Listen to everyone commenting on bad it sounds. I heard dating someone and living with someone are two different things. Plus you're 19. There is no guarantee he is the only guy you'll like and what if he "changes"? Don't people change when you move in with them? Do not make a huge significant decision like this one in a hurry. Think of the outcomes, and long term consequences of an engagement at 19. This is very serious and not something you can just say "yes" to and not expect negative consequences. It sounds like a perfect Disney dream but in reality it will be not a easy thing where you marry happily ever after.
Just don't do it.
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- 16-02-2016 02:00
- 16-02-2016 03:43
my cousin got engaged at 17 and then married her boyfriend even though they lived apart at the time
its coz they were mature enough, shes now 20 and happily married with a kid
depends how mature you are I guess. Some people can handle married life and responsibilities quicker than others
- 16-02-2016 08:42
I'm going to go against the grain here and say why not. Yes, it's statistically very (very) unlikely that your relationship will make it. I found "the one" at 19 and we were together for nearly a decade before splitting - we were engaged too, and before that I would have bet my life we would go the distance. You may be luckier, like my friend who met a farmer before heading off to uni at the other end of the country and everyone said it would never last; ten years later and they're married with a toddler.
At the end of the day, though, anecdotes and statistics mean naff all to you don't they! You're young and in love, you feel as if it'll work, and all you have to lose is the cost of the rings. It's not going to harm your career or your finances if you get engaged and four years later you split up. You've got nothing to lose; if it's what you both want, go for it.
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- 16-02-2016 09:49
I don't think there's anything wrong with getting married at nineteen, it's the fact that you've never lived together and that you're long distance that will be an issue.
You say you've been on holiday with him and spend time together when parents are away but that's very different to living together with the pressure of bills, money, jobs etc. In my opinion you'd need to live with somebody in order to understand whether or not you'd be able to stand them for the rest of your life. There's a side to people that you don't see until you live together.
- 16-02-2016 09:52
its you getting engaged to your boyfriend, no one else
- 16-02-2016 12:39
I don't see the issue.
You've been together 4 years
Not getting married until after Uni
I think everyone is focusing on your age...it's about maturity level (in my opinion).
I have some friends who, if they suggested it I'd think they were joking...but then if the 'more mature' ones of my friends suggested it I'd take them seriously.
A decision like this should be made with yourself and your partner. No one else's opinion matters because you'll get different opinions and it may confuse you even more.
Make a decision, be happy with it and if people question you, you don't need to justify it..because it is what it is. You made the decision. ,you're happy and that's all that matters.
Regardless of what you choose to do I wish you all the best
- 16-02-2016 13:14
Why do you want to get engaged though? It's actually not going to make a difference if you are committed to each other. Only thing it really does is that people can see straight away that you're not single because of the ring.
- 16-02-2016 13:24
I got engaged at 19 and married at 21. The marriage lasted 2 years. I'm 25 and a single mother now and I'm happier now than I can ever remember being. I understand your having traditional views but at 19 you honestly don't know who you really are. I don't mean to sound patronising but I'm an entirely different person than I was in my teens. I regret rushing into marriage and it's put me off ever doing it again.
Have a long engagement. Live together for a few years first before you commit to marriage. I don't want to be the prophet of doom but having experienced it myself I can assure you it's hard.