Girlfriend of four years cheated on me, broke up with her 2 weeks ago

Update on this

Today she whatsapped me asking me to meet up with her so i can talk to her about us and try and clear the air and be friends, obviously thats out of the cards,

But i have also found out the guy she was sleeping with at work had shown the pictures and sent them around her work place, and also told everyone he'd been having sex with her, i feel kind of bad for her?

You can either make a drama out of this and waste time making sense where there is none or you cna take the path that will heal you fastest.

Imo theres no point meeting up or being friends as you havent decided what you feel about it all yet. Why clear the air?

Stay away, dont contact and heal yourself up, then you can decide what to do in 6 months +. How do you know everything she says wont just be to save her conscience and another pack of lies consistent with all the other stuff shes done behind your back.

You should also be considering if any of the people who slept with her and you knew are your friends as well.

Hey guys, as the title indicates, i broke up with my girlfriend of four years 2 weeks ago, i found out recently she had cheated on me 8 times throughout our relationship, she was always very cold towards me and very snide.

She would text me two or three times throughout the day at times, however when i was with her she always had her phone in her hand, to start off with for the first time,

She had gone out drinking with a friend and on that occasion saw someone she went to school with, she then went outside the pub with him and had sex with him, she was wearing a long dress however claimed it was a *Mistake*

Second Time, she met up with another guy they went to mcdonalds, he took her to the stables too see his horses, and they then had sex in his car

Third time, we had an argument, another friend of hers inboxed her asking her if she was okay, then then agreed to meet up where he then took her back to his and, surprise surprise, had sex with her.

Fourth time, she went out clubbing and saw ANOTHER Male friend where they started dancing and she started kissing him, then she went outside the club and got fingered by him

Fifth time sixth time and eighth time i had had enough at this point of feeling like there were many secrets, checked her phone, she had sent dirty pictures, texts and videos


It's emotionally damaged me for the worst part, i gave her everything i could and i tried to make her as happy as i could, i treated her like i thought she deserved to be treated, and all of this has made me really really damaged and confused.

However i cant stop thinking about it? and she also said it was my fault it all happened.

Yeah i understand that but i also just want to know why, i know if i asked her it would be lies but i just cant get over what i did to deserve it..

You are so much better off without her. She'll probably never admit it, but a bitch like that, you're probably the best thing that ever has, or ever will happen to her, and she has thrown it away.

I agree with everyone else who says to delete, block and never hear from her again. It's hard at first because 4 years is not a short time.
You need to focus on yourself right now to make yourself happy. Right now you seem to feeling very short of self confidence because of this slag, but I would suggest finding a new (or ever old) hobby to keep you occupied.
HINT: Weight training helped me a lot after a break up.

I've been an aesthetic weightlifter/Crossfitter since i was 16, i enjoy having a body to work on, and thanks man, that means alot,

I passed my OSB For Officer entry into the british army and thats what im focusing on, i just cant get over how somene can be so cruel!

Hey guys, as the title indicates, i broke up with my girlfriend of four years 2 weeks ago, i found out recently she had cheated on me 8 times throughout our relationship, she was always very cold towards me and very snide.

She would text me two or three times throughout the day at times, however when i was with her she always had her phone in her hand, to start off with for the first time,

She had gone out drinking with a friend and on that occasion saw someone she went to school with, she then went outside the pub with him and had sex with him, she was wearing a long dress however claimed it was a *Mistake*

Second Time, she met up with another guy they went to mcdonalds, he took her to the stables too see his horses, and they then had sex in his car

Third time, we had an argument, another friend of hers inboxed her asking her if she was okay, then then agreed to meet up where he then took her back to his and, surprise surprise, had sex with her.

Fourth time, she went out clubbing and saw ANOTHER Male friend where they started dancing and she started kissing him, then she went outside the club and got fingered by him

Fifth time sixth time and eighth time i had had enough at this point of feeling like there were many secrets, checked her phone, she had sent dirty pictures, texts and videos


It's emotionally damaged me for the worst part, i gave her everything i could and i tried to make her as happy as i could, i treated her like i thought she deserved to be treated, and all of this has made me really really damaged and confused.

However i cant stop thinking about it? and she also said it was my fault it all happened.

Update on this

Today she whatsapped me asking me to meet up with her so i can talk to her about us and try and clear the air and be friends, obviously thats out of the cards,

But i have also found out the guy she was sleeping with at work had shown the pictures and sent them around her work place, and also told everyone he'd been having sex with her, i feel kind of bad for her?

Thanks man, just a waste of four years unfortunately!

Update on this

Today she whatsapped me asking me to meet up with her so i can talk to her about us and try and clear the air and be friends, obviously thats out of the cards,

But i have also found out the guy she was sleeping with at work had shown the pictures and sent them around her work place, and also told everyone he'd been having sex with her, i feel kind of bad for her?