Guys; Do you like it when women approach you first?

So I read these forums a lot and there always seems to be questions from guys asking how to approach a girl they like or what to say to let her know that he likes her.
Sometimes you'll find a thread from a girl saying she really likes this guy but he won't ask her out or whatever. Its pretty rare to see a thread where a girl is asking for advice about how to ask a guy out. Kinda interesting to me!

So really my question is; Guys, do you prefer to make the first move or do you like it when a girl is confident and asks you out first?

If you add "loud", sure. Obnoxious is another thing you can look for. Some guys are obvious *******s, some are more subtle. Women can filter out these men in various ways, out of those who ask her out, who pushes for sex, and so on. But confidence IS an attraction cue, and linking it to being an ******* is ridiculous. It's the equivalent of saying that hot girls are sluts.

Being confident is not just about approaching, it is about signalizing self-esteem, getting respect, showing yourself from the best side. Telling women to "give shy guys a chance" IS the equivalent of telling men to ask out women they don't like. You cannot expect the world around you to ignore their preference for your benefit. If you don't have the guts to approach a woman, you need to change. Most guys do - out of adult men, most of them do approach women. It is normal to be shy as a teenager. Adding to that, there is absolutely no guarantee that a shy guy will make a good partner.
If you bothered to read the article, you'll see all of this explained. Women face rejection too, less often, but of a different kind. It usually happens further into dating, when she is more invested in the man. If they have had sex, she is also more in the negative, as women are judged for having more sexual partners than men are. It is not as if men have it harder than women. You have just decided on this as I am guessing you prefer to wallow in self pity.

And no, taking care of yourself is not "fairly easy". Exercise, diet, hair removal, hair dresser, skin treatments, clothing etc. takes an immense amount of time and money. Any girl you see who's a 8 or more, puts a LOT of effort into it. This is typical ignorance.

I'm surprised at the amount of negativity surrounding the idea of girls approaching a guy. I've started doing it recently (really only when I have the confidence boost of alcohol) and it usually ends up well for me.

Probably because you're difficult to reject - in all honesty, you support Arsenal F.C, you get + points for that alone.

The girls who do always come across as desperate or unattractive. It's just the way the society is that the man makes the move.


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The answer from young and shy guys will be yes.
They have not yet developed the confidence they need, it's as simple as that. But they will, hopefully, which would make dating possible and also life better.

As a girl, no, don't approach men.

The answer from young and shy guys will be yes.
They have not yet developed the confidence they need, it's as simple as that. But they will, hopefully, which would make dating possible and also life better.

As a girl, no, don't approach men.

Truth. The ones who neg you for this are women who aren't approached and men who don't have the balls to approach, which I guess is most of TSR.
It's unbelievable how many are miserable and start threads about their unhappy love lives but aren't willing to hear the truth from anyone. If what you've been doing until now doesn't work, then obviously you need to change.

This is true.

Also, no hot girls will ever approach a guy.

Guys only don't like being approached by ugly girls if they're dicks.

I like being approached by hot girls and not so attractive ones alike - its extremely flattering and you should only be gracious that they've taken the effort to speak to you. Whether I'm interested in them or not shouldn't come into it. Just be a gentleman.

And no, I'm neither cripplingly shy or insecure.

Or do you mean complete cold approaching?