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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    They sure are! Its stupid really! Why cant they just focus on making their own lives better? Surely thats more productive?

    Ill my best but its extremely difficult!
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    Look, don't feel mad or bad about it, you should pity them. Think about it; their lives are so miserable and pathetic that the only thing they can think about is dragging you and your life down

    As one wise person said: "Be thankful for your haters, they're your biggest fans"
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    Well..it's over mate. All you can do now is not give a **** about the haters or work on your confidence.
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    Yesterday as part of my course, I had to give a presentation at college in front of my bullies.
    Now I don't have much confidence and I was shaking before I had to go up and give mine (everyone had to do one).
    Now theirs went fine, mine went well in my head, until they laughed at me
    It hurt me so much that they would do this seeing as they know I don't have any confidence.
    I'm just so hurt by this.
    What can I do?
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    That's horrible, I'm sorry. Sending you virtual hugs - I wish I could come and beat up those bullies for you.

    The best thing you can do really is to pick yourself and move on. Don't give them the satisfaction of seeing that they succeeded in upsetting you. But, at the same time, please talk to a parent or teacher. They can't be allowed to keep making your life hell.
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    (Original post by AngryRedhead)
    Look, don't feel mad or bad about it, you should pity them. Think about it; their lives are so miserable and pathetic that the only thing they can think about is dragging you and your life down

    As one wise person said: "Be thankful for your haters, they're your biggest fans"
    I dont want to pity them tbh. I hate them!
    Hmm that sounds accurate! Theyre always complaining about everything! No joke!
    So i suppose thats all they can do to be happy!

    I dont want them to be my fans tbh!
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    This sort of thing really angers me. The exact same happened to me at college when the typical 'popular' ones laughed at me and mocked me during my talk because I was 'alternative' and all that jazz. It only pissed me off but I can imagine for someone with social anxiety like yourself, it would really knock your confidence down a peg or two which isn't helpful.

    Try your best to ignore them and rise above. You're better than them by miles and it won't be long til summer and you won't have to deal with them. People that mock others are usually trying to mask their own insecurities so they are probably more anxious and unhappy with themselves deep down than you are with yourself.

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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    I dont want to pity them tbh. I hate them!
    Hmm that sounds accurate! Theyre always complaining about everything! No joke!
    So i suppose thats all they can do to be happy!

    I dont want them to be my fans tbh!
    What I was trying to articulate is that clearly you are superior they are; either become as mediocre as they are or don't let it bother you.

    Try to keep a log of what they do and when and present it to your head of sixth form as evidence of bullying. If they don't do anything and the bullying crosses into illegal territory (e.g: harrassment, comments about a protected characteristic such as race, gender or disability) or anything physical (even if they didn't directly touch you) inform the police
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    Reee normies are cruel
    beta uprising now reee
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    I find it disgraceful that your teacher did nothing. You know what though, the sad thing is that they laughed because you presented well. Some people just can't stand to see others succeed. Damn those school days are the worst. Trust me it all changes when you go to uni. My legs were shaking ridiculously for my first uni presentation, and no one gave a ****. People grow up.

    It's perfectly normal to get nervous about presentations, and your reaction to those losers is also perfectly normal. You need to put an end to them though, because they'll just do their best to whittle away at your confidence. But in the mean time just constantly remember how much of a bigger person you are.

    All the bullies in my old school have ended up with nothing, and all those they bullied have turned out ten times as successful.
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    Yesterday...
    I think I know exactly how you feel. It took me a very long time to get out of it (I was terrible at giving presentations) and I can remember trying so many different tactics for dealing with it in the past. Tbch a lot of these were not very effective (e.g. practising more and more presentations). The only thing that really matters is your outlook.

    The most significant change that I made was that I cared less. I realised that anything had to be better than suffering in front of others so I removed the very thing that was causing me to suffer (I do not mean removing the bullies btw). The first step is realising that you can't change the things around you, you can only change yourself. And not the whole of yourself, just the part you don't like about yourself. So you have to remove your insecurity, and how do you do that? You must train yourself to care less.

    I'm not saying it's easy because it is the opposite of what your instincts are telling you to do: to care more and more about this problem which makes you more and more anxious about the next time. It not being easy is what makes it effective. Honestly, once I changed my outlook to this I am now very comfortable and I am still the exact same person. I look forward to being in that situation again because I don't care about it.

    P.S. to clarify 'not caring about it' means 'not feeling like this is a thing that you have to prove yourself in'. It is saying 'listen here, I am good and I do things like this' as opposed to 'I am not good and I will listen to all of you instead'.

    Hope this helps! I'm going to sleep. :sleep:
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    (Original post by ?Hannah)
    Hey, was reading this. I hope that you are okay! There is nothing worse than being laughed at by bullies. But you just need to remember that they are probably intimidated by you, you are probably much more clever - with a better personality. Unfortunately, you cannot stop them, all you can do is try and ignore it, hold your head up high and eventually they will get bored of it. Honestly, even if you don't feel confident - try and come across as being confident, it will be a shock for the bullies. Act cool, unaffected, calm and collected. Even if it is an act, the bullies won't know what to say!

    Don't let these bullies stop you from doing presentations in front of large groups of people. Your presentation was probably exceptionally good and the laughter may have happened due to jealousy. Remember that they only represent a small proportion of society, the majority of humans are actually really lovely! You will meet foul people throughout your life, but it is how you deal with them that matters! Don't bother giving these bullies a response, they are so not worth it. You are a lot better and stronger than them. Do not let them get to you. I know that it is easier said than done, but try and have some self-belief, then it will become easier. I promise.

    People who feel that they have the right to laugh at others are ridiculous excuses for human beings. Anyway, I think that you should feel proud of yourself for actually having the confidence to stand up and present in front of your bullies. Not many people would have the confidence to do that. You should be proud of yourself.

    This is a minuscule section of your life. Soon you will be out of there and can do what you want. Success is the best revenge. Succeed in all your exams, achieve all your goals and then we will see who will be laughing then.
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    Honestly, I had tears in my eyes when reading your post. Why do the worst things have to happen to the best people? People with the purest and kindest hearts always manage to end up being victimised and hurt the most. I hope that you are okay.
    Hey I'm ok now thanks! Friday was great! I felt free of OCD for a whole day!
    That's very true! It hurts so much!
    I doubt that they're intimidated by me, but thanks for those kind comments there! :hugs:
    Ignoring them has started to pay off now. 6 months later and they're finally backing off!
    Hmm that's an interesting tactic! I'll defo give that a go and see how it goes! I hope they're stunned by it tbh!

    I'll try not to! It's the first time I've been laughed at before during a presentation!
    Aww Thankyou! It wasn't the best one I've ever done, but it wasn't the worst either!
    I hope that's what they were laughing for!
    Indeed they do! There are lots of lovely people out there (including you!) and these are in the minority of horrible people!
    It's unfortunate but true. Everyone will meet foul people but I guess we've just got to try and deal with it really.
    No I won't give them a response, my time is too valuable for that, plus they don't deserve one (as you said).
    Thankyou!! You're so kind and sweet!
    It sure is easier said than done but I'll do my best!
    Thankyou!

    Yes I totally agree with you!
    Aww Thankyou! Well I nearly just walked away from it and didn't do it because I was so nervous but I went for it!
    Thankyou so much! It's kinda mandatory to do the presentation but I think I could've done it without them there so...
    But I'm actually quite amazed I did it tbh!

    Yes it is!
    Indeed I can! I've got an apprenticeship to look forward to (they've got nothing sorted yet!).
    Agreed! They will become even more jealous then!
    Thankyou so much for this! It's made me so happy!
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    Aww I didn't mean to upset you! That's the last thing I want to do!
    I've no idea tbh, but they always do unfortunately
    I agree with that! The nice people always get hurt!
    I'm very well now. Just glad that I had a good day after the disaster of Thursday tbh!
    Hope you're well!!!
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    (Original post by Spock's Socks)
    This sort of thing really angers me. The exact same happened to me at college when the typical 'popular' ones laughed at me and mocked me during my talk because I was 'alternative' and all that jazz. It only pissed me off but I can imagine for someone with social anxiety like yourself, it would really knock your confidence down a peg or two which isn't helpful.

    Try your best to ignore them and rise above. You're better than them by miles and it won't be long til summer and you won't have to deal with them. People that mock others are usually trying to mask their own insecurities so they are probably more anxious and unhappy with themselves deep down than you are with yourself.

    :hugs:

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    It angers me too!
    Aww I'm sorry to hear that you've experienced it too!! :hugs: I'm glad that it's all over with and that you managed to get through it all!
    That's no reason for them to laugh at you! Just shows how immature they are!
    It has absolutely knocked my confidence a lot! I struggled to even present it in the first place! I was shaking like crazy beforehand and could barely get the words out when I saw they were laughing.

    I'll do my best but it's not easy!
    Aw Thankyou! I appreciate that!
    6 more days and I never have to see them again!!!
    Hmm that's true, I guess it's because I always try to be positive and happy.
    I also don't complain about everything, like they do!

    Thankyou! :hugs:
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    Yesterday as part of my course, I had to give a presentation at college in front of my bullies.
    Now I don't have much confidence and I was shaking before I had to go up and give mine (everyone had to do one).
    Now theirs went fine, mine went well in my head, until they laughed at me
    It hurt me so much that they would do this seeing as they know I don't have any confidence.
    I'm just so hurt by this.
    What can I do?
    Thanks
    Sad truth is nothing but move on. Bright side is when you finish your course you'll never see them again :laugh:

    One day you'll be their boss so for now just focus on :work:

    Pro tip: We're all gonna make it brah! :jumphug:
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    I find it disgraceful that your teacher did nothing. You know what though, the sad thing is that they laughed because you presented well. Some people just can't stand to see others succeed. Damn those school days are the worst. Trust me it all changes when you go to uni. My legs were shaking ridiculously for my first uni presentation, and no one gave a ****. People grow up.

    It's perfectly normal to get nervous about presentations, and your reaction to those losers is also perfectly normal. You need to put an end to them though, because they'll just do their best to whittle away at your confidence. But in the mean time just constantly remember how much of a bigger person you are.

    All the bullies in my old school have ended up with nothing, and all those they bullied have turned out ten times as successful.
    :hugs:

    I'm used to it now (there were 3 teachers there btw, which just makes it worse).
    Well Thankyou for that!! I appreciate it! I struggled to get the words out once I noticed them laughing though
    No that's very true, they have to be the best and hate it when others succeed too!
    School/college is ****!
    Well I'm going into an apprenticeship instead of uni (I know you didn't know). But it's a professional environment and everyone there is amazing!
    Aww! But you went up and presented and I'm proud of you for that!

    Yeah it's not a nice thing to have to do.
    Ah good, I don't want to be overreacting!
    Well there's only 6 days left and I'll never have to see them again! Ever!
    Yeah they've tried a lot of things over the past 6 months tbh, but I'm just forgetting about it all now!
    Thankyou! I'll try to do that!

    Ah well that's good to hear then!
    It got them no where and I bet they're all super jealous of the people they bullied now!
    I'm very happy to hear that the people who were bullied are now very successful!
    But I'm sorry to hear that they were bullied!
    Thanks for your response! I really appreciate!
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    How?
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    I know it's easier said than done but just block them out. Ignore them. If you give more attention to them and show you're affected by them they'll only do it more.
    Don't ever let people like that bring you down.
    You can't ignore bullies dude. They dont get tired.

    I was once bullied up until I found a weakness of the bully and embarrassed him. That was the last time he stopped bullying me

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    You are above them and their selfish disdain for the feelings of others. Please try to brush off their childishness, they are not worth your time!

    It's easier said than done, but I promise you: the moment you stop caring what these pathetic nobodies think about you, the better you will feel not only towards yourself but generally. Then you will be able to build up your self confidence😊

    You are an awesome person so just surround yourself with people who appreciate you rather than try to tear you down with tasteless and hurtful remarks.
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    Remember this.

    Memorise this.

    They are there to antagonise you; they are there to hurt you and make you feel **** along the way.

    As this is and has been their purpose, it doesn't reflect on you and your ability to do a presentation. Don't fall over because of it; instead get back up and move on. You won't be seeing them forever, so get good grades and make the most of now. Time is the one thing you can't get back.

    Children are mean. Children are cruel. Considering this know that you have been a kinder soul than most. Don't use this as a thing to knock you down; use it as an opportunity to grow stronger, use it as an opportunity to make your skin thick.

    Someone might say "it's easier said then done." But that needn't mean it isn't possible. Resolve yourself now and learn over time to not care what these people think.

    And learn to crush these *******s, by either exacting [petty] revenge or nailing presentations of the sorts.
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    (Original post by marcusgb)
    The hardest thing to do is get up and give the presentation. There will always be haters, and idiots. But presenting is a hard skill and takes practise, much like building confidence.

    You just have to ignore what others think (I know this is a hard thing to do) and practise. Most comedians say it took them hundreds of shows to get good at performance and presentations are the same, so don't beat yourself up.

    As long as you give everything your best in life, you will learn and get better and before you realise you will be successful and worry less about others.

    Those people laughing will be the unsuccessful ones in the long run as they take more pleasure from other failing than they do from their own success!
    Agreed! Its super hard!
    Unfortunately thats true! There always have to be idiots!
    It sure is a hard skill, i agre! Its a skill i dont have unfortunately!

    Well im doing my best really but its incredibly hard (as you said).
    Hmm well i guess it just becomes natural over time really.

    I give as much as i can with everything i do!
    Well i hope thats the case! It would be nice if it is!

    I sure hope theyll be unsucessful! Theyve done no work at all this year!
    Why though? Surely they want to succeed? Or are they just more determined in trying to make me fail?
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    (Original post by indigofox)
    Just take the piss out of them and laugh at yourself a little bit so that they know their comments arnt taken that seriously. I was in the exact same situation as you some women (2 twenty odd year olds and a 40 year old) were always *****ing and smirking at each other every time i spoke out in class, it did wreck my confidence a bit. I tended to eat ham sandwiches and hot chocolate every lunch and they took the piss out of this too saying stuff like 'ham again today katie' then would look znd smirk at each other. One of them told me i had crap hair too. I would just kind of make comments about the sandwiches too and when they struggled with things just said 'well you dont eat enough ham'. One of them said she struggled losing weight and i just blurted out 'get on the ham'. I made myself look like a weirdo and they still *****ed but because i didnt shut up about ham they thought it was pointless making comments to me lol. In fact i should have put a picture of ham on my presentations alongside a pic of a fat woman at the end or something.
    Hey thanks for the response! Apologies for mine being late!

    I may do that but I'm just crap at it! I can't fake laugh at all!
    Aww I'm sorry to hear that those women were being nasty to you!
    You sound perfectly lovely and didn't deserve any of that at all!
    Aw Katie you sound lovely! Those women are mean *******s! You deserve to be around way better people than them! Honestly!
    I hope everything is good now!
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    (Original post by beautifulbigmacs)
    Glad that you'll see the back of those people in a matter of days. Onwards and upwards.

    Just be sure to speak to someone about self esteem and confidence if you feel that would help.

    Good luck dude
    Me too! Apologies for the late response btw!
    Only 6 (well in reality only 1/2 days) so not too bad!
    Onwards and upwards indeed!

    I shall do! I may ask my psychologist about it and see what they say to do!

    Thankyou!
 
 
 
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