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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I prefer to stick to a select few guys instead of one off meetings, I enjoy the company more than I need the money. I might in the future tho
    Why not just have one or two that can pay what all the guys are paying put together, or doubled?
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    (Original post by Memz95)
    I find this rather upsetting, I really do hope you find someone that changes that mentality of yours. Not saying its a bad thing, but what you said seems to carry a lot of hurt with it, that's what I find upsetting.
    I didn't mean to upset you. its just personal from my point of view. sure maybe i've been dating all the wrong kinds but there are still those kinds out there who want everything for nothing. its just your standard relationship knowledge, just as all men would like to have their ego stroked by the woman they are dating, all women would like to be spoilt a little from the men they are dating. a few guys in the past asked ME out but never went to any extremes for me, almost as if they thought I should be grateful that they were with me. even when i asked for something i either got 'why should i pay for it?', some whiney excuse or a simple No.
    got rather annoying after a while. sure i wasn't a perfect girlfriend but i know i did my bit. gave them everything they wanted but getting them to buy me stuff every now and again was too much for them. like i said, i don't want the earth but it would just be nice to get spoilt a little every now and again.
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    I didn't mean to upset you. its just personal from my point of view. sure maybe i've been dating all the wrong kinds but there are still those kinds out there who want everything for nothing. its just your standard relationship knowledge, just as all men would like to have their ego stroked by the woman they are dating, all women would like to be spoilt a little from the men they are dating. a few guys in the past asked ME out but never went to any extremes for me, almost as if they thought I should be grateful that they were with me. even when i asked for something i either got 'why should i pay for it?', some whiney excuse or a simple No.
    got rather annoying after a while. sure i wasn't a perfect girlfriend but i know i did my bit. gave them everything they wanted but getting them to buy me stuff every now and again was too much for them. like i said, i don't want the earth but it would just be nice to get spoilt a little every now and again.
    If you do go into this lifestyle, please don't sell yourself short. Do't let the man dictate what he wants to give you, tell him how much you expect.

    If he can't accomodate it, onto the next.
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    (Original post by sugarflower)
    If you do go into this lifestyle, please don't sell yourself short. Do't let the man dictate what he wants to give you, tell him how much you expect.

    If he can't accomodate it, onto the next.
    don't worry, i have no plans to just settle for anything.
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    How can I get into this line of working are there any specific websites or numbers to call that you could give me?
    Also do services like this exist where you don't have to have sexual contact with clients like a non sexual escort service?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How many of the men are married? And do you mind if they're married or not? I've been wondering whether this would be something I could do in the future but I'm not sure how you'd tell if they are married or not.

    Also, what was your first time like? Did you find it awkward or difficult?
    Some are married, some are not, it really depends. I prefer unmarried just because there's less worry about hiding it but I don't really mind either way. Guys tend to make it clear if they are married or not. If you look for them online, they will usually say whether they're married, divorced, widowed, never married. If they have kids and stuff like that. There's nothing wrong with just asking them either. Good indication that they are married is if they don't want you to message them or call them first. Also if they don't want to be seen in public with you. If you do end up doing it, just skip those. Always have at least the first few meetings in a public place for your own safety

    The first time, what I found most difficult and awkward was the talking bit. It took me a bit to figure out how to act. I'm not someone who can just ramble about random things so that made it a bit more difficult. The first time I had sex with one was fine tho. Luckily for me, he was into exact same things as I was so it felt pretty natural and way better than sex I had with actual boyfriends I had before. That's a common plus of having sex with someone older, they already have the experience and know what to do.
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    (Original post by sugarflower)
    Why not just have one or two that can pay what all the guys are paying put together, or doubled?
    Like I said, for me it's more about the company rather than money. I only usually have 2 or 3 guys I meet up at the same time. And I would rather meet up with someone I like for cheaper rather than spend time with someone I don't and have to pretend I'm enjoying myself just for the money.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How can I get into this line of working are there any specific websites or numbers to call that you could give me?
    Also do services like this exist where you don't have to have sexual contact with clients like a non sexual escort service?
    First decide if you really want to do it. If you can't do sex then it will be difficult to find someone. While it's not necessary for the first few meetings, it is usually expected later on. There are some non-sexual escort companies but I cannot advise you about them as I specifically enjoy the sex. You would have to be able to act elegant and have good manners as most require those kind of escorts for showing off at social events.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Some are married, some are not, it really depends. I prefer unmarried just because there's less worry about hiding it but I don't really mind either way. Guys tend to make it clear if they are married or not. If you look for them online, they will usually say whether they're married, divorced, widowed, never married. If they have kids and stuff like that. There's nothing wrong with just asking them either. Good indication that they are married is if they don't want you to message them or call them first. Also if they don't want to be seen in public with you. If you do end up doing it, just skip those. Always have at least the first few meetings in a public place for your own safety

    The first time, what I found most difficult and awkward was the talking bit. It took me a bit to figure out how to act. I'm not someone who can just ramble about random things so that made it a bit more difficult. The first time I had sex with one was fine tho. Luckily for me, he was into exact same things as I was so it felt pretty natural and way better than sex I had with actual boyfriends I had before. That's a common plus of having sex with someone older, they already have the experience and know what to do.
    It's reassuring to know that they're generally open about whether they're married or not.
    This is quite blunt but before you became a sugar baby, had you had sex a lot before?
    Also, do you ever find it difficult to justify what you're doing? Personally I have no problem with the concept but do you ever find it hard when you get home?
    Thanks for being honest btw.
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    Ahh that explains it. Unfortunately romance seems to be dying here and it's all becoming very cynical and shallow. Do you not worry most guys would be really turned off by a girl who'd sold herself out to lots of other guys?
    Not really. The thing is I'm quite a sexual person. My friends all understand it and see nothing wrong with it so I don't see why someone I would end up with would be against me having done so in the past as long as I am not doing so as I date them. It's not that huge amount of guys either. I don't sleep with a new one every day, or even every week. I stick to 2-3 different guys for long periods of time. Like I've been having meetings with the same guy for almost a year now.
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    with the money you're getting i wouldnt say that you're a sugar baby, just a splenda baby. £200 and less for an overnight is very little imo, sugar babies get way more plus other beenfits, and they usually never host unless the sugar daddy is renting out the apartment specifically for them. you need to up you game before you give advice
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    also it seems like your doing more pay for play than actual sugaring
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It's reassuring to know that they're generally open about whether they're married or not.
    This is quite blunt but before you became a sugar baby, had you had sex a lot before?
    Also, do you ever find it difficult to justify what you're doing? Personally I have no problem with the concept but do you ever find it hard when you get home?
    Thanks for being honest btw.
    I'm quite a sexual person and I've had sex with guys I was dating before. 3 Different guys over the years. But they would just be bad with no idea what they're doing. Also seemed very clingy to me as someone who likes being alone and having free time. I never managed to date someone who managed to satisfy me in bed.

    For me it's pretty natural really. I was always into older guys, if I dated it would always be guys 5+ years older although I did date some my age too. But the ones that lasted longer were always with guys that were quite older. I don't really find it hard at all. To me it's a logical arrangement. I get nice company, actually enjoy the sex and get money for it and the guy gets to enjoy himself too and we both know exactly what we're getting into. I also get support in my studies and work as they can give advice from experience in the same industry.

    What most find wrong about it is actual money changing hands. If a woman and a man go on a date. Both fully knowing that they're in it mostly for the sex. The man pays for dinner, then they have sex afterwards. That all is fine to people because that's how dating works. If the guy then gives the woman a gift that's also fine. But if it's actual cash then that's automatically wrong.

    I joked about it with a male friend a few days ago and it was something like this.
    Imagine as a guy there are two girls you find very attractive. One is your age and another is older. They both insist on giving blowjobs. All of this is obviously awesome as a guy.

    You go out with the younger one, you take her to dinner and have to pay for it. Then at the end of the day she gives you a blowjob but thinks that scraping her teeth feels good.

    You go out with the older one. She earns plenty of money so she pays for the dinner. At the end of the day she gives you a blowjob which is the best one you've had because she has the experience.Which one do you chose?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm quite a sexual person and I've had sex with guys I was dating before. 3 Different guys over the years. But they would just be bad with no idea what they're doing. Also seemed very clingy to me as someone who likes being alone and having free time. I never managed to date someone who managed to satisfy me in bed.

    For me it's pretty natural really. I was always into older guys, if I dated it would always be guys 5+ years older although I did date some my age too. But the ones that lasted longer were always with guys that were quite older. I don't really find it hard at all. To me it's a logical arrangement. I get nice company, actually enjoy the sex and get money for it and the guy gets to enjoy himself too and we both know exactly what we're getting into. I also get support in my studies and work as they can give advice from experience in the same industry.

    What most find wrong about it is actual money changing hands. If a woman and a man go on a date. Both fully knowing that they're in it mostly for the sex. The man pays for dinner, then they have sex afterwards. That all is fine to people because that's how dating works. If the guy then gives the woman a gift that's also fine. But if it's actual cash then that's automatically wrong.

    I joked about it with a male friend a few days ago and it was something like this.
    Imagine as a guy there are two girls you find very attractive. One is your age and another is older. They both insist on giving blowjobs. All of this is obviously awesome as a guy.

    You go out with the younger one, you take her to dinner and have to pay for it. Then at the end of the day she gives you a blowjob but thinks that scraping her teeth feels good.

    You go out with the older one. She earns plenty of money so she pays for the dinner. At the end of the day she gives you a blowjob which is the best one you've had because she has the experience.Which one do you chose?
    You've given me a lot to think about. Thank you for being honest. I'm not sure if it would be right for me but I'll definitely bear it in mind for the future. Thank you!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    with the money you're getting i wouldnt say that you're a sugar baby, just a splenda baby. £200 and less for an overnight is very little imo, sugar babies get way more plus other beenfits, and they usually never host unless the sugar daddy is renting out the apartment specifically for them. you need to up you game before you give advice
    That is cash and there are no overnight stays. It's just a few hours. There are also other benefits like dinner, shopping using their money or occasional holidays also help with my work being in the same industry. I live alone and prefer to go to mine rather than having to travel somewhere or use a hotel for a few hours then go home. If I wanted to I could charge by hour but as I said multiple times, I'm doing it more for the company rather than money. I earn enough from my job to live comfortably without having to do this and, as I said multiple times already, I will rather meet up with someone who pays less and I enjoy my time, rather than someone who pays more and I have to pretend I love being with them.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Basically I'm bored and lately I've seen people talking about being SB or an escort so I figured what the hell. I'm a sugar baby (even tho I hate that 'title' ) and I quite enjoy it. So anyone curious about it, ask me anything.
    so do you suck **** and ride ****
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I already explained this. Sometimes it's just company for the dinner that they pay for too so it's more complicated than charging by sexual act
    Yeah i get that its more complicated than exchanging money for sex and then never seeing them again but an astute person who values her money and services might have an idea of roughly what she is getting per bang .. ?
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    (Original post by Anonymous;[url="tel:66635702")
    66635702[/url]]I'm not going to say how I look for privacy reasons but I'm pretty average, have a few extra pounds so not really skinny or really fat.Sex is usually expected, you can obviously avoid it the first few meetings as you need to see if it's going to go anywhere but after that sex is usual. Which means unless you can enjoy casual sex, better don't do it. For the amount I get it varies by the guy, you usually negotiate it before or during the first meeting. Most guys will do by hour or meeting. I prefer to do it by meeting as I quite enjoy the company and if you do it by hour they tend to rush it so that they only have to pay for one. And if you do it by meeting you can put up the price too and they will pay it even if you only spend 15min together. It's all up to preference. If you stay with one guy longer, you may agree to change it to a monthly allowance or similar.I get offers anywhere from £40 to about £200 a meeting, more if it's a particularly rich guy and not just one with a good job. I usually go for about £100 but if they offer more, I'll take more. They also pay for dinner and some like taking the girls shopping so they pay for everything you pick out too as long as they approve how it looks.
    For some reason I had a slightly more romanticised 'Pretty Woman' view of it with some affection and real gf feel. From what you say it's just paying for sex. I absolutely support people doing what ever the hell they want. But for me, were it a possibility, I would find it a bit demeaning and I would rather have a job and get by.
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    (Original post by Zarek)
    For some reason I had a slightly more romanticised 'Pretty Woman' view of it with some affection and real gf feel. From what you say it's just paying for sex. I absolutely support people doing what ever the hell they want. But for me, were it a possibility, I would find it a bit demeaning and I would rather have a job and get by.
    I think it's more of a gf feel. We act how I would with actual boyfriends beforehand. The thing is, as I've said before, I'm a sexual person so I quite enjoy ending a night on that. But we chat on whatsapp about random things, we go out and do stuff together, sex is just a part of enjoying it. It depends on what you want and what the other person wants and what you both agree on. My first 5 or so meetings with a specific person just ended with a kiss and a goodbye before it moved to more sexual things.

    I do have a job and it gives me enough money to live from. As I said in previous posts it's more about the company than the money for me personally
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    (Original post by Betelgeuse-)
    Yeah i get that its more complicated than exchanging money for sex and then never seeing them again but an astute person who values her money and services might have an idea of roughly what she is getting per bang .. ?
    You can just read the previous post and figure it out yourself. I could go 5 meetings without sex then another one with sex. The amount also varies by person and meeting so it could be anything from £100 to £1000 if you put it like that.
 
 
 
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