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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Oh my...I used to watch the Apprentice and that show and I watched that series with great interest. Im sure that this is where that comment came from in a sub-concious way. Really well remembered!
    It was the first thing that shot into my head, I was hoping it didn't stem from that and rather you were a literary fanatic(it would have been a more interesting backstory to how you ended up coming out with that) haha either way you have some explaining to do on monday. All the best!
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    This sounds like something I'd say.

    This works all the time, with the right vibe and attitude.

    Are you sure you read the signals correct?

    Don't apologise to her either, stand your ground, you meant want you said and she knew full well what she was doing.

    Don't stop saying these things, most women on this forum like to think themselves as moral and justified, in reality they're not.

    "Oh that's cheesy oh this."

    They state they want one thing, then five years later, they're having sexual intercourse in public for the 'excitement'.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So I'm out at this after-work social at a bar in Oxford and I was talking to a girl I work with. We've been working together for a few months now. I think she's single but I've never really asked; no ring anyways.

    After a few drinks I'm picking up some seriously good vibes from her. I tell her that she has 'eyes like an angel but lips for sin' with a bit of a grin on my face.

    She then proceeds to say 'how dare you' and walks off and actually goes home.

    I don't understand what I said wrong. It's hardly like saying 'nice tits'...

    I am am not looking forward to Monday morning :/
    Bit of a bizarre chat up line


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    (Original post by JulianRothschild)
    This sounds like something I'd say.

    This works all the time, with the right vibe and attitude.

    Are you sure you read the signals correct?

    Don't apologise to her either, stand your ground, you meant want you said and she knew full well what she was doing.

    Don't stop saying these things, most women on this forum like to think themselves as moral and justified, in reality they're not.

    "Oh that's cheesy oh this."

    They state they want one thing, then five years later, they're having sexual intercourse in public for the 'excitement'.
    Thanks Yeh I think so. She doesn't mind a little flirting at work. This was just the natural next thing to say.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Isn't this going a bit far?!
    I didn't mean OP/you have actually harassed her (sorry on my phone and can't see if you're the thread starter). But she'll have you pegged as "fancies me and makes creepy comments". If you happened to say something else that made her feel threatened, and she mentioned it at work, that kind of thing can quickly get blown out of proportion. Seen it happen! For your sake, steer clear. She's obviously not interested anyway.
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    (Original post by PangXie)
    I didn't mean OP/you have actually harassed her (sorry on my phone and can't see if you're the thread starter). But she'll have you pegged as "fancies me and makes creepy comments". If you happened to say something else that made her feel threatened, and she mentioned it at work, that kind of thing can quickly get blown out of proportion. Seen it happen! For your sake, steer clear. She's obviously not interested anyway.
    Yeh I am going to stay clear of her.
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    Best thing op can do now is just laugh it off as a crap joke if confronted, and otherwise act exactly the same.
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    (Original post by KingStannis)
    Best thing op can do now is just laugh it off as a crap joke if confronted, and otherwise act exactly the same.
    Just shut up. By making four seperate comments at regular intervals you're just bumping the thread up so more people come in and rep your stupid comment at the top. Now shh.
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    (Original post by Clip)
    This is actually one of the worst things I have ever heard.

    I have said some stupid things to women in my time, but this puts me in the amateur leagues of stupidity.
    Why is it THAT bad?
    Guy didn't say anything too bad to my taste.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Just shut up. By making four seperate comments at regular intervals you're just bumping the thread up so more people come in and rep your stupid comment at the top. Now shh.
    The thought never crossed my mind.

    Seriously though, if you previously had a good rapport with her, then i'd message her as to what the problem was. If you you were only loose acquaintances, then act normal, and play it down if confronted. that's genuinely what I'd do. It's an unbelievably weird and cheesy line, but she's overreacting and I'd be confused too.
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    I once said 'big boobs' and she said 'thanks, all guys like big boobs'.
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    (Original post by Placeboo123)
    Why is it THAT bad?
    Guy didn't say anything too bad to my taste.
    Firstly, it's a line

    Second, it's the perfect storm of crass, boring and desperate.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Just shut up. By making four seperate comments at regular intervals you're just bumping the thread up so more people come in and rep your stupid comment at the top. Now shh.
    PRSOM.. wonder who OP is :teehee:..
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    Perfectly legit line in the right circumstances; either way, it's all about standing by it/standing your ground, or else laughing it off. Heard guys get away with worse
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    OP the main problem here isn't that what you said was outrageously offensive, it's that it sounds pretty cringeworthy. When you say a line like that to a girl, you just become an 'anecdote' to her friends....she will say you said that and all her friends will crack up laughing and they will basically be making fun of you. She can't go out with you after that, you have just lost credibility with her and her friends.

    Instead you need to be the guy the girl talks about to her friends in the sense of "there's this guy at work, he's really nice, I'm not sure if he's in to me or not but we seem to get on well, he said X, Y and Z, what do you think, does it sound like he likes me?" and her friends to be encouraging and say "he sounds a pretty cool guy, looks like he could be interested, you should suggest going out when it's just teh two of you and see if he loosens up".

    As a general rule any line that looks like it's pre-rehearsed and you didn't come up with it yourself, is going to come over as awkward and cringey to a girl. The best compliments are always ones that are sincere and based on truth. A sincere compliment is simple, it doesn't sound like a "line" it just is what it is. If you are attracted to her there must be some reason, you must think she's beautiful, intelligent, witty, fun company, kind and understanding, whatever the real reason you like her is just say that rather than use a line.

    Also stay away from lines that make suggestive insinuations about her character, like that "lips of sin" one - especially when you have no evidence for that. If you're going to say eyes of an angel, lips of sin, say it when you're in bed after having sex when there is some relevance to the comment. When she's not given you any reason to think that it's likely to annoy her because of the implication. It's like when guys say things about girls being "naughty" or "have you been behaving? I don't believe you "....that type of thing always falls flat on its face if the girl has never actually been "naughty" with the person saying it...
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    I view her response as a slight overreaction tbh. Then again, you did use an incredibly corny line.
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    I assume you were talking about the lips on her face??

    By her reaction, she probably thought that you meant lips down below.

    Just say sorry and tell her you like her. Hopefully she's broadminded enough to realise you meant no harm and at the very least, she'll accept your apology.
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    I'd say OP can do one of the following

    - never talk to girl again
    - laugh it off, lie and say you're a lightweight
    - apologise

    That line though...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Oh dear. The thing is how am I meant to say the words... Hi. Friday night, I wasn't implying that you should give me a blowjob.

    How can even mention the word blowjob to her at work :/

    I can't believe that she would have thought this anyway...
    Hey just be cool and next time you see her casually apologise for the misunderstanding, you don't need to mention fallatio or any other clumsy attempts at explanation.


    Drop the apology and then move the conversation on.

    And in future NEVER DROP LINES.

    They're bad and almost never work.
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    On the plus side, she does think about giving blowjobs?
 
 
 
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