Struggling to find a girlfriend Watch
- 10-08-2016 03:35
- Thread Starter
(Original post by Napp)
- 10-08-2016 03:53
Seriously? Hmm makes things slightly harder but never the less. There are plenty of other apps/sites you can go on which you might have more luck on. Failing that the rather stone age method of going to the local watering hole/coffee shop etc. etc. still yeilds results Failing that though just dont put too much thought to it, it'll happen eventually. Besides you're not missing out on much, trust me...
Believe me I'm missing out on a lot and I wasted so much of my life because of my low confidence.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
- 10-08-2016 10:51
I know I'm 21 but you're making it out that I'm young honestly I don't feel well not mentally. I've always felt mentally I'm a few years behind. I know there are people young 14 having boyfriends/girlfriends and social life.
I don't really have any ambitions since I'm just doing nothing. After I finished school I did BTEC level 2 in IT and got myself so I switched to Photograohy level 3 for the last 2 years since IT wasn't for me but I achieved a DMM so I applied for photography at uni last year but got turned them by them all even though I had the grades I think it was to with my work but any ways I'm done with Photograohy. I probably would've had s better chance if I applied at year before when I was still college but oh well. What's done is done.
I'm not the best when it comes to communication skills since I'm very shy talking to girls generally, I often avoid contact, trying to keep conversation flowing and according to my mum she tells me I appear to be very off with people but I don't know what she meant. I suffer from low-self esteem and high anxiety especially in closed spaces and surrounded by big groups of people but apparently I heard girls could sense low confidence from a guy miles away
Why not try to set up your own photography business and develop a portfolio of work and then approach companies?
Or are you interested in anything else? Like video games, construction, finance, etc? You could an an Access course or even an Open University degree.
You are only 21. you should be more confident in yourself, you are worthy and valuable because everyone is, you are capable of giving love, because you are, we are all intrinsically valuable and worthy. I'm sure you have many good qualities. Achievements and money is not everything, it's the person you are is what matters.
You need to practice, volunteer or join clubs out of interest and start mingling with people ask how they am, how their day is going, what have they been up to, what are their plans for the weekend, what they got up to over the weekend, what they do for fun, etc. Be open, laugh easily, be easy going, relax.
You could buy books which deals with conversation and social skills.