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    (Original post by GlitterandGold-x)
    To date someone a friend was seeing casually / had no serious relationship with / was never that into - I can see why that might be ok.
    But to date a best friend's ex immediately after the break-up is sneaky af. Especially as a best friend is someone she would have confided in after the split, and for OP to 'support' her friend whilst shagging the ex is ****ed up.
    Would you be ok with it if your friend screwed your ex immediately after a break-up and didn't tell you about it ?
    Oh - and to give some advice to OP. You ****ed up. Tell your friend what happened, apologise and accept whatever comes your way...
    Oh I wouldn't go out with the girl straight away after the break up, that's just straight up insensitive, but when weeks/months are passing, then the window of opportunity is certainly open.
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    (Original post by Vyres)
    Oh I wouldn't go out with the girl straight away after the break up, that's just straight up insensitive, but when weeks/months are passing, then the window of opportunity is certainly open.
    Fair enough but you obviously didn't read the original post as that is exactly what OP did and you are in support of her. OP said her best friend and her boyfriend broke up like a week ago.

    Edit: OP why did you have sex with him FOUR times?
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    (Original post by lonyeka)
    Fair enough but you obviously didn't read the original post as that is exactly what OP did and you are in support of her. OP said her best friend and her boyfriend broke up like a week ago.
    My mistake then, I should of read the entire post a little more carefully.
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    (Original post by NatoHeadshot)
    She's asking for help and you guys are just telling her she's terrible.
    You know maybe you shouldn't tell her because I'm not sure o the type of friendship you have, but eventually it will come out. As said above, be ready to lose a friend. Don't do it again, and leave any digital evidence of it happening
    Shut up before i shag your ex
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Basically, long story, short.

    My best friend broke up with her on again off again bf,maybe a week ago. Me and her ex work together so on the day they broke up I went to ask what happened and we ended up making out at work.
    Since then we've slept together 3-4 times, this is nothing like me to do this kinda thing, but today my friend told me she wants to get back with him and asked me to help her. I feel really bad as I knew that she would want to get back with him but I don't know what to do, if I should tell her we've been sleeping together or if I should help etc.
    Any advice would be good.
    I don't particularly understand what's been done wrong here, or what the nature of the break up was. If we were all banned (due to social norms) from ****ing our friends ex, humanity wouldn't exist and we'd all be extinct.

    None of you thought of that, did you?

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    You're going to hurt for this...
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    You have no respect for your friend. It's not about him, you don't care about him. This has been a snide way to hurt her; to have the things she had out of jealously. On some level, you have resented her, and that has driven your actions. She's possibly more beautiful/ popular/ smarter than you. Am I wrong?

    Confess! Tell her why you have a problem with her, and why you immediately sought to damage her emotionally so badly. It's the least you can do. It takes guts I'm not sure you have.


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    (Original post by sund1ata)
    You have no respect for your friend. It's not about him, you don't care about him. This has been a snide way to hurt her; to have the things she had out of jealously. On some level, you have resented her, and that has driven your actions. She's possibly more beautiful/ popular/ smarter than you. Am I wrong?

    Confess! Tell her why you have a problem with her, and why you immediately sought to damage her emotionally so badly. It's the least you can do. It takes guts I'm not sure you have.


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    You don't know me or my friends so stop trying makeover sound like I do this stuff to hurt people. So, yes you're wrong.
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    You are a horrible person if you have such a lack of morals that you'd do something so unbelievably hurtful. I'd hate to be your friend.
    She deserves so much better than you, and him.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Basically, long story, short.

    My best friend broke up with her on again off again bf,maybe a week ago. Me and her ex work together so on the day they broke up I went to ask what happened and we ended up making out at work.
    Since then we've slept together 3-4 times, this is nothing like me to do this kinda thing, but today my friend told me she wants to get back with him and asked me to help her. I feel really bad as I knew that she would want to get back with him but I don't know what to do, if I should tell her we've been sleeping together or if I should help etc.
    Any advice would be good.
    This is why the meaning of "best friend"' has lost its value.

    A week after they broke up, you entertained her? Come on bruh, you can do better.


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    (Original post by Vyres)
    I've been in this same situation also (i didn't end up sleeping with the girl), but after my best friend broke up with his girlfriend, me and her got pretty close, and he just absolutely hated it. Whilst I lost him as a friend, I didn't really care to be honest. Some of the things he did/said whilst me and her were close were just completely pathetic, and I'm happy that I finally ditched such a waste of space, because whatever happens your best friend should stick by your side and talk to you, or reason with you instead of going full retard and doing something stupid.
    you're a lousy friend.

    you don't go moving in on your best friends girl after they break up.

    The last thing a person wants to see after a break up is their best friend macking on with their ex. The dude probably still had some feelings her.
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    (Original post by ANM775)
    you're a lousy friend.

    you don't go moving in on your best friends girl after they break up.

    The last thing a person wants to see after a break up is their best friend macking on with their ex. The dude probably still had some feelings her.
    I couldn't care less.
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    ehhh, don't do that. believe me, that really damages friendships. it's happened to me, from both sides
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Basically, long story, short.

    My best friend broke up with her on again off again bf,maybe a week ago. Me and her ex work together so on the day they broke up I went to ask what happened and we ended up making out at work.
    Since then we've slept together 3-4 times, this is nothing like me to do this kinda thing, but today my friend told me she wants to get back with him and asked me to help her. I feel really bad as I knew that she would want to get back with him but I don't know what to do, if I should tell her we've been sleeping together or if I should help etc.
    Any advice would be good.
    What you did is sort of stupid but let me explain my point. Sleeping with your (best) friends' ex isn't necessarily a bad thing (I see nothing wrong with it) but the speed at which it happened surprised me, they broke up and you made out on the very same day-that is crazy lol. Since then you've had sex as well. I think the guy is a jackass (this is coming from a single guy perspective), he just took up the first opportunity for sex he got even though he just broke up with his girl.

    Either way best thing to do would be to own up and tell your best friend and try and put the blame on the ex-bf (lol), like he came on to you. As selfish as it sounds it will lesson the blow-but nonetheless expect to lose your female best friend. Learn from this and don't do it again (as people have mentioned multiple times!).

    How old are you by the way? I would expect this stuff to happen to teens or immature people, I certainly hope your not in your 20's lol.
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    No idea why people are acting all holier than thou in this thread. It's primarily a question of his morals if they've split up. If they can't maintain a stable relationship then I see no real need to get all dramatic about it. If they're not right for each other then she should move on, and if shagging this lad isn't right for you, then you should stop doing it. Simples
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    No idea why people are acting all holier than thou in this thread. It's primarily a question of his morals if they've split up. If they can't maintain a stable relationship then I see no real need to get all dramatic about it. If they're not right for each other then she should move on, and if shagging this lad isn't right for you, then you should stop doing it. Simples
    Because when you know your "best friend" is still really into her ex, sleeping with her ex makes you a really **** excuse for a friend? Simples
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    No idea why people are acting all holier than thou in this thread. It's primarily a question of his morals if they've split up. If they can't maintain a stable relationship then I see no real need to get all dramatic about it. If they're not right for each other then she should move on, and if shagging this lad isn't right for you, then you should stop doing it. Simples
    When your "best friend" shags your ex, you will understand, simples. *meerkat squeeks*


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    (Original post by A-LJLB)
    you know your "best friend" is still really into her ex
    Don't remember reading that in the OP but sure, that being the case, it's shady. Otherwise, fair game!

    (Original post by babyshawte)
    When your "best friend" shags your ex, you will understand, simples
    Never going to happen (and not just because I have no friends) :gah:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Basically, long story, short.

    My best friend broke up with her on again off again bf,maybe a week ago. Me and her ex work together so on the day they broke up I went to ask what happened and we ended up making out at work.
    Since then we've slept together 3-4 times, this is nothing like me to do this kinda thing, but today my friend told me she wants to get back with him and asked me to help her. I feel really bad as I knew that she would want to get back with him but I don't know what to do, if I should tell her we've been sleeping together or if I should help etc.
    Any advice would be good.
    Bad, bad, very bad :spank:
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Don't remember reading that in the OP but sure, that being the case, it's shady. Otherwise, fair game!
    She wanted to get back with her ex :yep:
 
 
 
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