boyfriends doesnt care

Can you think of any good possible realistic reasons?

PS. a girl who enjoys playing xbox/ps3/etc is far superior to those who don't

hi, ive been going out with my boyfriend for a year and a month now, i love hom loads. i personally think he has a problem with computers and computer games, he always seems to need to go and play his pc games, last night we had an arguement, i will admit it started through my paranoia but when trying to sort it out with him he completely ignored me i was trying to make up and he was sitting there on his computer talking to his mate on MSN, every time i cry he takes the micky, i tried to talk to him today and he completely ignored what i had said and replied with somrthing about radiohead, im just wondering is it normal for boys to act like this in arguements like that

thanks

im trying that, im quite a paranoid person though so i get paranoid about him going out and cheating etc, i know! its stupid, its just the way i am, he tells me all the time he wont cheat but ...i dont know,im gonna try "playing hard to get" haha

Let's face it, he won't go out and cheat because he's obviously not bothered about female company. He'll just sit there playing videogames.

All you guys who are accusing the OP of being a nag, all she wants is for her boyfriend to spend time with her when she comes to see him. It's not an unreasonable request.

quite hard to do that, he avoids any type of confrontation, i have even confronted him that he avoids it, and he just says something like "i love you shut up"

ah this is an on going thing, i shouldny have started this thread. i must sound like an idiot, i am thankful for everyones opinions though

Maybe he's going through a bad patch. Are you close to any of his friends? It might be worth asking them to see if he's alrite or if he's got a bit of a beef at the moment.

neh no beef, hes doing ok

Do you go out a lot? like cinema, meal etc?

(we were always stuck at eachothers houses!!)

Why don't you try playing the computer games with him? I don't understand relationships where the couples don't share their interests - for example if you enjoyed doing pottery but he thought it was really stupid, wouldn't you think it would be nice if he came in one day and said he'd like to see how you do it, for you to teach him some stuff, etc?

Even if he's not a big fan of it, he could learn to enjoy it, and if not then at least he gave it a try and you've done something together.

So next time he's going on the computer, just ask him if you can watch and if he can explain what he's doing and why - then ask if you can have a go. I know people can be addicted to games (I think some people are overdoing the "OMG HE'S ADDICTED" thing here though lol), but I'm sure he'd enjoy sitting by you teaching you how to do things on the game.

Once you're good enough, you can do 2 player, and you can say things like "OK we'll get to the next level then we'll go to bed!" or "Right, no way are we going to bed until we finish this section!!"

PS. a girl who enjoys playing xbox/ps3/etc is far superior to those who don't

Why don't you try playing the computer games with him? I don't understand relationships where the couples don't share their interests - for example if you enjoyed doing pottery but he thought it was really stupid, wouldn't you think it would be nice if he came in one day and said he'd like to see how you do it, for you to teach him some stuff, etc?

Even if he's not a big fan of it, he could learn to enjoy it, and if not then at least he gave it a try and you've done something together.

So next time he's going on the computer, just ask him if you can watch and if he can explain what he's doing and why - then ask if you can have a go. I know people can be addicted to games (I think some people are overdoing the "OMG HE'S ADDICTED" thing here though lol), but I'm sure he'd enjoy sitting by you teaching you how to do things on the game.

Once you're good enough, you can do 2 player, and you can say things like "OK we'll get to the next level then we'll go to bed!" or "Right, no way are we going to bed until we finish this section!!"

PS. a girl who enjoys playing xbox/ps3/etc is far superior to those who don't

I do agree with this, a hobby shared is double the fun.

To the OP: obviously we don't know the full situation, but his hobby happens to be videogames (just like for others it might be going clubbing or playing tennis), and denying him his hobby whilst your there is a tad draconian. If he enjoys it more than talking to you, which, let's face it, he might do if he has a choice to "play computer games" or "be nagged at for playing computer games", then you should be concerned. Allow him his vice.