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    (Original post by WildBerrySpirit)
    No Problem.

    I'd honestly be pissed off if someone did that to me. He has absolutely no right. I'm agreeing with the general consensus on here in that you avoid him. However, if he does try or say anything to you, that you generally feel uneasy about, firmly tell him to **** off, be sure he can sense the seriousness in your tone of voice.

    I know you've mentioned that you have the same circle of friends, and that they're likely to side with him. Don't worry about it, I mean if they decide they no longer want to be friends with you, then screw them, they're honestly not worth your time and effort.
    I have started using an angry and annoyed tone with him so hopefully he got the message but he's still clinging on to me for dear life. The only time I can get away from him is when I'm in the toilet.
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    (Original post by 4TSR)
    I would love to hear his side of the story... I quote you OP "I feel his eyes burning through me..." wtf calm down and get over it what a *****.
    Don't you have dyslexia to sort out :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by (:Becca(:)
    Cut him out. Right now. **** everyone else, get rid of him. I've been where you are with an actual boyfriend, do not let this get out of hand.
    I can't cut him out completely because we have the same course and have another semester to go. Unless I drop out
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Don't you have dyslexia to sort out :rolleyes:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Don't you have dyslexia to sort out :rolleyes:
    Dyslexia is somesort of a disability, where as being a total **** isn't. Sort your life out and stop over reacting because your BF is showing interest.
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    (Original post by 4TSR)
    Dyslexia is somesort of a disability, where as being a total **** isn't. Sort your life out and stop over reacting because your BF is showing interest.
    I'm dyslexic as well by the way

    Anyway he is not my fing boyfriend :stomp:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm dyslexic as well by the way

    Anyway he is not my fing boyfriend :stomp:
    Oohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh he is NOT?! oh bloody hell what a freak; tell him to go away!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)

    he's very suffocating and demanding.


    --When I told him I didn't like him that way he started hitting my shoulder and kicking my leg. -Eavesdropping in to your conversations with someone else.
    -Always has to be in viewing distance to keep an eye on me in a stalkerish way.
    -Always wanting to know what you eat, when you eat, why you are not eating.
    -Always sitting behind or next to you practically invading your personal space in an intimidating way. (I can feel he's eyes burning through me.)

    He knows I only see him as a friend/brother but he's pissing me off now that I don't even want to talk to him.


    What do you think I should do? Help!!!!!!

    By the way I'm 19 and he's 21
    How can you or why would you even consider him as friend??
    You need to be VERY firm with him and tel him how you feel about the way he is acting.

    If he doesnt get the message then tell someone about him... and why wont your friends believe you? just keep some evidence of his possessive calls/texts and show them.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks but I don't want to look like a ***** if I say that so I'll just avoid him
    You can't seriously be worrying about looking like a ***** if he's like that, don't consider him a friend and be firm with him. Don't drop out of uni or course because of this, he needs to learn no means NO
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    Restraining order.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I can't cut him out completely because we have the same course and have another semester to go. Unless I drop out
    Best advice I can give is sit as far away from him as possible in lectures.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks but I don't want to look like a ***** if I say that so I'll just avoid him
    Sometimes being brutally honest is the best way
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    (Original post by When will I know?)
    How can you or why would you even consider him as friend??
    You need to be VERY firm with him and tel him how you feel about the way he is acting.

    If he doesnt get the message then tell someone about him... and why wont your friends believe you? just keep some evidence of his possessive calls/texts and show them.
    My friends won't believe me because he is a confident person and if you saw him you wouldn't think he would hurt a fly compared to me people assume I'm a ***** when I'm just really a shy person and he's got more friends than me.

    Thanks for the advice he's not horrible in the texts/calls he just always questions me why I didn't reply then say things like "well I called 'x' amount of times"
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    (Original post by Of_the_hook)
    You can't seriously be worrying about looking like a ***** if he's like that, don't consider him a friend and be firm with him. Don't drop out of uni or course because of this, he needs to learn no means NO
    Thanks for the advice
    I just don't want things to be awkward for me at uni that's all I wouldn't care if it was just a guy at the club or something at least I could get away from him.
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    (Original post by avéry)
    Restraining order.
    Doubt the police would take me seriously unless it was serious like him threatening to kill me or kidnapping me.
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    (Original post by (:Becca(:)
    Best advice I can give is sit as far away from him as possible in lectures.
    Thanks I'll try and sit around a lot of people.
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    (Original post by Rock Fan)
    Sometimes being brutally honest is the best way
    Thanks for the advice
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    I'd get out of that relationship right away if i were you.
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    Okay, the guy's clearly a bit mental, and it's starting to sound a bit abusive already. People never take it seriously enough when you say this, but you have to nip it in the bud because it'll only get worse. He's got problems and you need to get him out of your life. Asap.
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    (Original post by Squiggy184)
    I'd get out of that relationship right away if i were you.
    That's what makes it 10 times odd we are NOT a couple. :/
    He's my friend and he knows I only see him that way.
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    (Original post by Its_anya)
    Okay, the guy's clearly a bit mental, and it's starting to sound a bit abusive already. People never take it seriously enough when you say this, but you have to nip it in the bud because it'll only get worse. He's got problems and you need to get him out of your life. Asap.
    Thanks for the advice
    The only way I can get him out of my life is if I drop out of uni.
 
 
 
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