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    I think if you really like (love?) someone, it's hard to get bored of them. You tend to find new things to love about them.
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    (Original post by claireestelle)
    That's very different, i would never get bored of my best friend. I don't get bored because we share interests and always enjoy everything we do together and we know each other incredibly well, we have a stronger and generally better relationship than i have with any of the rest of my family.
    There's a big difference between a best friend and a spouse.

    (Original post by Rhythmical)
    That's lust though. Love is much more deeper and becomes an emotional connection. You learn to love and live with them and accept their flaws. They're your best friend, partner and everything you could imagine. Lust is just the butterflies that people feel and unless you are serious about each other then it turns into love. A lot of teenage romances and relationships are just based on lust and infatuation.
    That still doesn't answer my question. After building an "emotional connection" and "you learn to love and live with their flaws", what happens next? The lust is gone, and the love that remains is essentially the same love you hold for any other family member/close friend.

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    Don't you get tired of your parents or being yourself?
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    (Original post by fire_and_ice)
    That's unconditional love and entirely different to that of a spouse. You 'love' them, but you're not 'in love' with them.
    When you find "The One" *gag cheesy title* you get both, you are both In love with them in an intimate, physical and emotional fashion, but develop the same level of unconditional love that one has towards a family member.
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    (Original post by SpiritSharD)
    I don't think any relationship is perfect to the point where you don't have the occasional fleeting thought or concern. I genuinely did love my partner. We had our ups and downs, but I was happy and content and I didn't want anything else. I suppose in my case my justification for thinking about what else was out there was that she was my first, and only. It's natural.

    There was no convincing of myself that I loved her. If I didn't, I doubt I'd still be feeling the effects of our breakup one year later.
    I understand where you're coming from. I am sorry that you guys broke up.

    And I can relate to what you're going through. I am feeling the aftermath of a relationship as well.


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    (Original post by xobeauty)
    You know the thrills you get in the first stages,blushing, butterflies, getting to know each other, the newly fresh flirting, the guessing games.

    What's exciting after two years +
    At that point it's just for sex,no?
    I think that's quite an immature way of thinking which is probably why you're not ready for a long term relationship which is completely fine.

    A long term relationship provides much more than sex, you have someone you can share anything and everything with, experiences you can share together, milestones you reach together which are equally as exciting as a fresh relationship.
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    nope my boyfriend and I are nearly 3 years going strong ready to turn 18 around our anniversary
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    (Original post by fire_and_ice)
    There's a big difference between a best friend and a spouse.



    That still doesn't answer my question. After building an "emotional connection" and "you learn to love and live with their flaws", what happens next? The lust is gone, and the love that remains is essentially the same love you hold for any other family member/close friend.



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    What else is it supposed to be?

    You feel the same love for your partner that you do for anyone else you care about? Except in this instance there is physical attraction + intimacy.

    Also, spouse is meant to be your best friend (or at least one of them). Not a huge difference at all.

    The whole reason you don't get "bored" is because you're happy with what you've got.
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    No. He sometimes annoys me and sometimes we do things we have done a million times before but he never bores me and that's been after 7 years now.

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    (Original post by xobeauty)
    Pretty much.

    That's why all I'm considering at the end of the day is...
    is he a good provider, will he be a good father, does he have the basic skills to teach our kids things such as skating, teaching them how to ride bikes, how to play every sport, and family values. And I'll be miserable it's ok.
    lol what..?
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    (Original post by Spock's Socks)
    No. He sometimes annoys me and sometimes we do things we have done a million times before but he never bores me and that's been after 7 years now.

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    Hope you have a (even) longer and prosperous relationship.

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    I was in a relationship that went on for a while and did get bored, but that will probably be down to the fact I'm just weird
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    Not bored yet and can't imagine getting bored anytime soon. Everything is just as wonderful as it was when we first started getting close.

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    (Original post by hezzlington)
    lol what..?
    What, what?

    Kids need to know how to do these things to keep fit and healthy.
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    (Original post by Legendary Quest)
    Do you get bored of your family? Mum? Dad? Brother? Sister?
    Yes
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    . . . . N O
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    (Original post by RobML)
    yes
    As if you're in a relationship
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    (Original post by Little Popcorns)
    As if you're in a relationship
    wiv ur mam
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    Im grateful irl I have such good humour and make people laugh quiet easily ngl. People won't get bored of me
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    (Original post by Changing Skies)
    Not bored yet and can't imagine getting bored anytime soon. Everything is just as wonderful as it was when we first started getting close.

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    But how do you achieve that?
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    what am i even doing here...ive never been in a relationship, and even so, the longest it was was 2 hours as a dream...
 
 
 
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