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    (Original post by Tilly Seargeant)
    And seeing as I fit in a size 8-10 I wouldn't exactly call myself chubby.
    That's actually quite big for your height.

    (Original post by Tilly Seargeant)
    And you really should think before you post because my sister used to be anorexic and it was because people like you called her fat and chubby. It's extremely insensitive.
    Your sister is weak. Not my fault nor anybody else's but hers.
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    (Original post by TitanicTeutonicPhil)
    That's actually quite big for your height.

    Your sister is weak. Not my fault nor anybody else's but hers.
    Like I say - I don't care for your opinion.

    And my sister is not weak - she is one of the strongest people I know. She went through brutal spinal surgery at the age of 16, after which is was hardly able to walk! She went through 2 years of recovery, and she now works, drives and nobody even knows what she went through. Because she got on with it, and didn't moan or complain. She didn't get to have the sweet 16 that everyone else got, because she was told a week before her birthday that she was going to have surgery.

    Don't you dare call her weak - you're the weak one. I bet you couldn't even imagine what she went through, let alone go through with it yourself.
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    (Original post by Tilly Seargeant)
    And my sister is not weak - she is one of the strongest people I know. She went through brutal spinal surgery at the age of 16, after which is was hardly able to walk! She went through 2 years of recovery, and she now works, drives and nobody even knows what she went through. Because she got on with it, and didn't moan or complain.
    We're moving away from the topic (the OP's and your chubby figure), but... what alternative did she have? Lay in bed or sit in a wheel chair for the rest of her life when it was apparently possible to make a full recovery? And not moaning or complaining is actually a sign for her fear of showing weakness, which would be a completely normal thing.

    (Original post by Tilly Seargeant)
    She didn't get to have the sweet 16 that everyone else got, because she was told a week before her birthday that she was going to have surgery.
    Did you know that NO ONE outside the commercialised English speaking world actually has a 'sweet 16'? Nobody needs it, except the industry.

    (Original post by Tilly Seargeant)
    Don't you dare call her weak
    Physical strength and mental robustness (which is what I was referring to apparently) are two separate things. If your sister starved herself because of what someone else said, she cannot be strong.
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    (Original post by TitanicTeutonicPhil)
    We're moving away from the topic (the OP's and your chubby figure), but... what alternative did she have? Lay in bed or sit in a wheel chair for the rest of her life when it was apparently possible to make a full recovery? And not moaning or complaining is actually a sign for her fear of showing weakness, which would be a completely normal thing.

    Did you know that NO ONE outside the commercialised English speaking world actually has a 'sweet 16'? Nobody needs it, except the industry.

    Physical strength and mental robustness (which is what I was referring to apparently) are two separate things. If your sister starved herself because of what someone else said, she cannot be strong.
    I don't have a chubby figure thanks. And even if it was I'm perfectly confident with how I look. And nothing anyone says would change that.

    She was not scared of showing weakness. Believe me to go through what she went through you cannot have an ounce of weakness. And she had to be mentally strong to get through it. And the decision to make a recovery was not that obvious. Had her surgeon been a millimetre out with his work, she would've ended up paralysed. Either way she risked being bed bound for life. Not a decision that is easy for a 16 year old girl.

    And she chose not to eat because she was made to feel worthless by people like yourself. She wasn't weak mentally - it weren't about weakness at all. It was about the fact that people chose to treat her a certain way, and she felt trapped. She felt it was her only way out. In some ways she was stronger than anyone, because she managed to overcome it, before it killed her.

    Watch this video - it's not her, but it follows a similar story to hers. You can make up your own mind as to whether she was mentally and physically strong. I couldn't care less if you think she is weak. because I know she isn't. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D55hFjw7snk

    Edit: The OP never mentioned a chubby figure either. They asked whether the dress would look nice on them, given their shape. Hourglass doesn't mean chubby. She wanted an opinion on a dress, not her figure.
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    (Original post by Tilly Seargeant)
    I don't have a chubby figure thanks.
    At 5'nothing, size 8-10, and an 'hourglass' figure you sure are.

    (Original post by Tilly Seargeant)
    And even if it was I'm perfectly confident with how I look. And nothing anyone says would change that.
    Cool.

    (Original post by Tilly Seargeant)
    She was not scared of showing weakness. Believe me to go through what she went through you cannot have an ounce of weakness. And she had to be mentally strong to get through it.
    (Original post by Tilly Seargeant)
    And the decision to make a recovery was not that obvious. Had her surgeon been a millimetre out with his work, she would've ended up paralysed. Either way she risked being bed bound for life. Not a decision that is easy for a 16 year old girl.
    Not really. Virtually anyone would have made the same choice.

    (Original post by Tilly Seargeant)
    And she chose not to eat because she was made to feel worthless by people like yourself. She wasn't weak mentally - it weren't about weakness at all. It was about the fact that people chose to treat her a certain way, and she felt trapped.
    If being treated 'a certain way' by people makes you feel 'trapped' - you ARE mentally unstable.

    (Original post by Tilly Seargeant)
    In some ways she was stronger than anyone, because she managed to overcome it, before it killed her.
    If she were actually strong, she would have never slipped into it.

    (Original post by Tilly Seargeant)
    Watch this video - it's not her, but it follows a similar story to hers.
    I don't have time to watch pointless videos about 'similar cases'. Get her on cam and I might consider watching it.

    (Original post by Tilly Seargeant)
    Edit: The OP never mentioned a chubby figure either. They asked whether the dress would look nice on them, given their shape. Hourglass doesn't mean chubby. She wanted an opinion on a dress, not her figure.
    Right, I gave her my opinion anyway. Sue me.
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    (Original post by La belle jolie)
    It's my friend's party next week and I really want to get this dress:

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    The problem is, I don't have a figure at all like the model in the picture. I'm petite (around 5 foot) and have a very hourglassy figure. I have a slim waist and am in good shape but unfortunately my shoulders and boobs are huge for my height (32D) and my hips are also fairly wide.

    Will this style of dress (shift dress) look horrible on me? I'd go to the store and try it on, but they don't have it in my local Lipsy.

    What do you reckon?
    I tried a similar dress from lipsy. It looked amazing in the shop window but like you I have more curves than the mannequin and I really didn't look good in it. I'm 6ft too so even being tall didn't help! I have an hourglass figure too just for comparison but I don't think my boobs are as big.


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    (Original post by TitanicTeutonicPhil)
    Seems like you don't know how to use a dictionary then...

    To be petite, you have to be short AND slim. If you've got an hourglass figure AND big boobs, there is no way you can be petite. In that case you're just short - or a midget, on which you seem to border with your height...
    Petite in clothes is short. My mum knows this woman who is a size 24 but like 5ft tall and consequently shops in the petite section. I'm not saying you're wrong in the correct definition, it's just not the definition the fashion industry apply it to.

    At least petite sounds nice. Us on the other end of the scale just get "tall". xD


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    (Original post by TitanicTeutonicPhil)
    At 5'nothing, size 8-10, and an 'hourglass' figure you sure are.


    Not really. Virtually anyone would have made the same choice.


    If being treated 'a certain way' by people makes you feel 'trapped' - you ARE mentally unstable.


    If she were actually strong, she would have never slipped into it.

    I don't have time to watch pointless videos about 'similar cases'. Get her on cam and I might consider watching it.
    Wow so many replies. Give me a sec to work my way through them. Sorry I have no idea how to split up the quotes.

    To begin with I really am not chubby no matter what you say. I don't care what sort of image you seem to have that 5ft people can't be curvy. I'm a healthy weight, I look healthy and I look in proportion. I'm not too big or too small. I'm just right.

    And actually not all people make the same choices with regards to the surgery. I know many people who turned it down because they were too afraid to go through with it. Unfortunately it is genetic, so many people have surgery as their only hope. I have it too though luckily mine corrected naturally.

    In actual fact many people feel trapped when people are treated a certain way. Bullying is based around that fact.
    You don't quite understand how anorexia takes hold in my opinion. It's so easy to slip into it. It starts with just losing a bit of weight, cause people have said something. But then they start to see themselves larger than they are. They are not weak. They just do not see what they are doing to themselves.

    And I have images and things of my sister, but I'm not posting them on here. She looked like a corpse after her surgery, I don't think she wants anyone to see that.
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    (Original post by Beckyweck)
    Petite in clothes is short. My mum knows this woman who is a size 24 but like 5ft tall and consequently shops in the petite section. I'm not saying you're wrong in the correct definition, it's just not the definition the fashion industry apply it to.

    At least petite sounds nice. Us on the other end of the scale just get "tall". xD


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    Yeah I agree Petite is slightly more graceful sounding that tall. There's not really many nice ways of putting tall - petite is french for small. Grande is french for tall - that sounds even worse.
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    (Original post by TitanicTeutonicPhil)
    Not really. Virtually anyone would have made the same choice.
    Don't talk crap you imbecile. So many people chicken out of the surgery when they hear the risks of death and paralysis - despite them being small risks - just because it frightens them. ****.

    (Original post by TitanicTeutonicPhil)
    I don't have time to watch pointless videos about 'similar cases'. Get her on cam and I might consider watching it.
    I'll go on cam and show you my scar that runs the length of nearly all my back. I'm only 9.5 months post op and can do whatever because I worked hard to recover.

    It's a bloody hard surgery so you my friend can suck my ****. (Hypothetically as it's imaginary but still)



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    (Original post by curved)
    Don't talk crap you imbecile. So many people chicken out of the surgery when they hear the risks of death and paralysis - despite them being small risks - just because it frightens them. ****.

    I'll go on cam and show you my scar that runs the length of nearly all my back. I'm only 9.5 months post op and can do whatever because I worked hard to recover.

    It's a bloody hard surgery so you my friend can suck my ****. (Hypothetically as it's imaginary but still)

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    My sister's scar is 30cm, but she had her incision made at the side, because her ribs were twisting around so they went in through her side to avoid causing any damage. Plus they removed one rib, so it was just easier than way.

    Yeah it's generally 1 yr recovery, but you'll find within the next yr you'll improve much more. I found that everyone I knew who'd been treated took a yr to live normally again, but found they were able to do much much more by the end of the second yr.
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    (Original post by Tilly Seargeant)
    My sister's scar is 30cm, but she had her incision made at the side, because her ribs were twisting around so they went in through her side to avoid causing any damage. Plus they removed one rib, so it was just easier than way.

    Yeah it's generally 1 yr recovery, but you'll find within the next yr you'll improve much more. I found that everyone I knew who'd been treated took a yr to live normally again, but found they were able to do much much more by the end of the second yr.
    Mine was done as a posterior surgery due to the nature of my curve - it was thoracic and thus it is only possible to achieve correction through a posterior approach as I am fused up to T2. Despite the hatred I had towards my rib hump my surgeon did not do a costoplasty and believed that he could derotate my spine enough to correct my ribs and now I'm nearing the year post op mark he's offered me a costoplasty if I want it but it's another scar, another operation and more NHS money spent on cosmetic issues - plus I don't want any more interruption to my life and I feel okay in myself and can breathe better already.

    I am completely fine now I am fused and having been on roller coasters etc - there's not much to advance on and in October I will be shadowing my surgeon for a week in theatre this is because I became very interested in this particular field of medicine and I want to be a doctor (surgeon spine permitting in the future) so it was the perfect opportunity.

    So hopefully the troll will direct any medical questions towards me and I will answer them to the best of my ability. Humph.


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    (Original post by curved)
    Mine was done as a posterior surgery due to the nature of my curve - it was thoracic and thus it is only possible to achieve correction through a posterior approach as I am fused up to T2. Despite the hatred I had towards my rib hump my surgeon did not do a costoplasty and believed that he could derotate my spine enough to correct my ribs and now I'm nearing the year post op mark he's offered me a costoplasty if I want it but it's another scar, another operation and more NHS money spent on cosmetic issues - plus I don't want any more interruption to my life and I feel okay in myself and can breathe better already.

    I am completely fine now I am fused and having been on roller coasters etc - there's not much to advance on and in October I will be shadowing my surgeon for a week in theatre this is because I became very interested in this particular field of medicine and I want to be a doctor (surgeon spine permitting in the future) so it was the perfect opportunity.

    So hopefully the troll will direct any medical questions towards me and I will answer them to the best of my ability. Humph.


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    It's good that you're ok now

    I think my sister's was a lumbar curve. I can't remember exactly because I was only 13 at the time - she had surgery 4 yrs ago now.

    It really was a roller coaster. At times I think my sister regretted the surgery, because she was more limited for a while, but now she knows she made the right decision. Seeing her walk for hours without having any pain just showed how beneficial the surgery was to her. Before surgery one of her hips was raised which made walking a problem for her.

    I had a minor lumbar curve too, but I was lucky in that it corrected as I grew, so I never needed the treatment. Although one of my hips is still slightly raised, but it doesn't bother me. And my mum has a slight thoracic curve - you can see it through her back, but she doesn't want to have treatment because it would be too stressful and she doesn't want to risk it.

    And I felt it was very interesting too. I have watched the surgery on TV before, and would love to shadow a doctor to see it done for real. It's amazingly complex surgery. My sister's was much shorter than it should've been since she was treated by a surgeon who didn't use x-rays between each screw, so her operation lasted just 3 hours.
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