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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Why? Would you like someone jacking over and thinking about someone other than yorself?
    Oh come on. How vain and insecure would you have to be to try and deny someone any other fantasy? You don't think it's fun just to watch each other ****?
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    I really don't see why people have a problem with it...frankly I'd think it was a bit weird if he didn't!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Why? Would you like someone jacking over and thinking about someone other than yorself?
    OP, it's not cheating! Unless of course you also think that if someone masturbated while thinking of you when you didn't given them permission to, that it's rape? :eyebrow:
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    Sex should not be simply a means for self gratification. It is the power to create, it is a way to melt together with your partner and form a complete unity, you share everything and express love by serving each other giving each other immense pleasure.
    Masturbation is not an expression of love, not for anyone but one self. It is simply selfishness. My partner and I will not express this passion except in the arms of each other. There's no need to make sex mean any less than it actually can.
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    Well, there must be a lot of selfish people in the world then
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    I dunno.
    I've never really thought about my boyfriend masturbating...
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    Wow, some people take this really seriously...
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    Just for the record, if I had a gf, I would quite like the thought of her masturbating
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Please anon or delete as I know people on here.

    I was just wondering because people say it is normal in a relationship when your partner masturbates. But why would you think it is ok as it is the same sort of thing as cheating isn't it? Since you when you do so you picture someone else other than your partner, this is sort of unfaithfulness, you might as well go for the real thing and do it with someone else, shouldn't you?
    What do you think?
    I think you're utterly ridiculous (whoever you are).
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    (Original post by EskimoJo)
    OP, it's not cheating! Unless of course you also think that if someone masturbated while thinking of you when you didn't given them permission to, that it's rape? :eyebrow:
    ^This. OP, I think you have quite a skewed perception of masturbation.

    I would expect my boyfriend to masturbate over other people, as well as me. It's all part of the fun - the fantasy element to it. The whole point is that you're imagining things that turn you on, but you might not necessarily act out in real life.

    And as for whether I would be mad if he told me another girl was fit - no, he does it occassionally anyway. I do it too! It's just window shopping... not actuall trying on/ buying the clothes (shopping analogy lol!)

    Just be more secure in yourself. Your boyfriend is with you for a reason, and its completely healthy to masturbate.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I would actually be annoyed and see it as cheating, how is it not, as someone is getting horny about someone else other than you
    Why does it have to be someone other than you? I may be naive for believing him, but my boyfriend uses photos and videos of me/us together. He has never really been that into porn since he was in his early teens.
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    I don't mind. I can't satisfy him as often as he needs and sometimes we even make it something we share. It keeps us close.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    as someone is getting horny about someone else other than you
    But there IS noone else. It's themselves :confused:
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    When you have a picture of your girlfriend in her underwear you don't need something else.. : D
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    Cheating for me = having an emotional connection with someone else. Obviously I'd be annoyed at physical contact with another person, but him masturbating isn't hurting anyone.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Please anon or delete as I know people on here.

    I was just wondering because people say it is normal in a relationship when your partner masturbates. But why would you think it is ok as it is the same sort of thing as cheating isn't it? Since you when you do so you picture someone else other than your partner, this is sort of unfaithfulness, you might as well go for the real thing and do it with someone else, shouldn't you?
    What do you think?
    ok I agree that "mind cheating" is a bit wrong, but at the same time it is not the same wrong as actual cheating and tbh it is as inevitable as desire itself - you cannot just turn off your general attraction to other men/women (an important difference is that masturbation is voluntary)

    anyway I'm happy that they masturbate, but I don't really want to see them moaning out someone else's name, or telling me of how hot the girl/guy in their head is or whatever, I like to imagine that he only has eyes for me. of course I'm not going to preach because I masturbate too when a pretty something has flared my mind.. if it didn't I probably wouldn't have met a guy in the first place!
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    So would you say that boys are fine with girls masturbating when they are most likely thinking of someone else while doing it.
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    [QUOTE=kat2pult]Cheating for me = having an emotional connection with someone else.

    Are you saying you wouldn't mind shagging another boy as long as it was non-emotional but just for physical contact?
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    (Original post by kat2pult)
    Cheating for me = having an emotional connection with someone else. Obviously I'd be annoyed at physical contact with another person, but him masturbating isn't hurting anyone.

    Are you saying you wouldn't mind shagging another boy as long as it was non-emotional but just for physical contact?
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    For ***** sake OP, people have made it plain. You're being ridiculous. People will masturbate when they want to, doing so doesn't mean they want someone else.

    Besides, I only picture my gf :tongue:
 
 
 
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