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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah you're right. I suppose things are different if you're brought up in a religious household like he and I both are. My mother is allowed to have male friends, likewise my father is allowed to speak to his female friends, but I don't think my father would like it much if my mother went and said 'okay so I'm going out with Adam for dinner, bye', it would just sound weird because it's not like them to do, so maybe my boyfriend isn't too bad.

    I think he might be okay with me having male friends, just not meeting up with them, I haven't tried asking him questions about this again seeing as I've already brought it up with him twice in the past day, I'll wait a bit before interrogating again :P
    I'd keep a close eye that it doesn't escalate further though. 'I don't like other men looking at my woman' is a very unhealthy attitude because where do you draw the line? That kind of attitude is leads to women wearing veils and not being allowed out of the house without a male escort.

    It is really jealous to think like that. Others may look and there is not a lot to do to defend against that.
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    (Original post by Sternumator)
    I'd keep a close eye that it doesn't escalate further though. 'I don't like other men looking at my woman' is a very unhealthy attitude because where do you draw the line? That kind of attitude is leads to women wearing veils and not being allowed out of the house without a male escort.

    It is really jealous to think like that. Others may look and there is not a lot to do to defend against that.
    Hmm yes I did think of this myself. I don't think he'd expect me to wear a veil because I have seen his mother, and she doesn't wear a veil either. He said that he used to prefer women that covered their hair, but hesitated and said he doesn't mind whether I do or not (I don't) because he says he knows I'm a good girl anyway, so hopefully we've cleared that up. It's just weird to get so possessive when we've only been together a few weeks.
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    males often have an agenda when it comes their female friends..

    I remember dating a girl before and she had about 850 male facebook friends, and about 50 female friends. and near enough every photo i saw of her ..she was like the only female in the photo surrounded by bare manz

    when i went out on our first date. one of her male friends happened to be there and he hit on her. On facebook too ...some other male "friend" kept writing love songs directed at her from his wall.

    anyways, things didn't really work out between us ...but sometimes i would still glance at her wall and i saw a childhood "friend" from another freaken country declare his love for her ...and they then had some sort of online romance for ages ....but eventually she ended up dating a different guy ...and yep you guessed another male "friend"

    women with lots of male friends are just bad news the majority of the time

    often they are too blind or naive to see the reason why these guys have befriended her.

    my female flatmate as well, she was in a serious long term LDR, and each time she went clubbing with her male friends they would hit on her and i know for a fact one of them ended up sleeping in her BED several times....

    your boyfriend obviously has got common sense and knows what many males are like,

    sneaky, scheming and with ulterior motives
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    males often have an agenda when it comes their female friends..

    I remember dating a girl before and she had about 850 male facebook friends, and about 50 female friends. and near enough every photo i saw of her ..she was like the only female in the photo surrounded by bare manz

    when i went out on our first date. one of her male friends happened to be there and he hit on her. On facebook too ...some other male "friend" kept writing love songs directed at her from his wall.

    anyways, things didn't really work out between us ...but sometimes i would still glance at her wall and i saw a childhood "friend" from another freaken country declare his love for her ...and they then had some sort of online romance for ages ....but eventually she ended up dating a different guy ...and yep you guessed another male "friend"

    women with lots of male friends are just bad news the majority of the time

    often they are too blind or naive to see the reason why these guys have befriended her.

    my female flatmate as well, she was in a serious long term LDR, and each time she went clubbing with her male friends they would hit on her and i know for a fact one of them ended up sleeping in her BED several times....

    your boyfriend obviously has got common sense and knows what many males are like,

    sneaky, scheming and with ulterior motives
    Hm yeah I understand what you're saying. In my personal experience, a lot of my male friends do eventually end up speaking flirtatiously with me and liking me - when I on the other hand think of them strictly as a friend, they even start turning kind of sexual sometimes. I did give him the benefit of the doubt, because he has many male friends himself, and being one himself he would know more about what boys are thinking than I do I suppose.
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    He sounds like a ****. I would not put up with a girl telling me I couldn't hang round other girls.
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    (Original post by MagicNMedicine)
    He sounds like a ****. I would not put up with a girl telling me I couldn't hang round other girls.
    This.

    Jealousy is never a good thing.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Okay so basically I've been with a guy for about a month now, we speak on the phone often, we text and meet each other and everything is going really nicely. I told him I'm going to London in a couple of weeks to meet my friend, his immediate question is '..is this friend a man or a woman?' I say 'woman' and he'll say 'good, you know I love you, don't go meeting with men'. I remember a week after we got together, I said I was planning on going on holiday with a friend next year, again 'er is your friend male?' 'Oh okay perfect'.

    Is this just normal protective boyfriend behaviour or is he a bit controlling? I found it cute at first but idk.
    Leave him.
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    That's how abuse develops. Leave ASAP!
 
 
 
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