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    I feel like I want to quit uni. I can't cope. I am just gonna wait for my counselling and then make a final decision.
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    (Original post by Noodlzzz)
    Ah that sucks, sorry to hear it :/

    Were you awarded anything?
    First time ESA I got nothing (and, hilariously, I was too ill at the time to work out how to make a proper appeal :facepalm:). First time DLA I was awarded nothing, appealed and was given lower rate care and mobility. Second time ESA was automatically put into the support group (cos of that student loophole) and didn't even have an interview. DLA renewal was supposed to go straight through, but got lost in the system and I'm still waiting for my money. :puppyeyes:

    Adding in Rob's experiences and those of other people I've helped with it, my own experiences seem only too typical.

    (Original post by moment of truth)
    I feel like I want to quit uni. I can't cope. I am just gonna wait for my counselling and then make a final decision.
    Have you thought through all your options and why you want to quit? If it's purely for health reasons, I strongly recommend talking through going part-time or taking a year or two off with your personal tutor. If it's for academic reasons, switching uni or course might be an option.

    It's definitely not something to take lightly or to put the burden solely on yourself, so I'd reach out to as many people as you can (pastoral care at uni, friends, family and health-related people) and talk through all your options thoroughly first.
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    (Original post by moment of truth)
    I feel like I want to quit uni. I can't cope. I am just gonna wait for my counselling and then make a final decision.
    What year are you in?
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    (Original post by superwolf)
    First time ESA I got nothing (and, hilariously, I was too ill at the time to work out how to make a proper appeal :facepalm:). First time DLA I was awarded nothing, appealed and was given lower rate care and mobility. Second time ESA was automatically put into the support group (cos of that student loophole) and didn't even have an interview. DLA renewal was supposed to go straight through, but got lost in the system and I'm still waiting for my money. :puppyeyes:

    Adding in Rob's experiences and those of other people I've helped with it, my own experiences seem only too typical.



    Have you thought through all your options and why you want to quit? If it's purely for health reasons, I strongly recommend talking through going part-time or taking a year or two off with your personal tutor. If it's for academic reasons, switching uni or course might be an option.

    It's definitely not something to take lightly or to put the burden solely on yourself, so I'd reach out to as many people as you can (pastoral care at uni, friends, family and health-related people) and talk through all your options thoroughly first.
    That's horrible I'm sorry to hear that
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    feel like a huge fat blob of a monster. i hate myself.
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    feel like a huge fat blob of a monster. i hate myself.

    no you dont!! :hugs: you are wonderful!! :hugs:
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    (Original post by BnBn)
    What year are you in?
    First year.

    (Original post by superwolf)
    Have you thought through all your options and why you want to quit? If it's purely for health reasons, I strongly recommend talking through going part-time or taking a year or two off with your personal tutor. If it's for academic reasons, switching uni or course might be an option.

    It's definitely not something to take lightly or to put the burden solely on yourself, so I'd reach out to as many people as you can (pastoral care at uni, friends, family and health-related people) and talk through all your options thoroughly first.
    The reasons are health reasons, the course is fine and I enjoy it, but I have missed lectures three days in a row now because I haven't been able to sleep properly and am too tired. This is all due to my anxiety which is kinda bad and could get worse. I haven't made any concrete friends yet, there are a few people on my course that I like but nothing proper (although it is still early) and the societies haven't been great so far. I would much prefer to live at home and commute to uni instead. I was kinda pressured to live away from home by my family so that I can experience the 'uni lifestyle' but it isn't for me. I am good for nothing and can't cope right now.

    I will ask some friends, and gonna have counselling some time next week so will see how that goes. My family don't understand how I feel.
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    no you dont!! :hugs: you are wonderful!! :hugs:
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    i am, every time i look in the mirror the truth stares back at me and its disgusting
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    (Original post by Team_McDreamy)
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    i am, every time i look in the mirror the truth stares back at me and its disgusting
    sorry, it keeps making my posts anon:sad:
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    you are only looking at what you think you see because you arent believing otherwise! you are lovely! the truth is that you are a wonderful person! dont let those thoughts get to you and cloud over the truth! and the truth is that you are beautiful! :hugs:
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    sorry, it keeps making my posts anon:sad:
    !
    you are only looking at what you think you see because you arent believing otherwise! you are lovely! the truth is that you are a wonderful person! dont let those thoughts get to you and cloud over the truth! and the truth is that you are beautiful! :hugs:
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    im really not, I'm an awful awful person and i don't know why people hang around with me. i don't deserve food or friends
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    im really not, I'm an awful awful person and i don't know why people hang around with me. i don't deserve food or friends

    who told you that? you are not! you are wonderful! :hugs:
    people enjoy your company!

    who told you these silly things!!!

    you deserve to be happy and loved!!!! :hugs:
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    (Original post by cupcakes87)
    who told you that? you are not! you are wonderful! :hugs:
    people enjoy your company!

    who told you these silly things!!!

    you deserve to be happy and loved!!!! :hugs:
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    i don't need to be told, i can see it all in the mirror
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    (Original post by Team_McDreamy)
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    i don't need to be told, i can see it all in the mirror

    well then your mirror is broken :huff: its a lier!!! :cry:

    i dont agree with it! :hugs:
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    (Original post by moment of truth)
    First year.



    The reasons are health reasons, the course is fine and I enjoy it, but I have missed lectures three days in a row now because I haven't been able to sleep properly and am too tired. This is all due to my anxiety which is kinda bad and could get worse. I haven't made any concrete friends yet, there are a few people on my course that I like but nothing proper (although it is still early) and the societies haven't been great so far. I would much prefer to live at home and commute to uni instead. I was kinda pressured to live away from home by my family so that I can experience the 'uni lifestyle' but it isn't for me. I am good for nothing and can't cope right now.

    I will ask some friends, and gonna have counselling some time next week so will see how that goes. My family don't understand how I feel.
    I say give it until christmas atleast.
    i was ready to give up in the first few weeks, but i was told to stay until christmas and then decide. And i went back and felt so much different after christmas.

    have you see. A dr about your anxiety and sleep? They can really help.
    also look into sleep hygene, about only using your bed for sleep (and sex) which i know is hard, especially at uni.
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    (Original post by cupcakes87)
    well then your mirror is broken :huff: its a lier!!! :cry:

    i dont agree with it! :hugs:
    thanks hun, even if i don't agree, it's helpful to hear it :hugs:
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    (Original post by Team_McDreamy)
    thanks hun, even if i don't agree, it's helpful to hear it :hugs:

    :hugs: i like hugs! :hugs:

    what do you study?
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    (Original post by cupcakes87)
    :hugs: i like hugs! :hugs:

    what do you study?
    so do i

    medicine! you?
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    (Original post by BnBn)
    I say give it until christmas atleast.
    i was ready to give up in the first few weeks, but i was told to stay until christmas and then decide. And i went back and felt so much different after christmas.

    have you see. A dr about your anxiety and sleep? They can really help.
    also look into sleep hygene, about only using your bed for sleep (and sex) which i know is hard, especially at uni.
    Maybe I need some more time, I dunno.

    I went to the GP yesterday and she said do counselling and then we will see what to do. The sleep problem is connected to the anxiety.
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    so do i

    medicine! you?

    :hugs:

    aww wow! thats really cool! how do you find it?

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