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    (Original post by BurstingBubbles)
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    Marriage is 100% of the reason why people get a divorce
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    (Original post by BurstingBubbles)
    It's not the cheeriest of topics, but an important one! We are likely to know at least one couple who have divorced, so...

    Use the poll to vote the percentage of marriages you think end in divorce in the UK - the answer will be revealed on Tuesday!

    Do you think people are too quick to marry or divorce? Is marriage important to you? Do you think marriage is as valuable nowadays?
    Note: you can post anonymously in this thread.

    If you have any helpful links or advice please post these below. If you have been affected by divorce and need some help, check out the links below:
    lol mate, you can literally find the answer in 1 second on google.
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    (Original post by the bear)
    of course
    You Christian for real?

    Wow, I never saw you as willfully ignorant.
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    (Original post by Supersaps)
    As a Catholic also, I'd certainly there's massive disconnect between modern society and the Catholic Church. Change is definitely necessary.


    However, it is modern society that needs to change to the Church's values, not the CC changing to modern society's.

    The Church has been around for 2,000 years, modern sexual teaching has been around for 50 and I think its consequences have been obvious for all to see:

    1 in 4 people in our society is mentally depressed, around 1 in 2 of our marriages end in divorce, 1 in 4 children grow up without fathers.


    Modern society can keep its 'values'

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    (McManus S, Meltzer H, Brugha T, Bebbington P, Jenkins R (eds) (2009). Adult Psychiatric Morbidity in England 2007:, http://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulati...8#lone-parents)
    You do realise that religion is just mass organised social conditioning & another means of enforcing conformity and social order?

    In plain english, religion is just another way to control the ignorant masses.

    Hate to break it you lol
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    (Original post by Thomb)
    Thank god my mum divorced my father he was such a useless scumbag.
    Uh yeah but why would she get married to him in the first place without knowing his true character?

    In most cases in real life, no one is without blame. I suspect there was some degree of oversight or willful ignorance on her part.
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    (Original post by Supersaps)
    Because marriage is many things. Including, the foundation of a functional society.


    If you want your children to be healthier, wealthier & happier, the best way to do that is to have a father at home. (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services; ASEP Issue Brief: Information on Poverty and Income Statistics. September 12, 2012, Source: Hofferth, S. L. (2006). Residential father family type and child well-being: investment versus selection. Demography, 43, 53-78.)


    And the best way to have a father at home is for men to be in committed marriages.


    With the breakdown of marriage, comes the breaking of children. If you break your children, you get a messed up society. We are reaping the consequences of our broken society everyday.


    Obviously, there are cases where parents need to separate and live apart when it's an abusive situation but even then I don't think you should get divorced. You made your vows and you should keep them no matter what. Otherwise what's the point of making them?

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    agree with you about children doing better when father is present, but you dont need marriage to make you be a good father to your kids.

    Its quite sad actually, that it's actually really the fear of financial devastation from divorce that keeps a lot of men locked up in marriages.
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    (Original post by Supersaps)
    I'll ask a question back.


    What's the point of a vow that you can break when things get difficult?
    You are being quite extreme. You are basically saying people shouldnt make mistakes, and if they do, they shouldnt be allowed to resolve those mistakes.
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    Marriage is for fools :bath:

    If you invest enough time, money, emotion and everything else into someone that you feel marriage is appropriate, you aready are exposed enough
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    42%? 48%?

    Back in the not too distant past, I always found the gay people shouldn't get married because it would destroy traditional marriage to be a really confusing argument. Looking at the divorce rate, heterosexuals have already destroyed traditional marriage.
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    I couldn't wait till tomorrow… it's 56%
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    (Original post by Nidhoggr)
    lol mate, you can literally find the answer in 1 second on google.
    I know, that's how I found it :lol: It's not just about the stat but the discussion behind it, mate.

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    Is it really necessary to report me? I'm not the one that wants to stop the prevention of domestic violence by not allowing divorce.
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    (Original post by Nidhoggr)
    Uh yeah but why would she get married to him in the first place without knowing his true character?

    In most cases in real life, no one is without blame. I suspect there was some degree of oversight or willful ignorance on her part.
    Yeah but he was cold!
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    Divorce rates are declining which is likely to be because people now wait longer to get married both in terms of age and length of engagements.
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    (Original post by Supersaps)
    Did you actually read what I wrote?
    ..."but even then I don't think you should get divorced. You made your vows and you should keep them no matter what"

    Clearly you can't read. That's the dumbest thing I've read today
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    (Original post by Sternumator)
    Divorce rates are declining which is likely to be because people now wait longer to get married both in terms of age and length of engagements.
    Well not sure about divorce %s , but you are seeing fewer divorces because less people are getting married.
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    (Original post by Lawliettt)
    ..."but even then I don't think you should get divorced. You made your vows and you should keep them no matter what"

    Clearly you can't read. That's the dumbest thing I've read today
    It's dumb to suggest you should stick to a vow? Surely that's the definition of a vow? That's just calling a spade, a spade. Your definition of a vow makes a vow just a set of nice words you say on a wedding day.


    If you're not going to stick to it, don't make it. Simple. But let's not have any of this half-arsed nonsense about vows that you're able to break when your spouse does something wrong.


    Judging by the responses on this thread, it should come as no surprise that the divorce rate is around 50%.
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    If people weren't allowed to get divorced, I wouldn't be here now. Both sets of parents parents were divorced and both moved and remarried.

    It's also unfair on children for them to be stuck in a home where both parents are constantly fighting and generally unhappy, no?
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    The stats on this are quite varied, however going by the Office for National Statitics by the government, the stat is 42%. I'm aware some sources say about half do, so you can have a point if you said 48% too

    Why do so many marriages breakdown? Should people wait longer to get married or try harder before getting a divorce?
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    (Original post by BurstingBubbles)
    The stats on this are quite varied, however going by the Office for National Statitics by the government, the stat is 42%. I'm aware some sources say about half do, so you can have a point if you said 48% too

    Why do so many marriages breakdown? Should people wait longer to get married or try harder before getting a divorce?
    I honestly don't think people "rushing" into marriage is the major cause of the high divorce rate. Compared with previous generations, couples these days tend to have been together considerably longer AND be more likely to have cohabited prior to marriage, both of which should help! "Shotgun" marriages are also much rarer as having children outside of marriage is no longer something to be ashamed of. I was one of the quickest to get married in my group of friends; we got engaged after 3.5 years and married after 4.5 years together, having been living together for just over 2 years by that time.

    I think the factors causing an increased divorce rate are many and varied. Off the top of my head, a few ideas are: -
    • Divorce is no longer stigmatised as it once was, so people are less afraid of being judged by society for splitting up.
    • Women have more rights and independence than they ever used to, so are both less likely to settle for poor treatment/being unhappy and know that they will be supported if they do leave. We have our own careers and aren't so afraid of being left with no money and no skills in the event of divorce.
    • Society as a whole has changed from the "stiff upper lip" mentality of the early 20th century, so people won't just tolerate a bad situation but will do something to try to change it.
    • The country has become less religious overall, so the pressure from the Church in favour of staying married is less.
    • People have become more educated and more mobile, so are more likely to meet more different people and experience different ways of life than before, which both opens our eyes to life and people outside our local community (allowing you to realise that certain "norms" really aren't ok!) and makes cheating easier.
    • Likewise, technology makes it easier to cheat.
 
 
 
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