HELP!!!...How can I last longer in bed??? Girlfriend might leave me!!! Watch

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she was probs joking but just wanted you to know she isn't feeling fulfilled. Spend a while on foreplay pleasing her. When you are doing it change positions when you feel it's getting close and even have a break and please her for a while before going back. Don't go too fast as doing it slower can be just as good for her anyway.
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15 minutes is ages
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VIAGRAAA!11 :woo:
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(Original post by Shaun_14)
Lmao what is it with all this think about your mum stuff?...:rofl:

Nobody actually does that do they?...:confused:
It's the difference between a 4 minute and 4 hour sex.
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This is so true.

I do all the work and only last 10 minutes and she complains!

I need to talk to her and explain politely that she should do more work and 10 minutes should be enough.

And she does get satisfied but i'm the only one who produces anything, maybe that's why she wants round 2 and 3.
Well try changing positions a couple of times whilst you're having sex. It will take you longer to ***, theres more chance of satisfying her if you're experimenting with positions, and you'll get less tired because she'll be taking more control.

Besides, if its alright for her to say you *** too fast, then I think its fair enough for you to be just as honest as her, and tell her you want her to put more work in to it.

eta: I sort of agree with the person who said that after 10/15 minutes it starts to get boring. I've been with guys who have lasted way too long and it does start to get boring/painful after a while. I think about 10/15 minutes is pretty much the optimal time, because you can always do other stuff before, during and after actually having sex.
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Do you make her climax before/during sex? If not, try harder. If yes, maybe try and have her reach 2 or 3 orgasms before you have sex. Vary the position, suggest she go on top, slow down when you're getting 'close', clench your pelvic floor muscles (the muscles you use when you stop yourself peeing mid flow)...

Ask for feedback and ask any suggestions she might have.
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how about everytime you feel you are about to finish, stop and as you are switching positions try and 'tend' to her for a little bit before you start again. And also tell your gf to stop being so insensitive and tell her to shut the **** up and as stressing you out isnt going to make it any better. Try to relax, you arent alone. My ex bf was the same and i didnt have a problem with it as it was only the first time around and you can always go again
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There are a number of ways to increase how long you last.

1) lube
2) swap positions every now and then
3) maybe stop for a few seconds and kiss really passionately (dont retract or anything, just have a few seconds)
4) If you feel it about to happen pull out and clench on your abdominal muscles, it'll go away after like 30 seconds for a few minuets.
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(Original post by edd360)
No he wants to last longer in bed not shorter!

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I dont really know if that was a joke or just me being weird..hmm


and 15 does not seem too short to me at all.

and thinkning of his mum naked would be a turn off! i hope !!
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(Original post by hayley99x)
and thinkning of his mum naked would be a turn off! i hope !!
That's exactly how I think of this situation...:yep:
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if she'd consider leavin u cos ur crap in bed, sounds like you outta ditch her quick an find someone who actually cares about the person u are, not just ur man parts
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(Original post by Dr Zeuss™)
Think of Hugh Grant. That's what i do. :awesome:
no, he wants to last LONGER, not shoot off even quicker :awesome:
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(Original post by sarah_22_16)
how about everytime you feel you are about to finish, stop and as you are switching positions try and 'tend' to her for a little bit before you start again. And also tell your gf to stop being so insensitive and tell her to shut the **** up and as stressing you out isnt going to make it any better. Try to relax, you arent alone. My ex bf was the same and i didnt have a problem with it as it was only the first time around and you can always go again
Thanks.

I shall talk to her about it, but I want to be very rude because it happen's to a lot of guys.

I will also tell her 10-15 minutes is a long time and make her do some more work.
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erm this may be coming from a girl but i would say... yeah masturbate just before she comes round/you go to hers. and maybe get her to go on top?
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Find a steady rhythm. When you feel you're about to ***, stop and serve her orally. When your urge has subsided continue.

Sounds mechanical doesn't it? YOU SHOULD HAVE FUN!
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(Original post by Kagutsuchi)
Find a steady rhythm. When you feel you're about to ***, stop and serve her orally. When your urge has subsided continue.

Sounds mechanical doesn't it? YOU SHOULD HAVE FUN!
I tried this one but I ended up ejaculating...
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(Original post by WarmEye)
I tried this one but I ended up ejaculating...
Then you're weak minded. Train by masturbating and stopping just before you're about to orgasm and try to not.
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Wow. You can last 20 times longer than my ex could, and I would never have dreamt of saying such a thing to him! Guys are very sensitive about their performance, I don't see how riduculing somebody is going to improve things.. Besides, 10 minutes is about the average isn't it? I'd be over the moon with that..
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Anonymous #3
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1) Get her on top. Sharpish. All men will tell you it doesnt feel as good when she is on top, and she likes it more cos she is in control.
2) No lube / viagra any of the other retarded suggestions on here.
3) Do it. Then do it again. Then do it more. If you do it more, you get more used to the sensations/positions and it doesn't excite you as much.
4) Go down on her first, then when she is either finished get on it, she wont know if it was 3 seconds or an hour that you were doing her that way.
5) Get a karma sutra and mix it the f*** up. If you are changing positions every minute or two then your **ck has to come out which gives you a break doesn't it?
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I don't get this masturbating business.. how can masturbating 2-3 hours before help? Because you will already feel "satisfied" so soon before you do it.. right?

What I mean is, isn't it the case that the longer you don't have sex (inc. masturbating), the more exciting/longer lasting will be the sex when you next have it?

I've never had sex btw.
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