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      (Original post by TheReckless)
      Whether she "understands" you or not detracts nothing from her point; in nearly every single post of yours, you manage to turn a thread that has nothing to do with physical appearance into a pity-fest or something, where you slate your looks and complain about how crappy your life is.
      With all due respect, if you really have such a problem with your life/looks, then do something about it rather than whining on here.
      Erm, I'm allowed to say what I like in my posts, and I'm not asking anybody to pity me. If the thread gets derailed over me, it's not my fault.
      And whether she understands or not DEFINITELY detracts from her point, because unless you're as ugly as me, you cannot relate or ever, in your dizziest daydreams, understand what my life is like.

      (Original post by Ultimate1)
      Also stop giving that attention seeker Maid Marin any advice. It's probably a troll and she has absolitely derailed this thread.
      At least I can spell :plz2:
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      I go to a different uni and struggled to make friends the first year as well, none of the societies really interest me and im not a big drinker which a lot of the freshers did of course aha but im determined to try and make more effort this year, especially means a lot of the modules involves group work so I guess people will get less shy and more sociable... or at least I hope so!
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      I have family commitments so I can't be getting uni accommodation.



      I did join the Econ society. Absolutely horrible. All their events had to do with drinking alcohol, lots of it. I guess I could join the ULU Harry Potter Society, that will be a start.

      I do make small talk but those people don't want to get to know me beyond that.

      At school, it was so much easier to socialise. Anywhere I go, even if I didn't want to, I always made friends. My luck apparently ran out when I started to go to uni.
      Sorry, you can't just give up because of the horrid alcoholic Economic society. There are societies out there which don't rely on alcohol. Trust me. I just haven't quite joined them yet.

      You have to make more effort than you did in school, then, You can no longer just go anywhere and automatically make friends. Did you go to a big or small school?
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      somehow I knew when I read the start of this that it would be a QMUL issue!! About training for national championships, check again because there's no rule im aware of that you have to compete and for my club at least, we don't leave london except for the actual competitions (1 in february, 1 in march, a day or two each).

      I went to QMUL for 6 weeks in 2011 and felt the exact same way that you do now, and I interrupted for a year, came back and joined a few societies - found one a loved and stuck with it and now the vast majority of my uni friends are from this club. So really do try and give a sports team a go because it's probably the one kind that you KNOW isn't going to be reliant on alcohol!!!

      And of course I'm biased but, join cheer


      Also btw i have MANY family commitments and live at home in east london and work so no excuse you can do it
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      I`m living in Bhum, also don`t have friend.. you guys are not along, if you you are in Brm then we can be friend to hang out sometimes at the weekend

      Cheers
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      (Original post by JulietheCat)
      Sorry, you can't just give up because of the horrid alcoholic Economic society. There are societies out there which don't rely on alcohol. Trust me. I just haven't quite joined them yet.

      You have to make more effort than you did in school, then, You can no longer just go anywhere and automatically make friends. Did you go to a big or small school?
      I went to a big school. There was always the case where other people were studying in the same areas that I was and we talked. I also volunteered just for fun and did have a lot of fun with it as well. I anyway plan to volunteer for my CV so I will probably meet more people that way.

      (Original post by riddlemethis20)
      I go to a different uni and struggled to make friends the first year as well, none of the societies really interest me and im not a big drinker which a lot of the freshers did of course aha but im determined to try and make more effort this year, especially means a lot of the modules involves group work so I guess people will get less shy and more sociable... or at least I hope so!
      I'm not a big drinker myself but I loved going to that clubbing event in freshers. I just never had time because of commitments and my inability to balance everything together. From the middle of September, I will go to a clubbing event once a week from start to finish (I will try first if I actually will like it the second time round).
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      (Original post by Anonymous)
      I'm not a big drinker myself but I loved going to that clubbing event in freshers. I just never had time because of commitments and my inability to balance everything together. From the middle of September, I will go to a clubbing event once a week from start to finish (I will try first if I actually will like it the second time round).
      I don't think thats the ideal route really. I've never in my life made an actual new friend via clubbing. It's loud, a bit awkward, fun if you're with your mates but how are you going to make friends there?
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      (Original post by ChloeElizabeth)
      somehow I knew when I read the start of this that it would be a QMUL issue!! About training for national championships, check again because there's no rule im aware of that you have to compete and for my club at least, we don't leave london except for the actual competitions (1 in february, 1 in march, a day or two each).

      I went to QMUL for 6 weeks in 2011 and felt the exact same way that you do now, and I interrupted for a year, came back and joined a few societies - found one a loved and stuck with it and now the vast majority of my uni friends are from this club. So really do try and give a sports team a go because it's probably the one kind that you KNOW isn't going to be reliant on alcohol!!!

      And of course I'm biased but, join cheer


      Also btw i have MANY family commitments and live at home in east london and work so no excuse you can do it
      I'm not too sure about going outside of London but I like tennis, swimming and cricket so I'm sure I can find a sports club. Thanks for that

      Yeah, I do need to re-organise everything in my life. Should be manageable
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      (Original post by ChloeElizabeth)
      I don't think thats the ideal route really. I've never in my life made an actual new friend via clubbing. It's loud, a bit awkward, fun if you're with your mates but how are you going to make friends there?
      At the beginning, there was a section where you go and speak to people before the actual dancing begun. Want to go there for fun but I'm now not really sure that my love for club music can justify it?
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      (Original post by Maid Marian)
      I won't have any friends at uni either. You are not alone
      Your depressing posts are really annoying. I seem to come across these on almost every thread I see. OK, we get you are quite a sad person but you come across as attention seeking if you keep making posts like these as if you keep wanting someone to reply "It's ok". Which I have seen people do for you yet here we go back again to the depressive posts. I'm sure there are a lot of people on this website who have a harder life then you yet they don't feel the need to always post repeatedly negativity and putting themselves down.
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      (Original post by Maid Marian)
      I won't have any friends at uni either. You are not alone
      lol How do you know? Your attitude is quite pessimistic and dragging it along won't help you make friends.
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      (Original post by Anonymous)
      QMUL. Really feeling lonely
      I study close to you then. ^^
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      (Original post by ChloeElizabeth)
      somehow I knew when I read the start of this that it would be a QMUL issue!! About training for national championships, check again because there's no rule im aware of that you have to compete and for my club at least, we don't leave london except for the actual competitions (1 in february, 1 in march, a day or two each).

      I went to QMUL for 6 weeks in 2011 and felt the exact same way that you do now, and I interrupted for a year, came back and joined a few societies - found one a loved and stuck with it and now the vast majority of my uni friends are from this club. So really do try and give a sports team a go because it's probably the one kind that you KNOW isn't going to be reliant on alcohol!!!

      And of course I'm biased but, join cheer


      Also btw i have MANY family commitments and live at home in east london and work so no excuse you can do it
      Is Queen Mary that bad? I thought it was a top university. Russel Group and all that hype.
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        (Original post by Xscape)
        Your depressing posts are really annoying. I seem to come across these on almost every thread I see. OK, we get you are quite a sad person but you come across as attention seeking if you keep making posts like these as if you keep wanting someone to reply "It's ok". Which I have seen people do for you yet here we go back again to the depressive posts. I'm sure there are a lot of people on this website who have a harder life then you yet they don't feel the need to always post repeatedly negativity and putting themselves down.
        Nobody on this website is uglier than me, therefore they do not have a harder life.
        I don't care if people find my posts annoying. :dontknow: And I don't want people to say "it's ok".
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        (Original post by Maid Marian)
        Nobody on this website is uglier than me, therefore they do not have a harder life.
        I don't care if people find my posts annoying. :dontknow: And I don't want people to say "it's ok".
        Sure you have a database of what everyone on tsr looks like :rolleyes: more than \dfrac{2}{3}rds of the posters have avatars - e.g. me.

        inb4 she says she surveyed every girl on tsr because being ugly as a guy isn't half as bad as being ugly as girl *in her opinion*
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        (Original post by auralay)
        Hi, sorry this post won't be helpful at all, but I'm thinking of applying to go to QMUL this year and I'm quite a shy person (I don't usually have trouble making friends, I'm just quiet really) but the idea of moving from Manchester down to London and ending up with no friends is pretty scary!

        Do you think it's the uni that's the problem? Sorry if I'm not articulating myself very well, I just don't want to go somewhere that I'll struggle to make friends. :confused:
        There's nothing wrong with QM in terms of making friends, you just have to look around and not give up. But the others may have a point since I've not heard anything bad about making friends at QM whilst I've been here, but I myself have had issues. Read my reply to the OP.
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          (Original post by Robbie242)
          Sure you have a database of what everyone on tsr looks like :rolleyes: more than \dfrac{2}{3}rds of the posters have avatars - e.g. me.

          inb4 she says she surveyed every girl on tsr because being ugly as a guy isn't half as bad as being ugly as girl *in her opinion*
          Not opinion, this is pure truth. An ugly guy will not receive the same brutal condemnation from society as an ugly girl will.
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          (Original post by Anonymous)
          QMUL. Really feeling lonely
          I don't know what everyone's on about QMUL having a problem with forming friendships? I've also just finished my first year and I've made some very good friends, but I did have to make an effort, and practically none of them are from halls. So I guess people may have a point about Queen Mary.

          I'm also not really one of the typically popular people, I'm not shy or introverted or anything, but I'm at the same time not the centre of attention. When I arrived at QM there was me and 1 other American girl in our flat, no one actually arrived till 2 days after. I did all the stuff that people recommend, left my door open, knocked on everyone's (empty) doors etc. But nothing worked. The US girl had her own mates she was meeting later so I was practically on my own. Luckily the people from the flat opposite knocked on my door to invite everyone on the same floor around for a party/pre drinks and I ended up meeting the majority of the first of my uni "friends" there. Honestly in that first month I must have met 30+ people who I got on with and I though it was great.

          But long story short cliques form, the excitement and friendliness of freshers dies out and a year later I don't actually hang out with any of those guys anyone. I get on with them and say hi and stuff but other than that, nothing. Since I was actually in my flat on my own it was always me making the effort to go over and knock on their doors and stuff, and I kept on thinking that I have to do this or else I'll make no friends. But then I realised that the majority of the times we went on nights out together I had just really found out via FB and turned up, I wasn't actually invited.

          My good friends came out of societies that I was genuinely interested and active in. And a lot of them are second and third year students, so I think there's still a lot of time for you and anyone else to make friends. But you have to make the effort in all cases, and not give up when one set of people fails to accept you, but at the same time don't waste time on people that clearly don't care about you. My advice is to explore the society scene as much as you can in September. They're all looking for new members and will be happy to take you in.

          Keep going and good luck.

          PS: I'm president of the Marxist Society next year so come round to our fresher's fair stall and we can have a chat about economics if you want!

          Man's gotta try and recruit you know?
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          (Original post by Maid Marian)
          Not opinion, this is pure truth. An ugly guy will not receive the same brutal condemnation from society as an ugly girl will.
          I still see what you'd call *gasp* ugly girls at my school hanging out with more attractive looking people and vice versa - their looks don't stop them because they do not seem to focus on that aspect at all, rather they tend to converse regularly about day to day life and other things such as tv shows, film, youtube etc.

          Oh please, cry me a river. Your just trying to put everything on your gender aren't you. I've seen ugly guys have a less tough time making friends than ugly girls BUT this is not applicable to every scenario - sometimes ugly guys (obviously looks are subjective, but lets say ugly people) have not had an easy time making friends - I certainly didn't when I was bad at every sport (still am to an extent) and was a complete failure at life (played wow too much). But at A-level I've turned that around, its not too late to change and the more you focus on your strengths rather than weaknesses, the better you will feel.

          I will not agree with you however that in terms of getting a bf/gf that ugly guys have an easier time - because in most cases it is equal for both genders - except ugly guys more often than not have to put up with rejection for the gender roles that say a man should initiate. Hence I believe ugly guys have a harder time emotionally for entering relationships

          I feel like we've had this conversation like 5 times now
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          (Original post by Maid Marian;44069846[B)
          ]Nobody on this website is uglier than me, therefore they do not have a harder life.[/B]
          I don't care if people find my posts annoying. :dontknow: And I don't want people to say "it's ok".
          So you suggest that a very pretty girl on here that gets abused by a family member (or w/e) has a much easier life than you JUST because she is pretty? No, I'm sorry it doesn't work like that.

          Shut up now and stop being all "Me, Me, Me"

          I find you very shallow.
         
         
         
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