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    (Original post by danny111)
    Lol, that's actually kind of hot. Like pretending your gf/wife is a hooker and you meet at a bus stop or whatever. Except this time it's real, kind of. Oh, reading that back, I don't mean to say you're anything like a hooker, but just that's more common than a stripper I guess.

    And yea, maybe if women were better at seeing things from a men's perspective, and vice versa, there would be better communication.
    Haha It's okay I get you!
    I tried to make him get one from someone else instead!I was like 'Wuh?! You've seen it all before!!' lol
    And yes definitely agree on the last point!
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    (Original post by McMurdo)
    Whether he sees it as sexual stimuli is sort of obvious (unless he had the night arranged for him and had no say in it). Not just him, of course. Anyone. The only selling point a strip bar has over a regular bar or club, is the women/men who dance. So, whether the guy/girl is being faithful or not, they are meant to be choosing to celebrate their supposed satisfaction and unity with you, yet are spending that day staring at other naked people.

    However, I do entirely agree that, as you said, in a lot of cases it's just considered tradition to do it, and there's no real thought gone into it. However, that's a tradition I'd be glad to lose lol.
    Oh definitely, I'm not saying it's basically the same as going to a pub or whatever because obviously it isn't :P Just that it's unlikely that at least most of the guys I know would be in it for mainly that? I don't know what I mean. I just can't imagine any of my guy friends being like 'it'd be so hot' or whatever, they're more 'it'd be a laugh' or 'it'd be awesome' or whatever. The tradition aspect, & the fact that I also wouldn't have an issue with it as an occasional thing once we were married I guess means I don't see it as a huge deal. I don't think I'd feel threatened by it.
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    (Original post by sugarmouse)
    Haha It's okay I get you!
    I tried to make him get one from someone else instead!I was like 'Wuh?! You've seen it all before!!' lol
    And yes definitely agree on the last point!
    What? Why? He was probably thinking all the time "imna hit that later". So much hotter than with a stranger, no?
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    (Original post by danny111)
    What? Why? He was probably thinking all the time "imna hit that later". So much hotter than with a stranger, no?
    Again, you're right-I need to think more like a man! Haha xx
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    (Original post by Aurora.)
    I'd have no issue with it... But I think I'm more interested in going to strip clubs than he is. Maybe we'll make it a date sometime...
    my ex got a lap dance once and i watched - had enough mental imagery stored to keep me VERY HAPPY for awhile.

    (Original post by Tigers)
    what's the difference in a private dance?(if she only strips)
    Going in with your mates is one thing and watching the stage shows but getting a private dance, one on one is summat different to some i guess.

    And if my gf actually tried to "forbid me" to do anything it would actually make me more determined to do it. Im not a child or a dog and she does not own me. She can explain her reasoning and her feelings on the matter and i would respect that - but she is not my master
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    I wouldn't mind if he wanted to go with his friends the odd time, he needs to have his own life. I don't think he's really bothered about them though, we've mentioned it in passing and he didn't seem bothered about going to one or not. I do think if you ban something, it'll only make your partner want to do it more though.
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    (Original post by silverbolt)
    my ex got a lap dance once and i watched - had enough mental imagery stored to keep me VERY HAPPY for awhile.



    Going in with your mates is one thing and watching the stage shows but getting a private dance, one on one is summat different to some i guess.

    And if my gf actually tried to "forbid me" to do anything it would actually make me more determined to do it. Im not a child or a dog and she does not own me. She can explain her reasoning and her feelings on the matter and i would respect that - but she is not my master
    Strip clubs in Roscommon? Surely a good agricultural show is enough entertainment in those parts.
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    (Original post by Aurora.)
    Oh definitely, I'm not saying it's basically the same as going to a pub or whatever because obviously it isn't :P Just that it's unlikely that at least most of the guys I know would be in it for mainly that? I don't know what I mean. I just can't imagine any of my guy friends being like 'it'd be so hot' or whatever, they're more 'it'd be a laugh' or 'it'd be awesome' or whatever. The tradition aspect, & the fact that I also wouldn't have an issue with it as an occasional thing once we were married I guess means I don't see it as a huge deal. I don't think I'd feel threatened by it.
    I think, for me, it's so much that I'd see it as a threat, I'd just consider it inconsiderate and a bad sign. Like I said, if it's an impromptu thing for a laugh, then fair enough. But if it's a calculated, revised and carefully considered plan, I would find it hard to believe they were there for anything other than naked women/men :P
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    (Original post by QuentinMids)
    Strip clubs in Roscommon? Surely a good agricultural show is enough entertainment in those parts.
    Ha ha - you should see the Mart on a Friday night - oh those udders

    this was when i was living in Birmingham - and in a couple of those clubs think id rather see the udders lmao
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    Would you let? Imagine if someone said, "would you let your gf do such and such", wouldn't go down too well.


    Personally I'd tell my gf to get to **** if she said I couldn't go. Then again I can't stand strip clubs, paying far too much for some annoying girl that isn't worth the money, pretending she loves it just to get a crappy 12 min dance, a bit of boob in your face and the odd flash of fanny. Rather spend the money getting wasted in a club, at least then you actually have a chance of pulling the girl dancing with you.
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    Firstly, partners are free to do as they choose, they don't need my permission to do things and I wouldn't tell them that they are/aren't allowed to do things.

    However, I probably would be a little uncomfortable about my boyfriend going to strip clubs as I kind of disagree with the concept of strip clubs, and I think it would be a little disrespectful to go if you have a partner. If it was just a one off thing for a friends stag do, and he was just watching the girls dancing in the main room I wouldn't mind, if he started going every week I would mind as it suggests he wants a single life. If he had a private dance of anything that involved the girl rubbing up against him, him touching her etc then it would be crossing a boundary and I'd personally class it as cheating. I wouldn't feel insecure about him finding someone else attractive as some have suggested on here, but I think touching someone/rubbing up against them as an intimate thing to do and if he did it with someone else it would be crossing a boundary.

    I appreciate my views are probably more uptight then others on here, and that they may come across as a bit unreasonable, but that's just my personal feelings about it.
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    I used to go to strip clubs together with my ex
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    Wouldn't mind in the slightest if my husband went to strip clubs, although i don't think he's all that interested to be honest. I know he's been before on stag do's and what not and from what he's said some of the girls get quite intimate....

    I also think I watch more porn than he does
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    My boyfriend has gone once on a night out, and we were together at the time. I wasn't bothered in the slightest, because he told me he was going, and then told me about it afterwards (including the fact that he was bored the whole time). I think if he was going on a weekly basis, I might be bothered, just because it's a lot of money for something that he could get elsewhere for free... But who am I to counter human nature? Human beings are naturally voyeuristic. Trying to control your boyfriend's vision is a step to far, in my opinion. As long as he's not off ****ing someone else, I'm alright.
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    Without a doubt, I wouldn't be happy with him going.
    Then again, I am probably from a more conservative culture than the other posters.
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    (Original post by canadamoose)
    My boyfriend has gone once on a night out, and we were together at the time. I wasn't bothered in the slightest, because he told me he was going, and then told me about it afterwards (including the fact that he was bored the whole time). I think if he was going on a weekly basis, I might be bothered, just because it's a lot of money for something that he could get elsewhere for free... But who am I to counter human nature? Human beings are naturally voyeuristic. Trying to control your boyfriend's vision is a step to far, in my opinion. As long as he's not off ****ing someone else, I'm alright.
    The lad knows what to say lol :rolleyes:
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    How was this post made on 01/01/1970?

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    Perhaps I don't understand what a strip club is, but isn't this question the same as asking "Do you let your bf watch porn?"?

    All he is doing is watching someone; that's not cheating, it's not 'wrong' in a monogamous relationship.

    "But one is on screen and one is in real life!" - So? Why should it be treated any differently?
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    as long as he doesnt get a private dance then yeh he caN Do what he wants!

    thats not to say it wouldnt bother me- id just make sure i went to a male one with the girls
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anon as she's on here but knows.

    I went and she wasn't happy. Didn't know it would be like that as it was my first private dance. But she let me kiss her everywhere from head to toe and touch anything.
    thats pretty much what ive heard about strip clubs.

    That is cheating....your gf deserves better.

    Looking is one thing, getting up close and personal is disgusting.
 
 
 
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