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    (Original post by Kraixo)
    There are strong opinions in Islam that dancing with immoral music is a big sin, a logical wisdom being that it can easily lead to many great sins such as crossing the boundaries when it comes to free mixing.

    On top of that she is disobeying and angering her parents in a matter which is against Islam which is already a grave sin.

    Who are you to say that she isn't going to sin badly? When she already has??

    Anyways she said that she isn't muslim so all of this is irrelevant.
    If her parents are going to be harsh on her she's going to rebel sooner or later.

    What my point is not everyone who goes to parties does drugs/loses their virginity.
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    (Original post by MrsSheldonCooper)
    If her parents are going to be harsh on her she's going to rebel sooner or later.

    What my point is not everyone who goes to parties does drugs/loses their virginity.
    Yes that is true.
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    Just don't go. Think about your religion and your safety. Did you watch "murdered by my father" on BBC 3, I'm not saying that would happen to you, but just that you are part of a religion that has quite a clear view of what's right and wrong and the last thing you want to do is get caught and punished, because the consequences may be incredibly unpleasant.
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    I'm going to home school my future children so they don't start with this rubbish about parties and whatnot. Make sure they have the correct islamic upbringing and none of these issues will arise
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    (Original post by Hibzish)
    I'm going to home school my future children so they don't start with this rubbish about parties and whatnot. Make sure they have the correct islamic upbringing and none of these issues will arise
    and what happens when they get to university? when they have to leave home? when they're in an uncomfortable situation? when they're attacked?

    this is what i hate so much. when muslim parents don't teach their kids how to behave when confronted, what to say, where to seek help, what to do if they feel uncomfortable. they don't teach them about safety or give them the talk or anything. they just lock them up at home and give them the 'correct Islamic upbringing' and God forbid something bad does happen the kid doesn't know how to act or what to do and can be taken advantage of digustingly easily. you're going to homeschool your kid and enforce all your unnecessary rules, when they inevitably get rebellious they're gonna get themselves in situations wayyy more dangerous than any 'kuffaar' would. I've seen it happen.

    trusting your child is important. if you let them know you trust them, you lay down some ground rules but give them the freedom they need to grow they'll never leave your side. if you act like it's some concentration camp then they're hauling their ass out of there as soon as they can and leaving you behind with mouth wide open.
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    (Original post by amira999)
    Thanks, I'm definitely going to move out in the future, don't know if I can take another 2 years at home though
    Do you think your parents will let you move away from home they will want you to go to a local uni so they can keep you under control.
    Do you fast during ramadan?
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    (Original post by Hibzish)
    I'm going to home school my future children so they don't start with this rubbish about parties and whatnot. Make sure they have the correct islamic upbringing and none of these issues will arise
    I could probably wager that one of your future children are going to end up rejecting Islam and you completely because you were so strict on them.
    People like you who think homeschooling and an Islamic upbringing will prevent sinning make me laugh so much. Your kid won't be with you forever.



    I'm sorry you're not a fun person to be with and your kids won't have any fun at all!
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    (Original post by dnr_23)
    allah is always watching

    ur gonna be sent to hell for disobeying ur parents cuz its a huge sin in the quran lol
    Way to make fun of OP's religion, nice one.
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    (Original post by z33)
    and what happens when they get to university? when they have to leave home? when they're in an uncomfortable situation? when they're attacked?

    this is what i hate so much. when muslim parents don't teach their kids how to behave when confronted, what to say, where to seek help, what to do if they feel uncomfortable. they don't teach them about safety or give them the talk or anything. they just lock them up at home and give them the 'correct Islamic upbringing' and God forbid something bad does happen the kid doesn't know how to act or what to do and can be taken advantage of digustingly easily. you're going to homeschool your kid and enforce all your unnecessary rules, when they inevitably get rebellious they're gonna get themselves in situations wayyy more dangerous than any 'kuffaar' would. I've seen it happen.

    trusting your child is important. if you let them know you trust them, you lay down some ground rules but give them the freedom they need to grow they'll never leave your side. if you act like it's some concentration camp then they're hauling their ass out of there as soon as they can and leaving you behind with mouth wide open.
    Wow u jump to conclusions.
    They won't rebel because they will not have silly friends who make them feel like they don't have freedom. I will teach them all those things and more. Better than regular school and i have a lot more control and time with them.

    That's not always true. U give them freedom they abuse it and disobey their parents like OP. She was allowed to stay out till 10 but went to parties and came later and look she can't wait to leave her home
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    (Original post by MrsSheldonCooper)
    I could probably wager that one of your future children are going to end up rejecting Islam and you completely because you were so strict on them. I can't stand people like you who think homeschooling and an Islamic upbringing will prevent sinning. Your kid won't be with you forever.

    I'm sorry you're not a fun person to be with and your kids won't have any fun at all!
    (Original post by z33)
    and what happens when they get to university? when they have to leave home? when they're in an uncomfortable situation? when they're attacked?

    this is what i hate so much. when muslim parents don't teach their kids how to behave when confronted, what to say, where to seek help, what to do if they feel uncomfortable. they don't teach them about safety or give them the talk or anything. they just lock them up at home and give them the 'correct Islamic upbringing' and God forbid something bad does happen the kid doesn't know how to act or what to do and can be taken advantage of digustingly easily. you're going to homeschool your kid and enforce all your unnecessary rules, when they inevitably get rebellious they're gonna get themselves in situations wayyy more dangerous than any 'kuffaar' would. I've seen it happen.

    trusting your child is important. if you let them know you trust them, you lay down some ground rules but give them the freedom they need to grow they'll never leave your side. if you act like it's some concentration camp then they're hauling their ass out of there as soon as they can and leaving you behind with mouth wide open.
    I wish I could rep this more. I've seen friends who were home schooled and brought up Islamically. Ironically every single of them doesn't talk to their family and has left Islam.

    Teenagers can always say no to parties and a lot of the time, the Muslims in my school normally get together and go to each other's houses and watch movies and eat food. No need for alcohol and no drugs. Parents are fine with it because it shows they're respecting the main values. Kids are happy because they get to socialise. It's a win win situation.

    I don't see much nonsense in that tbh. I dread the lives of the children of some Tsrian Muslims on here.
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    (Original post by Hibzish)
    Wow u jump to conclusions.
    They won't rebel because they will not have silly friends who make them feel like they don't have freedom. I will teach them all those things and more. Better than regular school and i have a lot more control and time with them.

    That's not always true. U give them freedom they abuse it and disobey their parents like OP. She was allowed to stay out till 10 but went to parties and came later and look she can't wait to leave her home
    so do you clearly

    right yeah don't give them friends, don't give them anything except you and your siblings
    some prison that is
    why do you think OP lied to her parents about going ice skating? they wouldn't let her go to a party with her friends that's why. cos they dont trust her. that's my point.
    she lost her ****ing oyster card wow that's disobeying your parents?
    kk when your kid leaves Islam don't come to me cryin yeah?
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    (Original post by MrsSheldonCooper)
    I could probably wager that one of your future children are going to end up rejecting Islam and you completely because you were so strict on them.
    People like you who think homeschooling and an Islamic upbringing will prevent sinning make me laugh so much. Your kid won't be with you forever.



    I'm sorry you're not a fun person to be with and your kids won't have any fun at all!
    That's okay if you think your child lying to you and going out to party is your idea of fun
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    (Original post by MrsSheldonCooper)
    I wish I could rep this more. I've seen friends who were home schooled and brought up Islamically. Ironically every single of them doesn't talk to their family and has left Islam.

    Teenagers can always say no to parties and a lot of the time, the Muslims in my school normally get together and go to each other's houses and watch movies and eat food. No need for alcohol and no drugs. Parents are fine with it because it shows they're respecting the main values. Kids are happy because they get to socialise. It's a win win situation.

    I don't see much nonsense in that tbh. I dread the lives of the children of some Tsrian Muslims on here.
    yeah see? and i know a lot of those muslim kids, one girl in particular ain't even allowed to take a bus to get to school she gets dropped off every morning but she's rejected it too and is planning to run away.

    exactly - there's muslim kids who get to know each other, have movie marathons and game nights and sleepovers
    but obv they're a minority
    it just makes your kid hate you and your religion since that's your excuse for everything you do to them

    :sigh: poor future kids - you'd think this generation would be a bit less backwards :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by Hibzish)
    I'm going to home school my future children so they don't start with this rubbish about parties and whatnot. Make sure they have the correct islamic upbringing and none of these issues will arise
    What if they don't want an 'islamic upbringing'?
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    (Original post by z33)
    so do you clearly

    right yeah don't give them friends, don't give them anything except you and your siblings
    some prison that is
    why do you think OP lied to her parents about going ice skating? they wouldn't let her go to a party with her friends that's why. cos they dont trust her. that's my point.
    she lost her ****ing oyster card wow that's disobeying your parents?
    kk when your kid leaves Islam don't come to me cryin yeah?

    She disobeyed her parents by lying about where she was going...
    I don't get what u meen by didn't trust her? The whole environment is completely haraam free mixing music alcahol u expect me to think my childs just going to go their and sit down not do anything? ofcourse i wouldn't allow them to go it has nothing to do with trust
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    (Original post by Hibzish)
    Wow u jump to conclusions.
    They won't rebel because they will not have silly friends who make them feel like they don't have freedom. I will teach them all those things and more. Better than regular school and i have a lot more control and time with them.

    That's not always true. U give them freedom they abuse it and disobey their parents like OP. She was allowed to stay out till 10 but went to parties and came later and look she can't wait to leave her home
    Have a lot more control over them? Are you planning to be a mother or are you planning to be a micro managing dictator?

    And you're stating that they won't rebel. You have no idea what your children will be like and you won't have any control at all about what their thoughts will be. I'm basing this from what I've seen and there's a very real chance that one of your kids might make a break from it.

    Look up parenting methods sweetheart. It's been proven time and time again that the stricter the parents, the more likely teenagers become sneakier and more likely to experience substance abuse. I agree with saying something kids take the freedom too far but tbh with the kind of attitude you're having towards your kids one will probably go nuts with the endless preaching and the lack of social interaction.

    So what if she went to parties? She's a teenager for god's sake she isn't hurting anyone. So what if she wants to leave home? From what she's said, her parents sound overly strict on her and I can't blame her for wanting to leave. You'd pop after a while.

    I feel so sorry for your kids. They're going to have a control freak for a mother.
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    (Original post by Hibzish)
    She disobeyed her parents by lying about where she was going...
    I don't get what u meen by didn't trust her? The whole environment is completely haraam free mixing music alcahol u expect me to think my childs just going to go their and sit down not do anything? ofcourse i wouldn't allow them to go it has nothing to do with trust
    yeah why do you think she did that? what is the need to lie to her parents? so you don't get punished for the truth right?
    did she say there was alcohol there? cos i don't see that mentioned anywhere. have you ever been to a party m8?
    kkk
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    (Original post by Hibzish)
    That's okay if you think your child lying to you and going out to party is your idea of fun
    I wouldn't be so strict to the extent that my child would have to lie to me about going then. If my kid wanted to go to a party I would tell them to stay safe and don't do any drugs at all.

    If my kid feels like I trust them then they'll want to be honest with me.
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    (Original post by Hibzish)
    I'm going to home school my future children so they don't start with this rubbish about parties and whatnot. Make sure they have the correct islamic upbringing and none of these issues will arise
    You're planning on allowing your child to grow up in a cage and not see the real world? :clap2:
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    (Original post by z33)
    yeah see? and i know a lot of those muslim kids, one girl in particular ain't even allowed to take a bus to get to school she gets dropped off every morning but she's rejected it too and is planning to run away.

    exactly - there's muslim kids who get to know each other, have movie marathons and game nights and sleepovers
    but obv they're a minority
    it just makes your kid hate you and your religion since that's your excuse for everything you do to them

    :sigh: poor future kids - you'd think this generation would be a bit less backwards :rolleyes:
    One of my friends lied to her parents about what uni she was going to and literally cut all ties with them and left Islam for Buddhism. The joys of Islamic upbringing.

    I have massive respect for the Muslims on here who are going to let their kids interact and all. You'd think that the other Muslims who want to home school their kid for an Islamic upbringing would read that controlling parenting leads to the kid going over the top. I had strict parents and as soon as I hit my teens I just ended up resenting them because I couldn't be a normal teenager.

    It's sad as hell. I pity the children so so much.
 
 
 
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