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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    no, irl/ but in front of a room of people. advice pls
    Well, everything else you said there wasn't that iffy, but that's actually extremely inconsiderate and rude of your boyfriend to do that, and to simply joke about it to you. Hell, in some peoples eyes (not mine) that would constitute some sort of cheating. It'll be even worse if he KNEW that you were waiting at home for him, yet did that anyways

    But, if everything's going well a month later, i'd leave it. If something similar happens like that again, feel free to voice your complaints regarding his actions.
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    Well, everything else you said there wasn't that iffy, but that's actually extremely inconsiderate and rude of your boyfriend to do that, and to simply joke about it to you. Hell, in some peoples eyes (not mine) that would constitute some sort of cheating. It'll be even worse if he KNEW that you were waiting at home for him, yet did that anyways

    But, if everything's going well a month later, i'd leave it. If something similar happens like that again, feel free to voice your complaints regarding his actions.
    Great, thank you. I am kind of trying to ignore it and if anything similar comes up I'll mention it but I just need to get over it, I guess. Time, etc.
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    You can always find some1 else....

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    Did he actually say he wanked over this girl flashing her vulva everywhere, or did you assume so? Because from what you've said in the op, it sounds like he had a sneaky hand shandy before sound check, and then separate to that mentioned the flasher.
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    Thank you for sharing the details of your sticky sex escapades. For me her didn't really do it "over her", it was just something that made him feel a bit horny and he took immediate action. Pretty standard Pavlovian behaviour. - see a vag, feel horny. As to telling you, I wouldn't blow that out of proportion, but you could tell him you don't appreciate this type of thing and find it disrespectful and deny him sex for a few days.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    reading the title i wouldnt be bothered either (other than the telling me), but my bf is a musician and did a gig about 3 weeks ago (wedding) that was fairly close by and I stayed at his that night. When he got back I mentioned being grubby (we'd had sex earlier and I hadn't showered yet) and he said 'don't worry, I'm covered in *** too.....I had a **** before soundcheck' which annoyed me slightly in itself - I was at his flat waiting for him to come back. Anyway, a couple of hours later he told me about this kind of photobooth at the reception, and how a girl had gone in front of the camera and lifted up her skirt, his words - 'beavering' the whole room.

    I don't know if I'm being silly but I'm just upset that my bf would **** over someone else whilst I'm laid in his bed waiting for him to come home and then basically tell me about it. It was nearly a month ago now and still keeps popping into my head, but I think it's too late to bring up (in case I've got the wrong end of the stick - he's told me before about times hes wanked over me in public.

    Another note- we had a row a few months ago because he opened his folders on his PC and there was one full of naked girls on there - I told him I was fine with him looking at other people but rubbing it in my face was too much

    In all other areas our relationship is great. I just feel sometimes like I cant openly talk about things. hence this. Ty for reading..

    tl;dr - go to another thread, can't explain concisely.
    wait wait? How do you know the two are connected? Your jumping to the conclusion that he saw a "beaver" and went up and whacked the bishop over it.

    Oh nad your fine with him looking at other people. Well you dont really have much of a choice, its kinda built in for both genders to look.

    Im a little confused, are you annoyed because you think he wanked over what he saw, or that he just wanked and didnt come to you to use you for his mastabatory need?

    (Original post by m-hussain)
    I reckon you should just leave him and find a man whos loyal to you
    Like you im assuming.

    he is loyal to her. He had a ****,
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    banter
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    If he's going to do it over anyone surely it should be you?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    reading the title i wouldnt be bothered either (other than the telling me), but my bf is a musician and did a gig about 3 weeks ago (wedding) that was fairly close by and I stayed at his that night. When he got back I mentioned being grubby (we'd had sex earlier and I hadn't showered yet) and he said 'don't worry, I'm covered in *** too.....I had a **** before soundcheck' which annoyed me slightly in itself - I was at his flat waiting for him to come back. Anyway, a couple of hours later he told me about this kind of photobooth at the reception, and how a girl had gone in front of the camera and lifted up her skirt, his words - 'beavering' the whole room.

    I don't know if I'm being silly but I'm just upset that my bf would **** over someone else whilst I'm laid in his bed waiting for him to come home and then basically tell me about it. It was nearly a month ago now and still keeps popping into my head, but I think it's too late to bring up (in case I've got the wrong end of the stick - he's told me before about times hes wanked over me in public.

    Another note- we had a row a few months ago because he opened his folders on his PC and there was one full of naked girls on there - I told him I was fine with him looking at other people but rubbing it in my face was too much

    In all other areas our relationship is great. I just feel sometimes like I cant openly talk about things. hence this. Ty for reading..

    tl;dr - go to another thread, can't explain concisely.

    lol your bf is a bit weird....it's not weird that he jerked off over another girl (pretty much every guy on the planet watches porn)...what's weird is that he told you about it. Tell him to keep that chit to himself, if he wants to continue having the privilege of being inside you.
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    lol your bf is a bit weird....it's not weird that he jerked off over another girl (pretty much every guy on the planet watches porn)...what's weird is that he told you about it. Tell him to keep that chit to himself, if he wants to continue having the privilege of being inside you.
    This is what pissed me off.

    Although as those above have said, I don't necessarily know it was over her, I did jump to that conclusion
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    Haven't bothered to read the rest of the comments to see if my point has been made, sorry.
    It's a bit of a **** move to say that, but does he have pictures of you on his phone or whatever? He could've used them if he didn't explicitly say he did it over that. Admittedly if it happened the other way around then he'd get annoyed, so I see why you are. Never been to a wedding but surely the band would come on later, and this "beavering" would've happened whilst he was playing and he had a **** before soundcheck?

    Just check the chronology of it before you mention anything to him
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    As others have said, the two are necessarily connected. (What kind of girl does that at a wedding? Aren't they full of older family members etc.)

    I would be pissed off if it was my bf telling me he was doing over someone else... but more that this I would be pissed off if he told me he did it in public.

    Is that normal!?!?! .... Gross.
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    But he said that he'd wanked and seen a girl's hoohah in separate stories - you've jumped to the conclusion that they're linked. And the girl may well have been unattractive. You're being totally daft.

    As for the folder on his PC, he didn't rub it in your face. Sounds like he was looking for something else, you probably saw a dubiously titled folder and asked to see it, so he showed you. If I'm wrong, please do tell me how it actually happened.

    I think you think you don't mind him doing certain things in theory, but when you have "proof" he does them it turns out you do mind. E.g. I bet you'd say you don't mind him watching porn, but if you walked in on him doing so or saw it in his search history you'd be upset.

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    Even if you look like a supermodel your guy will **** over other girls. It's natural. So long as you have a healthy sex life it's not a problem

    I really don't get why girls have such an issue with this. Are you really so naive you think he doesn't notice sexy girls? I'm a girl and I have no issue with this. He's not actually gonna **** these people
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    Not all guys realise girls automatically go mental about this, he told you which means he isn't hiding anything. Men can't win can they
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    But he said that he'd wanked and seen a girl's hoohah in separate stories - you've jumped to the conclusion that they're linked. And the girl may well have been unattractive. You're being totally daft.

    As for the folder on his PC, he didn't rub it in your face. Sounds like he was looking for something else, you probably saw a dubiously titled folder and asked to see it, so he showed you. If I'm wrong, please do tell me how it actually happened.

    I think you think you don't mind him doing certain things in theory, but when you have "proof" he does them it turns out you do mind. E.g. I bet you'd say you don't mind him watching porn, but if you walked in on him doing so or saw it in his search history you'd be upset.

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    He went to save an image and he'd obviously last saved something into that folder because that's what opened - I would never have asked to see it because I would have known that actually seeing the images would upset me - which it did
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    I personally think this whole situation is ****ing bizarre.
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    What your boyfriend did was wrong.... It's borderline cheating! =(
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    reading the title i wouldnt be bothered either (other than the telling me), but my bf is a musician and did a gig about 3 weeks ago (wedding) that was fairly close by and I stayed at his that night. When he got back I mentioned being grubby (we'd had sex earlier and I hadn't showered yet) and he said 'don't worry, I'm covered in *** too.....I had a **** before soundcheck' which annoyed me slightly in itself - I was at his flat waiting for him to come back. Anyway, a couple of hours later he told me about this kind of photobooth at the reception, and how a girl had gone in front of the camera and lifted up her skirt, his words - 'beavering' the whole room.

    I don't know if I'm being silly but I'm just upset that my bf would **** over someone else whilst I'm laid in his bed waiting for him to come home and then basically tell me about it. It was nearly a month ago now and still keeps popping into my head, but I think it's too late to bring up (in case I've got the wrong end of the stick - he's told me before about times hes wanked over me in public.

    Another note- we had a row a few months ago because he opened his folders on his PC and there was one full of naked girls on there - I told him I was fine with him looking at other people but rubbing it in my face was too much

    In all other areas our relationship is great. I just feel sometimes like I cant openly talk about things. hence this. Ty for reading..

    tl;dr - go to another thread, can't explain concisely.
    Not being funny but I would be a little annoyed about this... He can get off on someone else but not you? errr..?
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    The film "Don Jon" comes to mind
 
 
 
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