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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    The possibility of troll is definitely there, but there is no denying there are some sick people out there who fixate on things like this.

    Whether he is a troll or obsessed with the girl I have no idea. But either way this guy clearly needs some help, trolling to this level and amount is not normal.
    He's posted on loads of other forums and been banned from the bodybuilding one. It doesn't make sense for somebody to make an account on loads of forums and just post the same thing, be told the same thing for over a year.. Gotto be a troll.
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    (Original post by MountKimbie)
    He's posted on loads of other forums and been banned from the bodybuilding one. It doesn't make sense for somebody to make an account on loads of forums and just post the same thing, be told the same thing for over a year.. Gotto be a troll.
    Mental illness isn't logical.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Mental illness isn't logical.
    True. I'm just in denial, I guess.

    Then again it's not really fair or even up us to diagnose.
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    There are 7 billion people on earth, she is only 1 of them. She will not change your life anymore because she already left you but your University degree can. She probably will find another victim and go on with her life. Now imagine that she is just your memory from the past and look on to your own future.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Mate stop lying to yourself.

    You are wasting your life, and with this continued pattern of behaviour you will continue to waste your life until you wake up one day 50 years old, alone, miserable and thousands of opportunities having passed you by and you will realise your mistake

    Got get some serious help or else you deserve every feeling of pain you have. I am sick of giving advice to someone (for 2 blood years now) who never follows through with using this advice.

    georgiaswift has much more patience than I do because I honestly see you as a lost cause until you wise up and stop giving pathetic excuses.
    It's very difficult to help someone who does nothing to help themself. Believeteam has antagonised everyone on here yet the temptation to reply each time he goes through one of these cycles is just too much sometimes.

    Let's see what happens when he's done with uni and forced to face the reality of moving on with his life. Then he can't use the excuse of 'this girl' for constantly feeling **** about himself and may actually seek to address those deep-seated emotional issues in a professional environment.

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    I honestly don't have a mental illness. I'm a good caring person. Everyone says this about me. I'm intelligent too. I got the highest grade on my course last year. I'm on course to finish my degree with a first (provided I don't screw up now).

    I honestly don't mean to make people mad on here. I'm not a troll. I haven't posted on any other forums in over a year.

    I just liked her so much. She is very important for me. And now she's gone and I feel broken.
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    I am struggling a lot with moving on from the end of my friendship with the girl.

    I haven't done any uni work in 5 days, I am feeling extremely depressed and tearful. I have got chest pain, I am crying, I have no energy, no motivation, I can't even concentrate.

    I am worried about this, I just have 2 months of uni left and I don't want to throw away all my hard work.

    She has totally blocked me from everywhere and said I will never talk to you again.

    I am extremely down and visibly shaken by all of this.

    I emailed my university counselling dept and they said it took take 2-3 weeks to get an appointment due to how busy the service has been during this calendar year.

    I honestly don't have time to mourn over this now, I have too much work to do. But I can't do it, I am struggling to concentrate.

    There were things I needed her help on too and now I can't.

    This is the worst I have ever felt in my life.

    I really wish this didn't happen. Maybe I could have done things differently, maybe I should have not been so clingy and jealous and upset etc. This friendship ended in a bad way and I will always regret this.

    I honestly don't know what to do.
    time ...
    give it time ...
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    I honestly don't have a mental illness. I'm a good caring person. Everyone says this about me. I'm intelligent too. I got the highest grade on my course last year. I'm on course to finish my degree with a first (provided I don't screw up now).

    I honestly don't mean to make people mad on here. I'm not a troll. I haven't posted on any other forums in over a year.

    I just liked her so much. She is very important for me. And now she's gone and I feel broken.
    Your level of intelligence has nothing to do with that though. No one is saying you are mad. But you have demonstrated obsessive tendencies for a prolonged amount of time, you have got extremely depressed over her and your mental health has suffered as a consequence.


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    (Original post by frozen_fire)
    Your level of intelligence has nothing to do with that though. No one is saying you are mad. But you have demonstrated obsessive tendencies for a prolonged amount of time, you have got extremely depressed over her and your mental health has suffered as a consequence.
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    Yes, maybe. I have definitely got depressed over her and it has taken its toll on me in a lot of ways.

    I'm just worried about Monday. She will be in my class. I have no idea what she will do. To be honest, I have the smallest glimmer of hope that something good might happen. But I'm not banking on it
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    Yes, maybe. I have definitely got depressed over her and it has taken its toll on me in a lot of ways.

    I'm just worried about Monday. She will be in my class. I have no idea what she will do. To be honest, I have the smallest glimmer of hope that something good might happen. But I'm not banking on it
    Georgia already told you what to do.

    You have yet again ignored it, and you will yet again crawl back to this ho and lose whatever self respect you have left.
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    (Original post by georgiaswift)
    Tbh I think you completely deserve it.

    HOWEVER, I'm going to give you advice on this, yet again. If you choose to ignore it this time then that's your choice but you'll be left feeling this way for a very long time.

    1. Deliberately focus on other things. Every time you catch yourself thinking about her, stop and make a conscious effort to think about something else.

    2. Go out with your friends. You've said you have male friends, so go out and have some fun with them. Keep yourself occupied.

    3. Join clubs/ take up hobbies. Essentially choose some things that you're interested in and do them. If you like horse riding, then join a club. If you like body building, join a gym.

    4. Immerse yourself in university work. Focus intensely on getting your work done and completing your final year. If you start thinking about her, consciously change the topic in your head so that you aren't thinking about her. Force yourself to think about other things.

    5. Keep yourself busy. If you're sitting around all day doing nothing you'll wind up thinking about her, hence the creation of this thread. Make lots of plans and full your day with activities.

    6. Do not talk to her. If she unblocks you, then block her and do not unblock her. Avoid all contact. Whenever you talk to her you wind up miserable, especially considering you know she doesn't actually like you.

    7. Do not date right now. You're mentally unwell and in a bad place. Dating will just make you think of her until you're over her, and it's not fair on the girls you date if you can't fully commit to them.

    If you follow this, you will get over her. But you have to actually try, and stop wallowing in self pity and trying to get sympathy from us on the student room. You need to be proactive.
    You not a therapist are you?

    Half of what you said is suppressing and most therapist say thats a bad idea.
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    I honestly don't have a mental illness. I'm a good caring person. Everyone says this about me. I'm intelligent too. I got the highest grade on my course last year. I'm on course to finish my degree with a first (provided I don't screw up now).

    I honestly don't mean to make people mad on here. I'm not a troll. I haven't posted on any other forums in over a year.

    I just liked her so much. She is very important for me. And now she's gone and I feel broken.
    You have ocd about her.
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    Yes, maybe. I have definitely got depressed over her and it has taken its toll on me in a lot of ways.

    I'm just worried about Monday. She will be in my class. I have no idea what she will do. To be honest, I have the smallest glimmer of hope that something good might happen. But I'm not banking on it
    See this is exactly the problem. What glimmer of hope? If you recognised what is healthy for you there wouldn't be a glimmer. The glimmer would have been long gone. Extinguished.

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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Georgia already told you what to do.

    You have yet again ignored it, and you will yet again crawl back to this ho and lose whatever self respect you have left.
    How do you know he ignored it?
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    (Original post by greatguy251)
    How do you know he ignored it?
    I'd been trying to help this guy for over 2 years...trust me I know. He always does and he always will.
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    (Original post by greatguy251)
    You not a therapist are you?

    Half of what you said is suppressing and most therapist say thats a bad idea.
    How is it suppressing? I think it's good practical advice for redirecting negative energy to more resourceful activities.

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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    I'd been trying to help this guy for over 2 years...trust me I know. He always does and he always will.
    2 years? is this about the same girl? He has obsessed over her for 2 years? Then he has severe ocd.
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    (Original post by frozen_fire)
    How is it suppressing? I think it's good practical advice for redirecting negative energy to more resourceful activities.

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    Forcing yourself to forget something is suppressing.


    Something the so called experts say you shouldn't do
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    (Original post by greatguy251)
    2 years? is this about the same girl? He has obsessed over her for 2 years? Then he has severe ocd.
    Go on his profile and look at the threads he has created. Google his name and see the posts he has made on loads of other forums.

    He is more dedicated than you GG.
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    (Original post by greatguy251)
    2 years? is this about the same girl? He has obsessed over her for 2 years? Then he has severe ocd.
    Yes.

    And lol you critiqued Georgia for not being a therapist but you're diagnosing him with OCD? On what grounds, obsession doesn't automatically = OCD.
 
 
 
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