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    (Original post by MorbidCow)
    Let’s keep this short and sweet. I made a thread a while ago about me being bullied in school called ‘Is this normal?’. If you remember that thread then you will understand my situation better. I could tolerate the bullying but it has got even worse. Screw anon this time round :P

    This is what happened on Tuesday –

    -Chavs saying, “Wanna suck me ****, babe?” and “I wanna watch some hawt BBW porn with you in it!”

    - Having that freaky sexually-harassing boy stalk me for five minutes, I eventually slapped him because teachers can’t stop him from following me. He does it when they don’t notice

    -Kids laughing at my disabled mother and saying I’m disabled like her too (I have got a SEN – long story!)

    -Saying that I’m ‘retarded’ because I have a SEN. They only know this because it is mandatory to have a special needs teacher in one of my lessons within a week. Despite the fact I’m supposedly 'retarded', I’m predicted the highest grades in science, Spanish (I have... well had... verbal dyspraxia), art and in History.

    -They say that they are going to **** my dad’s corpse.

    -Saying I’m worthless because I have no friends

    -Saying I’m worthless because I’m poor and have a disabled mother

    -Saying I’m worthless because I’m ugly and fat (I know I’m not really ugly but I know I’m fat, I can prove via picture :P )

    -Shoved about

    -Things thrown at me

    -Poked and laughed at

    -Ignored

    -Excluded from social interaction with any group in my school year


    But it is really starting to affect me now. I feel really lonely and I am starting to feel as if I deserve to be bullied because I’m socially retarded or something. But I know I’m not socially retarded because adults really like me because they say I have a humour and intelligence beyond my age (I’m in Year 10) and also people in lower years like me because they don’t get bullied for hanging out with me. These people that bully me as well have boyfriends and girlfriends. This makes me think that I could never really get a boyfriend because I’m ‘freaky’ or ‘fat’ or something.

    I know I’m not ugly but it’s like only I believe that. That sounds stupid and arrogant but the reaction I get from my peers makes me feel really ugly. Not a single boy has even shown a bit of interest in me. They always jokingly ask me out and I’m not stupid so I know it is a joke. I bloody hate it though, it makes me feel like crap.

    I don’t know why I really posted this, I just wanted people from the past thread knowing how I am now plus I wanted to rant because I’m angry and depressed. I just wonder what I can do to deal with my low self-esteem and loneliness. Any ideas? :o:
    You're neither ugly nor fat.
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    (Original post by joey11223)
    Bullies, along with rapists, piss me off the most! Seriously I wish I could go around the punish them...really punish them. I personally haven't been bullied but I've seen it happened to some of my friends and watched it happening in general, gah it makes me so angry.:mad:
    Well, heck, if we're drawing up a bona fide axis of evil you might as well throw 'fascists' in as well.
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    You should just take solice in the fact you will grow up to be happier, richer and better looking than any of them. Some kids picked on me and as much as I hate to admit it I took great pleasure in getting them to pack my bags for me at Tescos a while ago. I guess from their perspective they are just trying to bring as many people down to their **** standard of living caused almost entirely by their extremely low intelligence. 1 year and you can move for 6th form away from them, 2 years and you'll be kicking dirt on them.
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    (Original post by Elipsis)
    Some kids picked on me and as much as I hate to admit it I took great pleasure in getting them to pack my bags for me at Tescos a while ago.
    As harsh as it is to do so, it's the best way of saying 'foxtrot unicorn' to somebody!
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    (Original post by MorbidCow)
    Also about the jokey stance, it's the attitude I usually take to bullying. It annoys the hell of the bullies but sometimes I insult them back and get into trouble. A boy that bullied me was an altar boy. He services a priest that was arrested for drunk-driving because he crashed into a wall so I said to him, "When Father (insert surname) is drunk, a brick wall isn't the only barrier he's gonna break". Keep in mind he just said that I was disabled just like my mother. After that, I had to sign a lease saying that the guy who bullied me wasn't sexually abused by the priest to my full knowledge (it's a catholic school)
    Haha, nice one. Remember, screw the organised church, they're a bunch of idolators who are barely a step above scientologists.

    Also, the school don't care about you and your problems, they care about themselves and their own problems. They won't do jack-squiggity if you just say "i has problem plz can has fix?" they'll smile at you and then laugh at your back while you go suffer.

    You need to make your problems their problems.

    They need to suffer and have their blood pressure driven up so that you don't have to. They deserve no better.

    Any time any kind of incident happens, go and tell the most senior teacher you can, preferably heads of year. Tell them exactly what happened. Leave out any details that could possibly make it look like you did anything wrong, don't even mention giving them a dirty look afterwards. If you do, the teacher will try and turn it round, say you're equally responsable, throw their hands in the air and refuse to help you out of apathy and contempt.

    If something hasn't been done within a day, go back and find that exact same person and politely ask wtf is going on. If they claim to have spoken to the other side and claim you have done something that makes punishing them impossible or even threatens to punish you for it, then deny any false allegations and if any allegations are true claim that you were driven to them due to lack of support from the school. If they try to push you back down, cry and/or mention that you've been feeling vunerable since the death of your father, how the bullying and the refusal by the school to do anything about it is near unbearable and how it is having an adverse effect on your scholastic achievment.

    If anything else physical happens to you (unless I've misread your posts some physical things already have occured, yes?) just go straight past the school and call the police. Someone hitting you is assualt and battery or some other bullcrap, which the police can arrest someone for. Firstly, if it's some dumbass townie boy or girl (not a crack-addled chav who's been in and out of juvie since the age of seven) then it may scare the crap out of them. Also, the school will probably hate it liek vegimite. A student having to call the police because the teachers will not protect her from physical violence reflects very, very badly on that school. Hell, if you ever see one of those OFSTED cockholsters walking around, pretend you think he/she's a teacher and tell them about whoever was bullying you recently.

    Go with those kind of approaches and never get off the staff's back. They are in loco parentis of you during school hours, and as such have a moral, legal and societal obligation to protect you from physical and mental harm which they are failing miserably, so if something happens never let off about it. Never be afraid to see a staff member about the same incident twice if nothing has really been done. Never be afraid if the incident happened a week or two ago, claim you were two embarrassed and scared to report it.

    If they still act like pricks and won't help you, especially if they EVER, EVER, EVER try anything like getting YOU in trouble when you're being bullied again, then look at all of the local newspapers, and have a good look at the type of thing they print. Pick one or more that you think would print that kind of article, make sure it's the "Girl hideously bullied in school, groped by perverts, has perverts arrested, yay for girl" type newspaper instead of the "girl *****es about nothing at all, gets fun loving young chaps arrested out of spite, PC gone mad" type newspaper.

    Hell, contact the Daily Mail, those reactionary old codgers love that sort of stuff. It's got moral outrage, cowardly authorities refusing to help and all sorts of other Daily Mail type stuff. It's their perfect article.

    You should send one of the journalists off a letter with all the details he would need for a decent article, all of the contact information that he might need, beg him to help you speak out because no one else will, all that crap. The article will practically write itsself. The school will have a damn hard time not taking action after that stuff.
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    (Original post by level_red)
    I'm sorry, but my respect for you just went downhill. There is a difference between insulting a particular person and insulting another person/religion.
    You're incredibly terrible at life and everything. I hope you get depressed and cut yourself.
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    (Original post by kultist)
    Hell, contact the Daily Mail, those reactionary old codgers love that sort of stuff. It's got moral outrage, cowardly authorities refusing to help and all sorts of other Daily Mail type stuff. It's their perfect article.

    You should send one of the journalists off a letter with all the details he would need for a decent article, all of the contact information that he might need, beg him to help you speak out because no one else will, all that crap. The article will practically write itsself. The school will have a damn hard time not taking action after that stuff.
    I posted this earlier (albeit not in that detail) and I still think its the best idea. Might make a bit of money, too.

    Pretty embarrassing for the families of your bullies to be brought up negatively in either national or local newspapers.
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    (Original post by Bagration)
    I posted this earlier (albeit not in that detail) and I still think its the best idea. Might make a bit of money, too.

    Pretty embarrassing for the families of your bullies to be brought up negatively in either national or local newspapers.
    I didn't read your post because you don't liek mudkipz.
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    (Original post by kultist)
    I didn't read your post because you don't liek mudkipz.
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    Sorry for not updating the thread, I've had a nasty trojan on my computer with root keys! I had to completely wipe the stupid thing. I don't even have office now and I lost the disc because I'm stupido.

    Anyway, you guys really have cheered me up. ^^ I'm keeping a diary. I'm happy enough today because I wasn't bullied much but I got some stupid english language coursework for tomorrow. Eugh... I have to write 4 more sides of A4. The only thing that happened today was in maths class.

    This scene kid/mosher/emo kid who is a ***** tried to make me pretend to perform oral sex and his annoying female friend joined in saying, "Lol, she won't know how to do that 'cause she's never had a boyfriend." and I just turned to her and said, "Shut up. I'm just going to insult you immaturely as well. You look like Rod Stewart in eyeliner." Seriously, she does, I'd put a comprasion picture up but I respect her privacy unlike her.

    During yesterday's lunch, a teacher saw me argue with this same scene kid/mosher/emo (he refuses to have a label but labels me as a disabled freak). I told the teacher what he was saying and he decided to take the middle ground saying I provoked him as well by walking nearer to him when he was insulting me. I was just going to give him a dirty look and walk past but he just started to hurl abuse at me.

    I'm recording all of this in a diary but I am deciding to be more passive/ignoring to seem like a victim.
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    (Original post by MorbidCow)
    Sorry for not updating the thread, I've had a nasty trojan on my computer with root keys! I had to completely wipe the stupid thing. I don't even have office now and I lost the disc because I'm stupido.

    Anyway, you guys really have cheered me up. ^^ I'm keeping a diary. I'm happy enough today because I wasn't bullied much but I got some stupid english language coursework for tomorrow. Eugh... I have to write 4 more sides of A4. The only thing that happened today was in maths class.

    This scene kid/mosher/emo kid who is a ***** tried to make me pretend to perform oral sex and his annoying female friend joined in saying, "Lol, she won't know how to do that 'cause she's never had a boyfriend." and I just turned to her and said, "Shut up. I'm just going to insult you immaturely as well. You look like Rod Stewart in eyeliner." Seriously, she does, I'd put a comprasion picture up but I respect her privacy unlike her.

    During yesterday's lunch, a teacher saw me argue with this same scene kid/mosher/emo (he refuses to have a label but labels me as a disabled freak). I told the teacher what he was saying and he decided to take the middle ground saying I provoked him as well by walking nearer to him when he was insulting me. I was just going to give him a dirty look and walk past but he just started to hurl abuse at me.

    I'm recording all of this in a diary but I am deciding to be more passive/ignoring to seem like a victim.
    Hey hunni, I'm really glad your feeling better :hugs:

    You know, you should have told that girl : since your a skank and an expert at blow jobs, why don't you show me how its done?

    Its sad but the best way to stop the insults really ... as long as your ones are better you pwn them at the end of the day ... or laugh it off!

    Speaking to someone is really going to help, please don't feel like your alone :no:

    What did your teacher say to emo boy when you told her?
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    (Original post by MorbidCow)
    Sorry for not updating the thread, I've had a nasty trojan on my computer with root keys! I had to completely wipe the stupid thing. I don't even have office now and I lost the disc because I'm stupido.

    Anyway, you guys really have cheered me up. ^^ I'm keeping a diary. I'm happy enough today because I wasn't bullied much but I got some stupid english language coursework for tomorrow. Eugh... I have to write 4 more sides of A4. The only thing that happened today was in maths class.

    This scene kid/mosher/emo kid who is a ***** tried to make me pretend to perform oral sex and his annoying female friend joined in saying, "Lol, she won't know how to do that 'cause she's never had a boyfriend." and I just turned to her and said, "Shut up. I'm just going to insult you immaturely as well. You look like Rod Stewart in eyeliner." Seriously, she does, I'd put a comprasion picture up but I respect her privacy unlike her.

    During yesterday's lunch, a teacher saw me argue with this same scene kid/mosher/emo (he refuses to have a label but labels me as a disabled freak). I told the teacher what he was saying and he decided to take the middle ground saying I provoked him as well by walking nearer to him when he was insulting me. I was just going to give him a dirty look and walk past but he just started to hurl abuse at me.

    I'm recording all of this in a diary but I am deciding to be more passive/ignoring to seem like a victim.
    No, don't let the teacher do that, don't be more passive. Go complain to someone above that teacher. If they don't listen, bug them until they do. If they refuse to relent, talk to the local paper about the bullying problems at the school.
    Also, if you don't have office I highly recommend Open Office which you should be able to find with a google. Does everything regular office can and more; plus it's free.

    Actually, I just re read that. It's even worse than I thought. Him taking the middle ground because you "walked closer to him" is stupidly shameless, if what you say is true than he's blatantly fumbling for an excuse to do absolutely nothing. Tell someone higher up than him (head of year, whatever). If they don't do anything, local newspaper.
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    (Original post by kultist)
    No, don't let the teacher do that, don't be more passive. Go complain to someone above that teacher. If they don't listen, bug them until they do. If they refuse to relent, talk to the local paper about the bullying problems at the school.
    Also, if you don't have office I highly recommend Open Office which you should be able to find with a google. Does everything regular office can and more; plus it's free.

    Actually, I just re read that. It's even worse than I thought. Him taking the middle ground because you "walked closer to him" is stupidly shameless, if what you say is true than he's blatantly fumbling for an excuse to do absolutely nothing. Tell someone higher up than him (head of year, whatever). If they don't do anything, local newspaper.
    He was the Headmaster, seriously.
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    (Original post by MorbidCow)
    He was the Headmaster, seriously.
    You know what the next step is, then :P
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    (Original post by Bagration)
    You know what the next step is, then :P
    Yeah, get writing. Compile a list of all you can think of, talk to anyone else you know being bullied to get their side too, all that crap.
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    i understand what you mean. a similiar situation happened to me wen was 16 doing a btec fashion course.
    in the course the people there had everything, they had money to buy things to wear what would be trendy, boyfriends with expensive cars,parents from high class backgrounds,shallow and just sheeps(my vocab it means a folloower not a leader).fashion students most people would think they r super looking cool.i on the otherhand was opposite. i was the biggest, didnt have much money,ugly,virgin(they make it such a big thing, i dont think theres anything wrong),dumb,my mothers a gamble addict who never was at home as for father he went way before i can rember.it was hard cuz beig that age i was given the role to be a mother(housewrk,caring for siblings,bills)while she was on the role as if shes a teen. i had no friends from there cuz they made rumours.i guess people tend to believe bad stuff bout people than the good more.i was an outcast.my tutors are disgusted with me cuz they believed the people that talk(i was quiet).i didnt get much support from them in the course.the tutor even rubbed salt in my wounds saying i will never never get in central saint martins.


    but as much i was made fun of, having very low self esteem,unappreciated,looked down,got my designs stolen and burned,got my money taken to satisfy my mothers addict,got happyslapped,got picked on, i remained cheerful,helpful(i helped so many times yu be shock how they backstab eachother n get together again)thankful and very very quiet.

    i held the grudge and was very very determined to get into central saint martins(a well known uni)this was my passport to get out from home n away from these ungrateful,unthankful selfish, people.i truly convinced myself im a leader in this course and i can express this creativeness of my mind so great that its unimaginable.lol.

    when we had our ucas decisions n i was the ONLY 1 to get accepted i was very very happy.the rest didnt get in n werent happy for me at all.they sed i only got in cuz i flirted with the inteviewer.uh hello they werent there while the interview took place.and the interviwer is gay dumb *****es.

    im in uni now n free from there.but life is never like what you want it to be.
    so wat i learnt from this is inorder to endure all this **** you have to feel anger n prove them wrong.n also its all up to you.this will.u will breakdown, u will cry, u will think of yourself as worthless n should die BUT you need to try ur hardest.wen u give all u got n you overcome it, you will have the biggest boost feel good confidence happiness ever.

    uni is lovely cuz theres so much diversity.people are rich n poor,smart,dumb,open,shallow etc etc.so theres something for everyone.along the way yu meet extraordinary people who become great frends with you n that special someone too. theres hope if you tried your hardest n gave it all.

    hope this helps
    everything will be ok.
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    (Original post by MorbidCow)
    He was the Headmaster, seriously.
    Then it's to the board of governors you go. Write them a letter, telling them about the verbal abuse and sexual harassment, tell them that you have tried to ask for help but that you don't feel it is going anywhere and that, as a result, you have become miserable and said a few things that you're not proud of in anger/retaliation (the more sad and innocent you make yourself look, the better). If even this doesn't work (I've seen corrupt governors before) then I really would write to your local paper, telling them everything. You owe this school absolutely nothing if they do nothing to help you, nor the relentless bullies who make your life so difficult.

    If even this gets you nowhere, do your very best to cope in these final years. Then get the hell away from there, go to a different college that nobody from your school will be going to and start again. You seem really bright for your age, as has been said... your sense of humour reminds me of my own and I'm 21! At 14, I certainly wasn't so witty. Though, I did have a good sense of humour and an ability to make people laugh, along with being quite bright. Under trying times some people develop such favourable traits as humour, as a coping mechanism no doubt. I guarantee you that in years to come, it will serve you well.

    Considering all that you put up with, in school and at home, you seem like a little fighter and I'm sure you'll get there somehow. Very few people cope so well in the face of these things, just remember that there's a lot to like about you, more than 95% of the people I meet, and don't let people take away the good things you have.
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    (Original post by Thelasttime)
    Then it's to the board of governors you go. Write them a letter, telling them about the verbal abuse and sexual harassment, tell them that you have tried to ask for help but that you don't feel it is going anywhere and that, as a result, you have become miserable and said a few things that you're not proud of in anger/retaliation (the more sad and innocent you make yourself look, the better). If even this doesn't work (I've seen corrupt governors before) then I really would write to your local paper, telling them everything. You owe this school absolutely nothing if they do nothing to help you, nor the relentless bullies who make your life so difficult.

    If even this gets you nowhere, do your very best to cope in these final years. Then get the hell away from there, go to a different college that nobody from your school will be going to and start again. You seem really bright for your age, as has been said... your sense of humour reminds me of my own and I'm 21! At 14, I certainly wasn't so witty. Though, I did have a good sense of humour and an ability to make people laugh, along with being quite bright. Under trying times some people develop such favourable traits as humour, as a coping mechanism no doubt. I guarantee you that in years to come, it will serve you well.

    Considering all that you put up with, in school and at home, you seem like a little fighter and I'm sure you'll get there somehow. Very few people cope so well in the face of these things, just remember that there's a lot to like about you, more than 95% of the people I meet, and don't let people take away the good things you have.
    I say screw the governors, the headmaster has been given enough chances already and he should suffer for it. Go tell a newspaper and try to make him look as bad as possible.
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    The bullying has slowed down recently but one incident really annoyed me.

    In my maths class, we got to use these cool mini laptops which could take pictures and film videos.

    Like everyone else, I curiously took a few pictures but some idiots in my class stole my laptop away from me and bluetoothed it to everyone's laptops and a few phones. Instead of my old nickname in spanish class which was 'Juanita' thanks to Desperate Housewives, it has been changed to "El Chico Gordo Vanidoso" which means the fat vain boy.

    I don't even really understand why they call me ugly. I know I'm overweight but it doesn't automatically define me as the most hideous thing on planet earth. Plus there's one with a pen by the edge of my mouth which is usually followed with the comment "That's the only thing starting with pen that's gonna go anywhere near her mouth."

    This isn't the first time that this has ever happened to me. In Year 9, there was a video of me dancing after being forced by an army guy. Our school sent us for a day of being convinced to join the army as a 'treat' and therefore I got forced to dance by the whole school year in a dance competition because everyone calls me a good dancer. Hell, it is even on youtube but I can't find it.

    Another was in Year 8, when these girls in Year 10 stalked me around for days because they heard when I was younger I was a first soprano in a choir. I did one major scale with vibrato which they filmed and it spread around school like wildfire. I reported this one but even when the teachers actually tried to get rid of it, they utterly failed. But luckily it died down rather quickly after the ringleader of it all was expelled for telling the headmaster to **** off and chucked a chair at him.

    My bully diary is already a quarter full. :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by MorbidCow)
    The bullying has slowed down recently but one incident really annoyed me.

    In my maths class, we got to use these cool mini laptops which could take pictures and film videos.

    Like everyone else, I curiously took a few pictures but some idiots in my class stole my laptop away from me and bluetoothed it to everyone's laptops and a few phones. Instead of my old nickname in spanish class which was 'Juanita' thanks to Desperate Housewives, it has been changed to "El Chico Gordo Vanidoso" which means the fat vain boy.

    I don't even really understand why they call me ugly. I know I'm overweight but it doesn't automatically define me as the most hideous thing on planet earth. Plus there's one with a pen by the edge of my mouth which is usually followed with the comment "That's the only thing starting with pen that's gonna go anywhere near her mouth."

    This isn't the first time that this has ever happened to me. In Year 9, there was a video of me dancing after being forced by an army guy. Our school sent us for a day of being convinced to join the army as a 'treat' and therefore I got forced to dance by the whole school year in a dance competition because everyone calls me a good dancer. Hell, it is even on youtube but I can't find it.

    Another was in Year 8, when these girls in Year 10 stalked me around for days because they heard when I was younger I was a first soprano in a choir. I did one major scale with vibrato which they filmed and it spread around school like wildfire. I reported this one but even when the teachers actually tried to get rid of it, they utterly failed. But luckily it died down rather quickly after the ringleader of it all was expelled for telling the headmaster to **** off and chucked a chair at him.

    My bully diary is already a quarter full. :rolleyes:

    I often find girls a little "over weight" attractive...

    let me rephrase, girls around my age range (before I get accused of goodness knows what:rolleyes: )

    At least it's dying down, right? hopefully that's permanent and it won't go up again.

    I don't think they're bullying you because of who you are in some respects, they just use things against you.

    e.g. they'd bully you anyway, but because you have x characteristic, they "articulate" the bullying based on that. If you were a bit skinnier no doubt you'd be called anorexic, if you were German they'd say you eat too many sausages, if you were Scottish too many fried mars bars etc (I know plenty, probably most, Scottish people don't eat fried mars bars etc.). They'll use whatever they can to put you into this box or that box, and then make you feel **** for being in that box.

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