Girls aren't attracted to nice guys Watch

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Fair enough. It's still astounding that you get girls.
well, I mean, I do.
well, okay, I'll level with you - "I do from time to time".
and when I do, it's because I'm not a "nice guy"(tm)
I mean, I've been out twice in 2 weeks, and each time, I either brought a girl home, or I made out with one.
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girls are attracted to good looks
if you're good looking then it doesn't matter if you are a nice boy or an ass
that's true, but if he's very handsome yet has some serious personality problems then he's not going to last that long talking to an attractive girl.
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Yup, I prefer strong headed, uber social, alpha guys with a strong sense of pride and a superior intellect to mine.

I'm really shy and introverted myself, so we'd have an interesting dynamic..
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Sometimes, there is something extremely attractive in a guy who isn't overly nice or eager - it's almost like an exciting game, and you soon become really drawn to that guy too. But, again, sometimes you meet someone so naturally lovely and kind of wholesome and you just can't help but be attracted to that person's personality. It always depends on the situation, so there can never really be a clear yes or no answer as to whether girls like nice guys or not.

Really good answer.
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Woman will always prefer "alpha males", it's just simple biology period.

Historically a conquering army/tribe would kill off the armies losing Men and take and distribute the women between them. This was also a way for women to stay alive back then.
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Honestly i don't think this is true, i went through a douche stage when i started going to the gym and making gains this did lead me to getting girls however none of them stayed because i acted like a complete douche
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Women like abs whether there attached to a good boy or bad
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Personally, i see nothing wrong with " nice guys", infact if the guy I like is the type to not be honest about their feelings (an attribute I loathe in both boys and girls) and is rude then... well I guess we're done here aren't we.
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Woman will always prefer "alpha males", it's just simple biology period.

Historically a conquering army/tribe would kill off the armies losing Men and take and distribute the women between them. This was also a way for women to stay alive back then.
False, this may be a common occurrence, but it isn't "always". Types of men/women and their sexualities and preferences are largerly diverse, and it makes sense for this diversity to be built into biology, in order to ensure the survival of a species.

As an example, I don't particularly find Alpha Males attractive, I don't need a man to necessarily be decisive or a strong leader, that's not something I look for. In fact, when you look more closely, you see many people attracted to what is not deemed "conventionally attractive" such as some young men attracted to women ten or more years older than them, or women who like the less masculine type of man.

I can't count the number of times I've seen this topic in my 11 years on this forum, but I'll answer how I have before - often it isn't the "niceness" that's unattractive, it's that the so called "nice" guy cares so much about what others think (particularly potential girlfriends) that nice deeds come from a place of insecurity. It can often be a bad boy's apparent self assurance that can be initially attractive, but often comes unstuck later on if they really are "bad".

If you can have a mindset of being self assured, but also decent, you're onto a winner. It takes time and a change of mental habits, but the more we challenge the thought that what others think somehow has some bearing on us, the more confident we become.
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(Original post by sleepysnooze)
I can confirm
being funny and cocky all rolled into one is the best way to attract girls
nothing gets a girl dryer than a nice guy. nice guys are boring. they offer no excitement.
Spot on
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(Original post by sleepysnooze)
you'll have to be more specific - I'm not really that cocky on here
Any level of cocky. So try again.


The trouble lies in people's definitions of "nice guy". The men who complain that girls don't go for "nice guys", identify as nice guys themselves, but in reality they aren't.

They think that showering a girl with compliments, pining over her, and doing anything and everything for her in order to get her to bed is "nice guy" behaviour. But it's not. Truth is, most girls see right through it, it's not genuine if you are only being nice because you want a shag.

In my eyes I have much more respect for a man who is nice and considerate to people regardless of his interest in them, but at the same time isn't a carpet, doesn't do anything that's asked of him in order to ingratiate himself to the woman. But when needs to, puts his foot down. That is a guy I respect. No he's not cocky, he's not a "bad boy", just an honest, respectable man.

You guys are so clueless :rofl:


One of the biggest turn offs for me, is when a guy tries to compliment you by putting down other women. And I find that many guys who think of themselves as "nice guys" do this.


Oh and just because you are the reverse of a bad boy, just because you are quiet and geeky, that does not make you a nice guy. :rofl:
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(Original post by Twinpeaks)
Any level of cocky. So try again.


The trouble lies in people's definitions of "nice guy". The men who complain that girls don't go for "nice guys", identify as nice guys themselves, but in reality they aren't.

They think that showering a girl with compliments, pining over her, and doing anything and everything for her in order to get her to bed is "nice guy" behaviour. But it's not. Truth is, most girls see right through it, it's not genuine if you are only being nice because you want a shag.

In my eyes I have much more respect for a man who is nice and considerate to people regardless of his interest in them, but at the same time isn't a carpet, doesn't do anything that's asked of him in order to ingratiate himself to the woman. But when needs to, puts his foot down. That is a guy I respect. No he's not cocky, he's not a "bad boy", just an honest, respectable man.

You guys are so clueless :rofl:


One of the biggest turn off for me, is when a guy tries to compliment you by putting down other women. And I find that many guys who think of themselves as "nice guys" do this.


Oh and just because you are the reverse of a bad boy, just because you are quiet and geeky, that does not make you a nice guy.
So THAT'S why my go-to pickup line, "You seem like a nice person. Blow me." doesn't work.
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(Original post by sleepysnooze)
well, you're almost completely correct - if you treat her as if you're better then she'll chase you, because girls (and basically anybody) want what they think they can't easily get
Bull ****. Complete and utter bs.
Any respecting girl will run for the hills.

Although you might harbour some success with girls suffering low self esteem. What you just stated is actually a mechanism used by perpetrators of domestic abuse, lowering the woman's (or man's) self-value by persistently insinuating you are the better one. And then you are more likely to retain her/ him despite your poor behaviour, because they feel you are the best they deserve.

I cannot stand that you think you are some big success with women, you are probably absolutely hanging mate :rofl: Jog on.

(Original post by 13 1 20 8 42)
typically a "nice guy" is someone who treats women as though they are not people but rather some ethereal superior beings...of course this is not attractive.


Yes!! This.


(Original post by Anonymous)
Woman will always prefer "alpha males", it's just simple biology period. Historically a conquering army/tribe would kill off the armies losing Men and take and distribute the women between them. This was also a way for women to stay alive back then.
Probably the worst reply on here. It's not biology, it's psychology you blundering idiot. I can't even be bothered to educate a mind as small as yours.
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I'm 17. Still a loner
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Maybe because the majority of self-proclaimed "nice guys" are actually whiny, entitled, irritating brats who expect attention and sex because they were a decent person towards a woman maybe once in their lives and aren't nearly as nice as they think they are. Also can we stop pretending the reason women don't want to have sex with you is because they're all attracted to one type of man and just accept the fact that maybe it's your fault women don't like you because your personality sucks lmao.
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(Original post by ||TheUnknown||)
Sometimes, there is something extremely attractive in a guy who isn't overly nice or eager - it's almost like an exciting game, and you soon become really drawn to that guy too. But, again, sometimes you meet someone so naturally lovely and kind of wholesome and you just can't help but be attracted to that person's personality. It always depends on the situation, so there can never really be a clear yes or no answer as to whether girls like nice guys or not.
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Maybe because the majority of self-proclaimed "nice guys" are actually whiny, entitled, irritating brats who expect attention and sex because they were a decent person towards a woman maybe once in their lives and aren't nearly as nice as they think they are. Also can we stop pretending the reason women don't want to have sex with you is because they're all attracted to one type of man and just accept the fact that maybe it's your fault women don't like you because your personality sucks lmao.
Why would you have to go anonymous to say this? Just let it all hang out, man.

There's a difference between a nice guy and a guy who is terrified of women and treats them like they are a glass menagerie - Fragile and beautiful and need to be placed on a shelf far above the world.
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lol boys are so whiny, shut up.
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you need a wallet that a bench vice closes, to swig champagne in the afternoon, at least one Rolex and some gold jewellery
then OP you will get the attention
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Why would you have to go anonymous to say this? Just let it all hang out, man.

There's a difference between a nice guy and a guy who is terrified of women and treats them like they are a glass menagerie - Fragile and beautiful and need to be placed on a shelf far above the world.

Yeah exactly. But which of those groups do you think complain that being a nice guy leads to rejection?

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you need a wallet that a bench vice closes, to swig champagne in the afternoon, at least one Rolex and some gold jewellery
then OP you will get the attention

Because the working class never get laid.
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