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    you're a filthy ho fo sho
    not at all, i can't imagine why anyone would think that was slutty. As long as you don't feel bad in yourself about doing it, don't worry. For me personally, I find giving head more personal than having sex. I guess I'm in the minority there but that's just the way I see it. Giving 3 guys head by the time you're 17 isn't slutty. It's all about people's personal feelings nad boundaries though, the responses on here prove that.
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    (Original post by lovely_me)
    Why is it bad to give oral sex to people whatever age you are, provided both parties are happy with the arrangement?
    Why is it immature if OP is not comfortable in relationships, and why does this lead to you assuming she is insecure?
    So do you believe it's okay for a 12 yr old to give head? :confused:
    She is 17. If we consider she hasn't been brought up in a morally deprived house and has been sexually active for not that long, she's given head far more than your average girl at that age.
    :facepalm: She's insecure because she pretty much ****ing admitted it:
    I'm not good in relationships (trust issues...)
    It's immature because she's not dealing with her insecurities and letting them control her actions.
    This really is not rocket science...
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    (Original post by lovely_me)
    What? I was obviously talking about adults, above the age of consent. Obviously not >16 year olds.

    Why is it a bad thing she has given more head than the average girl her age? Can you answer the question I put to you: why is it a bad thing to have lots of sex if both parties are happy if the arrangement?

    She didn't admit it. She's bad with relationships. Lots of people are, who aren't insecure. You're just jumping to conclusions.
    Because lots of sex = casual sex. Casual sex shows someone who simply wants to just get horny and isn't discriminating with their partners.
    Now this may piss you off, depends how open you are to science, but for women, casual sex is a bad idea as they aren't made to have sex casually. Just the way their brain works.
    And on top of this, what's the bets that her casualness with sex is down to her hiding away from her insecurity to do with relationships?
    And then there's the whole STD argument. Also I've found, knowing a few ****s, that none of them enjoy being that way, it does stem from problems in the past.
    That helped to explain why I think being a slut is a bad idea?
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    no it's not slutty.
    eff them and what they think and keep doing what you're doing.
    yeee
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    Not at all, but come here baby, I want a bj.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 17, and want to wait for the right guy to have sex, but am happy doing other things (giving head etc). I'm not good in relationships (trust issues, long story that isn't worth going into/people won't bother to read a long post on here ), but I figure, as a single girl, kissing as many guys as I like is fine (on holiday, nights out etc). I've also given head to three guys in total. To me, that isn't bad at all (!!!), especially compared to a lot of girls in our sixth form, but my friends think it's really slutty and they bring it up a lot. Only one of them is a virgin. My question in this badly put ramble is, am I right in being completely confused by their feelings?
    (obv. anon because I know people on here)

    I DON'T UNDERSTAND.
    Not even close. However, on the other hand most guys like slutty girls. They are more fun.
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    If i was one of those guys, id recommend you to my friends.
    They can all take turns. Life is about enjoying the good stuff, whilst it lasts. :yep:
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    Well, I dont think you're slutty at all for giving head to 3 guys. However, you say you go around kissing guys a lot. Like... How many guys per night? If you're going around macking on every guy in the club, then you are making yourself APPEAR to be slutty, even if you aren't. Just sayin'. If your "friends" are calling you names and talking behind your back, maybe it's time to get some new friends.
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    don't catch herpes! haha
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    You are a fake slut.
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    (Original post by lovely_me)
    No. But ****** has racist connotations and racist origins, it doesn't necessarily mean they are being racist. The same with slut - it has sexist connotations and sexist origins. People who use that term, regardless of gender are adhering in the continuation of oppressing women.
    Not particularly, you see I think you're making the mistake of thinking every bad thing in life has some discriminatory origin, and therefore has some label that you can slap on it. In this case, you're adding the label misogyny, which it isn't. The whole notion of sluttiness is simply just a product of social conventions and 21st century ideals which developed over the years. This has nothing to do with 'oppressing women' as it is directly parallel with our ideas that when a man does the same thing, it is a good thing. But that's not anti-male is it?

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    (Original post by lovely_me)
    What is wrong with not being discriminating with partners, if you are happy with it?

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    Because that is the entire DEFINITION of slut - someone who hands herself round to everyone like those leaflets in the high street.

    "Village bike - everyone's had a ride". Are you HONESTLY telling me it's fine to be known for that. K, have fun being respected...
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    If you spend time worrying about being known as a slut then perhaps you realise that your behaviour isn't appropriate?

    I'm not saying it isn't or it is appropriate, that isn't for me to call. However, surely the point of friends, ones you should ACTUALLY VALUE are to act as a check and balance against your own actions, much as you should be theirs?

    I.E. If you have evaluated your own actions and you don't see fault with anything you are doing judged against your own perceived set of morals and values, then game on love!

    ...otherwise, perhaps you need to readdress your behaviour? Its a very subjective thing!
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    its a bit slutty, you wont be respected by your friends for throwing your body around left right and centre.. you'll have a reputation..
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    Everyone has different assumptions about what slutty is, I wouldn't worry about it. I don't think it's slutty and nor do many people so don't worry xx
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    (Original post by lovely_me)
    What is wrong with not being discriminating with partners, if you are happy with it?


    What do you mean 'they aren't made to have sex casually'? If a woman wants to have sex casually why is it a bad idea? What does science have to do with it?


    Unless you can provide some statistics, claiming casual sex is due to insecurity seems like hopeless hyperbole.


    Right. Sound evidence there then. :rolleyes:
    Also, it's not like we have protection these days for preventing STDs. Oh wait...


    No. Not at all.
    Not discriminating = low standards. There are 6 billion people in the world, to have low standards is pathetic.
    Literally women are not made to have casual sex. Will find you a link when I can be bothered. What does science have to do with it? ****ing really? Can you be that ****ing stupid to think that science doesn't play a key role in attraction?! ****ing hell you as a human being can't be that educationally ****ing stupid.
    Back to nature, casual sex provides simply a dopamine/endorphin release. To have casual sex is not better than a junkie.
    If you can't see how she is insecure you have simply come to troll rather than to discuss this maturely. Please, troll somewhere else
    And please tell me how protection prevents Chlamydia /there is one common STD no form of contraception prevents.

    Listen, if you want an argument, **** off somewhere else. My views are based purely on facts. If you can't handle that, you're the problem not me. Considering you're obsession with me like Amizzle91, it makes me think you simply want to see me as an excuse why to be a slut/fat/etc rather than sorting your life out. Deal with your issues dear.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 17, and want to wait for the right guy to have sex, but am happy doing other things (giving head etc). I'm not good in relationships (trust issues, long story that isn't worth going into/people won't bother to read a long post on here ), but I figure, as a single girl, kissing as many guys as I like is fine (on holiday, nights out etc). I've also given head to three guys in total. To me, that isn't bad at all (!!!), especially compared to a lot of girls in our sixth form, but my friends think it's really slutty and they bring it up a lot. Only one of them is a virgin. My question in this badly put ramble is, am I right in being completely confused by their feelings?
    (obv. anon because I know people on here)

    I DON'T UNDERSTAND.
    You certainly are a naughty girl, but a slut you’re not. To be a slut you have to be able to run with the big dogs. Until you can run with the big dogs, you need to stay under the porch.
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    OP you are dirtier than than my dads Japanese porn stash.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know more than three guys, just about :P One I met on holiday, one I was going out with, and one was on another holiday. I know I shouldn't care about their opinion, but it's hard when they all have the same one. I was talking to a close friend today, and they said a bit had been said behind my back about it, and I don't get it, because I am 17. I'm legal. I'm single. Maybe I just hate girls *****ing. :/
    Single, legal
    seventeen, still a teen
    there's something you need to know
    that of all posts, hosts, this most likely deserves a no!

    seriously, stop that thinking! you're young, hot, curious, maybe a little overly curious, but that's what kittens are like, right? take a small step in cold water but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
    Sometimes, is really isn't possible to understand the opposite sex more so given your age. Even us men are mysteries to women just as how women are likewise to us men. Perhaps you're feeling marginalised, or emo, but really, as a guy, I think your curiosity is hot... Girls ***** about you cos either they really:

    a) feel superior
    b) feel inferior

    Most people have this complex but some more than most. Your friends seem to ***** about you cos they just are jealous that you get the guys when they can only dream of men's health coverguys cosying up to you.

    I hope so >.<
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    Personally, I think it's down to the reasons behind your actions. If you genuinely enjoy casual sex (be it oral or otherwise), and that is your only motivation, then there's nothing wrong with that. However, I believe the majority of women who sleep around do not do it for that reason. They do it because they are insecure and it makes them feel good that somebody wants them. So they do whatever they can to keep that attention.

    More importantly, however, I don't see why people are so bothered about discussing it. Once you get out of school, you will realise that nobody gives a flying **** how many people you have shagged.
 
 
 
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