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    (Original post by A-LJLB)
    I'm so so so sorry.
    I really hope you have the best 8 months of your life, I hope you're not in too much pain. Do everything and anything you want to do, you can still live the life you want x
    It's okay, thank you I'm in a lot of pain now but I'll be okay. I will do.
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    (Original post by Ayaz789)
    Im so sorry to hear this :console: well id say sort any problems you had with anyone & if you have borrowed money or anything then sort that out! Then id say do what you enjoy! & i wish you the best of luck but such sad news

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 18 and have cancer. I got told today that it spread and there's nothing else no one can do.
    Assuming this is all true (no offence), then iy would take soem times to sink in. I would be in shock, even if I expected it and it would be kind of surreal.

    I would probably do what you are now and think what the best way to use the time would be. Its going to take soem time to sink in, but I would try and accept it as quickly as possible and then go about getting the most out of the time left.

    I'm not sure if youd want me to mention soem things that are a bit grim and less fluffy than other people mention about some of the practicalities.

    1. mini bucket list- bearing in mind whats possible and how much you would get out of each experience. There are sites specialising in bucket lists.
    2. Talk to the people you love and love you- make sure they knew how much they meant, not let them be too sad and give them each some idea of how youd like to be remembered.
    3. Plan my funeral, so I knew it was going to get the one I wanted
    4. Get a clear understanding of what might happen, so I felt in control and less afraid rather than overhwlemed and helpless.
    5. Make a commitment to myself, to be kind and look out for me during these last months and not be afraid to be a little bit selfish in order to protect myself.
    6. Do enough of the things I felt were rewarding in whatever way and made me feel good. That might be experiences, helping others, helping yourself etc whatever it was it would be ok.
    7. Its ok to feel sad, just try and not let it push out the time you need for all the above.
    8. Be clear in your plan and tell others what you would like and how they shouldnt behave around you (its your perogative) sad faces all the time is a bit dull and they cna do that after.
    9. Never give up, fight to make the most of each day and aim for when you look back towards the ned you have as few regrest as possible of what you have done between now and then.
    10, Bear in mind its an estimate so it can be longer.

    That would be my starting point and i would be keeping notes on all these areas to make sure it went as I wanted. It would also keep me busy. Just remember its your time and no one elses. You can afford to be selfish and use it how you like, whatever your reaction and choices ( non criminal ones) they are ok, Dont let other people start pushing you into directions you dont wish to go or expecting you to react in one way when you feel like another.

    I am so sorry about your situation. I can only imagine partly how you might feel.
    I hope you make it the most rewarding and satisfying 8 months ever. You cna still achieve a lot within that time.

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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Assuming this is all true (no offence), then iy would take soem times to sink in. I would be in shock, even if I expected it and it would be kind of surreal.

    I would probably do what you are now and think what the best way to use the time would be. Its going to take soem time to sink in, but I would try and accept it as quickly as possible and then go about getting the most out of the time left.

    I'm not sure if youd want me to mention soem things that are a bit grim and less fluffy than other people mention about some of the practicalities.

    1. mini bucket list- bearing in mind whats possible and how much you would get out of each experience. There are sites specialising in bucket lists.
    2. Talk to the people you love and love you- make sure they knew how much they meant, not let them be too sad and give them each some idea of how youd like to be remembered.
    3. Plan my funeral, so I knew it was going to get the one I wanted
    4. Get a clear understanding of what might happen, so I felt in control and less afraid rather than overhwlemed and helpless.
    5. Make a commitment to myself, to be kind and look out for me during these last months and not be afraid to be a little bit selfish in order to protect myself.
    6. Do enough of the things I felt were rewarding in whatever way and made me feel good. That might be experiences, helping others, helping yourself etc whatever it was it would be ok.
    7. Its ok to feel sad, just try and not let it push out the time you need for all the above.
    8. Be clear in your plan and tell others what you would like and how they shouldnt behave around you (its your perogative) sad faces all the time is a bit dull and they cna do that after.
    9. Never give up, fight to make the most of each day and aim for when you look back towards the ned you have as few regrest as possible of what you have done between now and then.
    10, Bear in mind its an estimate so it can be longer.

    That would be my starting point and i would be keeping notes on all these areas to make sure it went as I wanted. It would also keep me busy. Just remember its your time and no one elses. You can afford to be selfish and use it how you like, whatever your reaction and choices ( non criminal ones) they are ok, Dont let other people start pushing you into directions you dont wish to go or expecting you to react in one way when you feel like another.

    I am so sorry about your situation. I can only imagine partly how you might feel.
    I hope you make it the most rewarding and satisfying 8 months ever. You cna still achieve a lot within that time.

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    These are very good points thank you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    These are very good points thank you.
    NP if you wnat me to elaborate on any of them then feel free to drop me a PM.
    I think 2 is most important. You cna also learn a fair amount from how other people have dealt with it, then pick and choose what suits you.

    Your situation isnt a stranger to me. Make sure you eat something nice and watch soemthing that makes you feel nice (even for a short time) or makes you smile. I hope you have a good support system.
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    I would try to make them the best 8 months ever.I don't mean this in a nasty way but you and by extension the rest of us are never going to be alive again.So now you are free to just do whatever you want.That person you have a crush on.Tell them how you feel,you might as well.Go and see the world.Money doesn't matter anymore.And if it were me I'd go out on my own terms.If chemotherapy proves fruitless and makes you ill then I wouldn't continue with it.When its time to go its time to go.There is no point in extending the length of life if its not worth it.I'm sorry this is happening to you,no one should die so young.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 18 and have cancer. I got told today that it spread and there's nothing else no one can do.
    I'm sorry to hear that.. if you don't mind me asking.. how did you find out ?

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    I really can't imagine how terrible it must be to hear that.

    I can't imagine I would to anything meaningful in those 8 months. Doing anything would seem futile knowing I would be dead in just a few months.
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    I'm sorry to hear that.. if you don't mind me asking.. how did you find out ?

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    I had a scan and some tests.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It's okay, thank you I'm in a lot of pain now but I'll be okay. I will do.
    You really are an incredible young woman. I hope a miracle happens. You're amazing.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I had a scan and some tests.
    Were you ill before that .. were you suffering from any serious symptoms or anything?

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    https://youtu.be/dzL6BLPAFBo

    This is a must watch. it's a real life story about a cancer patient.. real inspirational
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    (Original post by A-LJLB)
    You really are an incredible young woman. I hope a miracle happens. You're amazing.
    Aww thank you it brought brought a tear to my eye.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey,

    So I've been given eight months left to live.

    What would you do if you got this news? Any activities you would do?
    Hmmm~

    I hope you are are joking~

    Else, that is a question only one person can answer and that person is you~
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    I'm terribly sorry to hear that, it really is heartbreaking to receive a news like this..
    If I were to leave in 8 months, I would spend most of it doing the right things honestly. Ofc it is just damn amazing to borrow and spend a ton of money and enjoy life to the fullest, but at the same time I really wouldn't want to have any burdens on my family, friends, and such. I would try out things that I wanted to do but I couldn't, for example going to a firing range, driving a motorcycle, etc.

    But because I really love my family and friends, I honestly wouldn't want any of them to be in vain as I leave, so I would keep up a positive face, reassure others that it's alright, even if it's just words. I guess you could call it being selfless, but I have been quite selfless for the most of the time and it's going to be weird if I change at last moment.
    (Or to not make my family and friends worry about me, I could become a total d*ck and a**hole and make everyone hate me and do whatever the f*ck I want, ofc. But it's just not my personality to do that xD)

    At the same time, doing whatever you want to do is not always doing the most exciting things. I would enjoy some time watching movies (not series tho, they will get me frustrated), listening to music, playing guitar and games, just chilling out and doing whatever that makes me happy. I would definitely try to finish off songs that I have been writing for 2 years (procrastination goes a long way), and finish off books (oops procrastination hits again) that I didn't finish.

    I would get myself ready to accept the fact that I am leaving, forever, to the afterlife that no one knows about. I am not religious, but my scientific curiosity would take me there. I would listen to sad songs and waste time watching memes, just being me. Being a guitarist, I would want to drop down while I'm performing on stage with a lot of people, because I enjoy performing on stage. And it's just gonna look SIIICK like slamming on the last rock chord with heavy distortion and falling down, closing eyes and realising that I'm dying the most kickass way hahaha

    Sorry for this essay geez, feels like I wrote my story even before listening to yours properly. I am interested to hear about what you would plan to do, anything really. Again all my heart is with you, and if it's ok, I'm leaving one of my favourite songs ever. Emotional af, hope I haven't offended you and hope you won't cry.

    My Chemical Romance - Cancer
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tE1kHJrlI3Q
    I am not related to this youtube account, so all credits go to MCR and the youtube channel who made it
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    There must be somethings that you always wanted to do,now is the time to do them. If you felt up to it,i d start by eating everything you d ever wanted to and look into seeing whatever you could of the world.
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    BIG HUGGGGGG
    i dont know what else to say but you should do everything you wanted to do
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    I'm very sorry to hear that. I would focus on the positives if I was you, although I understand it's difficult. I would get the most out of life and do the things that you dreamt of?
    But, may God give you a long and healthy life. :jumphug:
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    Do anything that makes you and those you care about happy. Leave something special for people in your life.
    This makes me want to work harder to become a research scientist!
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    I admire you for reaching out and being so thoughtful about how to make the best of your situation. My main thoughts are to be kind to yourself, be mindful when it is possible and spend time with loved ones. If you feel like it, I think it would be a wonderful idea to create something to help them remember and hold onto a part of you, be it a letter, story, video, music, photos, pieces of artwork or anything else.

    I also want to link you to a YouTube channel; it may seem random at first as it's not about cancer, but it is about life with a serious illness and I've always found Mary and Peter's outlooks so inspirational. If you're looking for guidance on how to appreciate every moment that you have, they are good people to turn to. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFJ...dXs6YuM5KW7r7g

    There are also many others out there in situations more similar to yours who have written or vlogged about their experience of cancer and dying. If you feel it might help, you can seek specialist counselling to help you sort out your thoughts and feelings about the process. Try meditation, listening to music and spending time in nature if you'd like to and are able to. And remember that you are not alone. Sooner or later, each and every one of us will die and, whatever you will believe in, it will in itself be the start of something new -- whether the nutrients in our bodies go towards making new life, or whether we ourselves continue on in another place.

    Sending hugs and gentleness. I wholeheartedly hope that the next few months are filled with people and experiences that you love.
 
 
 
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