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Planning to see an escort. Male, 19, virgin. Watch

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    (Original post by noobynoo)
    So you're going to see a (probably Eastern European) hooker? Or maybe a crack-whore?

    It's people like you who are the cause of people trafficking, modern day slavery and keeping young women in their heroin habbit. I hope you're proud of yourself. :mad:
    o shut up
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    OP should get enough sex in that he'll seem semi-experienced to the first girl he pulls properly.

    Therefore, you'll be needing the following:

    -A very large box of condoms
    -A suitcase
    -A plane ticket to pattaya, Thailand.

    I have friends who've been there, apparently it's like amsterdam on steroids...

    (Just to clarify, I don't go with prostitutes myself, but I don't have a problem with those who do, so long as they're not obviously supporting human trafficking or whatever)
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    Sex isn't such a big deal, definitely not like people make it out to be. Might be worth paying for it so you can realise that.
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    (Original post by dog24)
    genuinely have no idea why I quoted you! sorry no hard feelings :P
    lol okay!
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    (Original post by I Love Dog)
    Sex isn't such a big deal, definitely not like people make it out to be. Might be worth paying for it so you can realise that.
    I agree man. I haven't got alot of experience tbf but I felt literally nothing the only time I have had sex. I felt like the OP beforehand, and just randomly did it with some girl. It obviously eased my mind, but it's not something I have even really thought about twice since, and it was ages ago lol. I get alot more satisfaction from for example playing sport. I like the physical and mental aspects of it far more than the limited physical feeling and thus limited mental emotions experienced during sex.
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    I'd hate to lose it to an escort. With a gf, or even a one night stand, its ok to get nervous, or **** up; you an laugh it off. With someone you're paying good money for who has had more sex than you've had pizzas it's just going to be awkward :/


    But ah well, do what you will.
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    (Original post by ipulledhermione)
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    Probably the closest he has ever come to female contact.

    Edit: Actually that's quite mean. But I somehow cannot seem to bring myself to press the delete button.
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    Just do it.

    But be warned it's like throwing a penny down an alleyway.
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    (Original post by James4d)
    I'd hate to lose it to an escort. With a gf, or even a one night stand, its ok to get nervous, or **** up; you an laugh it off. With someone you're paying good money for who has had more sex than you've had pizzas it's just going to be awkward :/


    But ah well, do what you will.
    :lolwut: Your post seems completely back-to-front there. If you messed up while having sex with a random girl from a nightclub on a ONS, I doubt she'd just "laugh it off", considering the reason she's having sex with you and not one of the many the other guys there is her perception of your overall confidence, charm and appeal.

    Conversely, an escort is there to make it a pleasurable experience for you, any half-decent escort would try and make sure that awkward moments like you messing up in sex were immediately diffused. And any escort will likely have a fair bit of experience of dealing with virgins.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I just can't wait anymore for sex. I'm sure i can get it but i just don't how to , tbh i've accepted after being in love with a girl for 2 years that i'm just going to suck it up and dispell the question in my mind of what sex is like. I'm sick of stuttering all the time in front of girls and looking physically nervous, and also i'm sick of feeling **** everytime i feel that i'm ****ing up. I'm not the best looking guy in the world, i got rejected by the girl i was in love with because of that. I don't want to play this whole dating game thing, i just want to feel free and not have to worry about that ****.

    Problem is, i'm afraid, i don't know how the hell this experience is going to turn out. I'm not doing it for the feelings, i just want to have this shadow over me regarding my virginity removed.
    Are you sure it ain't your lack of confidence. You'll be suprised what happens with a bit of confidence. That ugly mofo everyone sees with a beautiful girl everywhere - he has confidence.


    Best of all confidence is dirt cheap too compared to escorts.
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    Hahahahaha this is brilliant, tell us how it goes and if you get chlamydia!
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    You might regret it if you meet the girl of your dreams shortly after, and wish you'd waited for her..
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I just can't wait anymore for sex. I'm sure i can get it but i just don't how to , tbh i've accepted after being in love with a girl for 2 years that i'm just going to suck it up and dispell the question in my mind of what sex is like. I'm sick of stuttering all the time in front of girls and looking physically nervous, and also i'm sick of feeling **** everytime i feel that i'm ****ing up. I'm not the best looking guy in the world, i got rejected by the girl i was in love with because of that. I don't want to play this whole dating game thing, i just want to feel free and not have to worry about that ****.

    Problem is, i'm afraid, i don't know how the hell this experience is going to turn out. I'm not doing it for the feelings, i just want to have this shadow over me regarding my virginity removed.
    are you sure thats why she 'rejected you'? not all girls are vain. mabe you should have tryed and asked her again (-kinda wish the guy who asked me out who was like you asked me again =\ i just got worryed because he was going off to uni in the next month or so, so i said no and regreted it ever since...not having the courage to ask him out my self after i did...) so please dont be dishartened!! and why is being a virgin so bad?! personaly i think you should wait till you meet a person like that girl who you wont regret loosing it too after =] sorry i rambled...
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    (Original post by innerhollow)
    :lolwut: Your post seems completely back-to-front there. If you messed up while having sex with a random girl from a nightclub on a ONS, I doubt she'd just "laugh it off", considering the reason she's having sex with you and not one of the many the other guys there is her perception of your overall confidence, charm and appeal.

    Conversely, an escort is there to make it a pleasurable experience for you, any half-decent escort would try and make sure that awkward moments like you messing up in sex were immediately diffused. And any escort will likely have a fair bit of experience of dealing with virgins.

    Well I doubt I'd ever have a ONS with a girl I didn't know pretty well in the first place. Even if it was a girl I didn't know who was expecting me to be amazing in bed, I at least know she's attracted to me, which makes the whole thing easier- rather than a professional who's just waiting for it to be over and done with.
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    (Original post by mehhh.....hi.)
    Your only 19 though. You will regret it when you find the right girl, so personally I think you should wait a few more years.
    Lol.. you just revealed here that u assume that hes gonna remain virgin for a few more years..
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    (Original post by Rhiani-ani-on)
    Well I am not sure what you want us to say to you.

    Personally, I think you should just sick it out, your only 19, its not that big a deal.

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    i agree and do you want to think back in like 20 years and think i lost my virginity to a hooker???
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    (Original post by mehhh.....hi.)
    Your only 19 though. You will regret it when you find the right girl, so personally I think you should wait a few more years.
    THIS IS A VERY MORALLY CORECT POINT. but, u do only live once and if you wait a few more years then your gonna be a 20 somnething virgin... not that its a bad thing :eek4:. but if you save yourself for that someone then she might leave you cos u wont be satisfying her enough. true story
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    (Original post by Bakerzoid)
    I laugh at the girls in this thread who are saying things like 'wait for the right person to come along blah blah, blah blah'. That doesn't happen for men who aren't 6ft tall and good looking. Full stop. Period. Unless he is able to approach women he will be alone forever (or forever alone, whichever you prefer) and even then his odds aren't that great. It's cold but it's the truth.

    Just do what I do and what others have suggested and just forget about women and stop worrying, they are unobtainable anyway. Even as I type this I feel nothing, no sadness or anger or frustration but I will admit that for about one second everyday I feel worried that I will let my guard down and begin to feel those emotions again.
    This. Although the "6-feet rule" is a bit exaggerated. I agree that he should just forget about women altogether. Being a male virgin is not considered attractive by women. That automatically puts you in the weirdo box, especially if you're above 20.

    It really is a catch-22 because most women won't have sex with a virgin and even if he manages to get a girl in bed, she will dump him afterwards because he wasn't good enough. So either way he loses.

    (Original post by bloomblaze)
    True. All the people who tell virgins or OP to 'wait' are not virgins themselves. Ive noticed this trend occurs all the time on tsr.

    I am against the OP idea of losing virginity to an escourt, although i can empathise with how frustrating being a virgin can be due to having curiousity of what sex must be like, and having to live in a society where sex is in your face in the media all the time or many of your mates are non virgins

    Still, id advise you not to lose it to an escourt , op for reasons already stated by other people.
    QFT. I agree that he should never have sex with a prostitute, but I can understand his frustration.
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    (Original post by jimcatinnes)
    Probably the closest he has ever come to female contact.

    Edit: Actually that's quite mean. But I somehow cannot seem to bring myself to press the delete button.
    :console:


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    (Original post by James4d)
    Well I doubt I'd ever have a ONS with a girl I didn't know pretty well in the first place.
    I don't feel the circumstances you believe an ONS occur under are particularly representative... if ONSs only occured with people you really trust and are comfortable with they would be pretty rare, no? (as they would develop into relationships)

    Even if it was a girl I didn't know who was expecting me to be amazing in bed, I at least know she's attracted to me, which makes the whole thing easier- rather than a professional who's just waiting for it to be over and done with.
    You could deal with that HUGE level of pressure? Really? Well, you're a better man than some of us, don't expect that of all of us though.

    At the end of the day, when you're that insecure about your sex life, that low on self-esteem, you just don't give a **** if the girl you're having sex with is doing it because she's attracted to you, or because she's using you or even because you're paying her. You just don't care, you just want to have sex.
 
 
 
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