you being an egalitarian (or humanist) - it is the safe option so you can focus on gender equality & helping wo/men who need it most. When 1 sex loses, both sexes lose.

It's frustrating seeing how many people refer to themselves as "humanists" instead of feminists when they are genuinely invested in gender equality, as the origins of humanism are as a school of psychology that doesn't concern itself in any meaningful way with gender and sex:
http://americanhumanist.org/Humanism

Effectively, humanism as a concept is the rejection of superstition, religion etc in favour of rational thought but has recently come to mean many different things to different people, just as feminism has. It is fundamentally different, however, in that it is not a political movement.

Ultimately, feminism does and should refer to the belief that all genders/sexes should be equal, socially, economically and politically. However, different groups and demographics have appropriated or misused the label to the extent that it is largely misunderstood in the public arena as being resolutely opposed to men and masculinity, which is, strictly speaking, misandry.

I think your behaviour is more important than how you define it; if, for instance, you treat people equally regardless of their gender and support their equality, how important is it that you subscribe to a movement? That's up to you, but imo as long as your actions further equality for all people, it's not so significant.

i want women to have equal rights and be a feminist, but there are some women that I follow on twitter, and theyre quite mean about men, how do I avoid getting upset and sad about it whilst continuing to be a feminist or feminist ally?

i'm sorry guys, but I think the people I follow on twitter are right, this is just your male privilege talking. don't worry, I used to think that way too, now I've matured, I see the way things are.

Don't be a feminist. Believe in gender equality instead.

I'm anti feminist.

I believe in equal rights. (notably of opportunity)

Feminism is all about gender equality. If someone is sexist towards men or women they are not feminist. Being a feminist and believing in gender equality are the same thing. There are "feminists" who are sexist towards men, which spoils the image of feminism and perpetuates the idea of feminism being sexist.

I also think that it should have a gender neutral name instead, as it would help to clear up these misconceptions.

I'm anti feminist.

I believe in equal rights. (notably of opportunity)

umm, feminism is gender equality. why would women want to be superior to men while they have been fighting and sacrificing themselves so that men and women can be equal? please do some research or at least look up the word before offending the billions of feminists worlwide.