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    (Original post by cbreef)
    Well if that's you in the picture I am not surprised. You have been blessed with good looks. Others aren't so lucky

    It's Alexis Ren, not me. Excuse me, I'm sure you look beautiful.
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    That day was so weird lol "You look so pretty" I thought to myself umm Are you saying I don't look pretty other days lmao
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    (Original post by bluemadhatter)
    Hehe :hugs: Yes you go giirlll!!! Compliments just give you this different type of power than just makes you feel you can take over the world :lol:



    You don't have to have a dream job? LOADS of people don't know what they want to do or don't have a dream job, its all about finding something you are good at or enjoy.

    You are 18 years old. Its up to YOU what you want to do and if you don't know yet that is PERFECTLY okay. Get a job right now in retail or something and work for a year part time or full time, earn some money and do some volunteering work or some work experience in things that interest you. And also if you are not mentally allowed to work then explain that to your parents and just try and volunteer somewhere. You'll eventually find out what you want to do but it shouldn't be a pressured decision. Sit down with your parents and explain to them situation and what you are going to do next.
    Well I did have a dream job (can you guess what it was?)
    But after seeing they're looking for absolute human perfection I gave up.
    Seriously they want straight A*'s in every single exam you've ever done in your life. It's ridiculous. And then they pick you based from a very large number of applicants.
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    (Original post by cbreef)
    Well I did have a dream job (can you guess what it was?)
    But after seeing they're looking for absolute human perfection I gave up.
    Seriously they want straight A*'s in every single exam you've ever done in your life. It's ridiculous. And then they pick you based from a very large number of applicants.
    Pilot or... what about being an airplane engineer or maker etc?
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    Hey where is my help for my case!

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    haha wow. loving the memes!
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    Hey where is my help for my case!

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    Do I even have to tell you how brilliant you are? I know you've worked SUPER hard to try and make yourself confident in your own body but sometimes I just feel like you do it to please other people and that is really the wrong intentions because a) People should love you for YOU and you have an awesome personality so... and b) Everything you do should be for yourself and nobody else. Also stop worrying about finding someone and just enjoy life! Enjoy experiences and socialising and eventually you'll meet someone who loves you for you :kissing2:

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    haha wow. loving the memes!
    Thank you :hugs:
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    Easy to say maya but much harder to do
    this is still a very cute thread tho and im really happy how much more confident and happy you are now :cube: x
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    Easy to say maya but much harder to do
    this is still a very cute thread tho and im really happy how much more confident and happy you are now :cube: x
    Awwww :hugs: I could write essays tbh about how fabulous, kind, awesome and great you are but I know where your mindset is atm and you never seem to believe me :sad: I think that when you finally go to unii, you will find people who bring you up and know how BRILLIANT you are and tell you every day and you will finally start believing it and your self esteem will shoot up. Like I said in a previous post, its all about the people you surround yourself. I love you lots :kissing2:
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    (Original post by bluemadhatter)
    Do I even have to tell you how brilliant you are? I know you've worked SUPER hard to try and make yourself confident in your own body but sometimes I just feel like you do it to please other people and that is really the wrong intentions because a) People should love you for YOU and you have an awesome personality so... and b) Everything you do should be for yourself and nobody else. Also stop worrying about finding someone and just enjoy life! Enjoy experiences and socialising and eventually you'll meet someone who loves you for you :kissing2:



    Thank you :hugs:
    thank you <3
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    (Original post by bluemadhatter)
    Hello!

    So I read through some of your threads and it seems some of your issues are OCD, having a history of being bullied and sometimes feeling down (if its depression let me know because I have a lot of experience with this one and can maybe offer some advice?)? Correct me if I'm wrong. I'll start off with explaining why I think you don't have a lot of confidence. Being bullied is something that is very emotionally scarring whether you want to believe it effected you or not. When people are constantly putting you down, of course your confidence is going to go from 100 to 0 because you start believe what they say and that's how insecurities and low self esteem issues are born. The MAIN way to try and kind of make up for all that is to surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself. You are actually a brilliant amazing person and you need people to recognise this so that you start believing it yourself. You need people who embrace how funny and kind you are and tell you! You need people who you can 100% talk to without being judged because they know that your issues are just issues and everyone goes through them. Where do I find those people you ask? First you have gotta realise your worth and KNOW that you deserve these types of people. You need to learn to socialise with a variety of people and join clubs that you find interesting because mutual interests is always a great starter conversation! Correct me if I've made any mistakes and if you have any other issues you'd like to talk about tell me
    Hey! Sorry about the late reply! Was having issues but tonight is ok so far!

    Thankyou so much for this! It truely means a lot to me!
    Wow I didn't know you knew about those, but yes it is depression.
    You're absolutely right about all of those! The bullying is no longer ongoing (I've left college now) but the mental scars are still there!
    Yeah I agree with that 100% It was a bad experience and I'm just trying to recover from it now!
    Ah right ok then, tbh that's everyone on here that I speak to! I have no real life friends (except for work mates! But they don't know about this)
    But yes I'll do that!
    Aww Thankyou! You're brilliant too!
    Aw well I hope people belive this, I know I don't currently but hopefully over time it will change!
    Yeah I guess I need them, just a question of whether I can find anyone! I don't know anyone like that in person so that sucks!
    I'm really introverted though so that's not working in my favour. So socialising is something incredibly hard for me!
    You're absolutely spot on with everything you've said here! I can't Thankyou enough!
    Well there are other issues but let's not get into that now.
 
 
 
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