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    People calling you guys creepy are insane. If someone comes over to me and makes conversation, and I find it engaging, what the hell is the problem. Hell, if it's a girl whos interesting I'll talk. Living scared of everyone who wants to talk to up you is beyond sad.
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    Depends how it is done, be charming and funny, hard to resist then but talk for a bit before asking for their number definitely

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    Im too ugly for that to ever happen to me so its not a question I normally entertain but for the sake of this thread and a brief dream where im hot..id find it flattering depending on how they do it.
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    I am fairly surprised by the responses. I thought more girls were willing to give their number out.

    The person would first have to initiate a convo/small talk, if they seemed relatively normal, look a similar age to me, and are good looking then yes I would give them my number.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't understand how you'd find someone who approaches you to ask for your a number a creep. if someone is attracted to you, why should you call him a creep? I'd understand if he was a weirdo, but if she's just simply asking you because he asks you, I just don't get it...

    Being the thread starter, I really wanted to approach the girl but there just wasn't a time for it. i.e she was with her friend, and i didn't want to interrupt her convo, neither did I want to catch her when she was by herself in case she thought i was weird lol
    I think that non-British girls would be more receptive/open to being approached in the street.

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    (Original post by Petulia)
    ...what makes you think that a mental problem is the cause of this fear? I once had a guy staring at me at the bus stop for 10 minutes before he approached me, and when I turned him down he just walked off. He was never really waiting for a bus. The fact that he stood there wasting 10 minutes of his life just to watch me is what causes fear in females.
    Know that the majority of females would feel the exact same way because approaching women in this way isn't normal.
    But you're using one example and categorising men approaching strangers. It's like me saying I saw a black man with a knife and now I'm scared of black men. You need to rationalise it. Just because you are a female and physically weaker than males it shouldn't mean you should be scared of being approached in public. That's ridiculous. I think this is very much a British thing also. Girls abroad are more receptive to being social and open to people outside their network of friends in my experience. Although yes approaching on the street is not something I'd recommend.
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    (Original post by Zarek)
    Use your brain. Firstly it takes someone by surprise which is often inappropriate and rude, secondly it is very presumptuous and thirdly, and sadly, girls are sometimes at threat from strange males.
    It took me by surprise when I opened a toilet door to see a bare naked guy taking a **** .. it doesn't mean I'm scared of approaching a toilet again. Use your brain.
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    (Original post by Sanctimonious)
    In a restaurant it is easy.

    'When they have finished their drinks can you send another two over there please? Thanks' - to the waiter.

    Easy. The waiter if he has a brain and is a wingman and not a cockblock will tell them you sent them over. Easy as that really. You have now gained their attention without looking needy and you have also made it easier to go speak to them. In a lot of situations women often come and talk to you if you do this to say thanks.
    That's kind of weird tbh.
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    (Original post by You Failed)
    How is it that hard to imagine why it might be scary for them? A lot of guys are notoriously unpredictable when a girl rejects them. You only have to observe on a night out the amount of guys who will start calling a girl a slut or a prude for not finding them attractive. Here we have a situation where a girl is by herself, she has no intention of wanting to give her phone number out, so she has to say no and then she has to wonder what are the consequences of saying no are; she doesn't know how the guy is going to react. He could take the utmost offensive and start being violent or more likely but equally embarrassing for the girl he could start shouting about what a ***** she is. The girl does not know how the guy will react and so it is only natural for them to be afraid.

    Do you have mental health problems? Maybe you're autistic if you find it so hard to imagine what it must be like from other peoples perspective, they don't know what your intentions are.
    You are talking about girls like they are higher greater beings. They are equally as bad as men in their own way.

    If I'm having an argument or disagreement with a girl and in the past one hit me in the face unprovoked, should I then be scared the next time it happens? I mean by your terms I don't know what might happen so I suppose when I have a disagreement with a girl I should be scared?
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    Why would you just approach a random stranger you've never even met before with the intention of dating though?
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    (Original post by Xinho)
    That's kind of weird tbh.
    Maybe if you're scared of women it is yeah. To most people who are extroverts its normal.
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    (Original post by Xinho)
    You are talking about girls like they are higher greater beings. They are equally as bad as men in their own way.

    If I'm having an argument or disagreement with a girl and in the past one hit me in the face unprovoked, should I then be scared the next time it happens? I mean by your terms I don't know what might happen so I suppose when I have a disagreement with a girl I should be scared?
    Except when a girl hits you its a lot less painful than when a guy does it....

    Your argument only proves that you shouldn't be scared of a girl hitting you next time. It does nothing to revoke the premise of my argument and my argument does not extend exclusively to women. Many men will be intimidated by a stranger approaching them if the situation is similar to when many girls are approached, especially if the stranger approaching is notably much bigger than you are and you have to refuse them something they want. And since most men are bigger than most women, then this scenario is a lot more common for when an unknown male approaches a female.
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    I'd never give my number out. You could be any kind of weirdo. You might start leaving me voicemails of you ****ing like a guy did to my friend :\
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    (Original post by Xinho)
    But you're using one example and categorising men approaching strangers. It's like me saying I saw a black man with a knife and now I'm scared of black men. You need to rationalise it. Just because you are a female and physically weaker than males it shouldn't mean you should be scared of being approached in public. That's ridiculous. I think this is very much a British thing also. Girls abroad are more receptive to being social and open to people outside their network of friends in my experience. Although yes approaching on the street is not something I'd recommend.

    ...you're saying that I'm "physically weaker" than all men just because I'm a female? And apparently this is the reason why I fear being approached by strange men on the street? Well if all men are like yourself in thinking that they are above women and can approach them as they please because they're all apparently "physically stronger" than females then yes I am terrified of being approached by a stranger who thinks he can bully me into a conversation because apparently I'm too "physically weak" to reject anyone.
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    (Original post by ilem)
    Why would you just approach a random stranger you've never even met before with the intention of dating though?
    This is probably the most stupidest thing I've read on this thread. Are you telling me when you see a random attractive girl you've never met before at a house party that you'd not approach her by virtue of the fact you're physically attracted to her and want to get to know her more? I can tell from your post, your dating game is weak #foreverinthefriendszone
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    (Original post by You Failed)
    Except when a girl hits you its a lot less painful than when a guy does it....

    Your argument only proves that you shouldn't be scared of a girl hitting you next time. It does nothing to revoke the premise of my argument and my argument does not extend exclusively to women. Many men will be intimidated by a stranger approaching them if the situation is similar to when many girls are approached, especially if the stranger approaching is notably much bigger than you are and you have to refuse them something they want. And since most men are bigger than most women, then this scenario is a lot more common for when an unknown male approaches a female.
    Really not following you. Llike a girl said earlier on this page 7, a guy approaching you at night time in the dark in a quiet eery street - ye be scared and creeped. Approaching another human being in the street in a city centre in the day time? If a girl is creeped by that then she needs to take a good look at herself. Sad case.
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    (Original post by Petulia)
    ...you're saying that I'm "physically weaker" than all men just because I'm a female? And apparently this is the reason why I fear being approached by strange men on the street? Well if all men are like yourself in thinking that they are above women and can approach them as they please because they're all apparently "physically stronger" than females then yes I am terrified of being approached by a stranger who thinks he can bully me into a conversation because apparently I'm too "physically weak" to reject anyone.
    Again lik the guy above, if you read what you are saying you are not confusing me but yourself. You have problems.
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    (Original post by Xinho)
    Again lik the guy above, if you read what you are saying you are not confusing me but yourself. You have problems.
    You're the only confused one here. Have fun seeing where sexism and arrogance will get you in the real world.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This is probably the most stupidest thing I've read on this thread. Are you telling me when you see a random attractive girl you've never met before at a house party that you'd not approach her by virtue of the fact you're physically attracted to her and want to get to know her more? I can tell from your post, your dating game is weak #foreverinthefriendszone
    Did you really just compare house parties and approaching on the street? Getting to know someone at a house party where people are to socialise and have fun is far more likely to yield results without coming off as a complete creep than hitting on random girls on the street purely because you happen to like the way she looks.

    Have some standards instead of hitting on everything that moves. How desperate.
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    lel, I'm not afraid of being called a creep. I'd still do it if I feel like it. Ooh approaching a girl you like the look of, wanting to get to know better, oh how creepy :ahee:

    If you approach a woman = creep
    If you approach a child = pedophile

    :mmm:

    If you come across sleazy then of course you'll look creepy - but if you genuinely want to get to know her better and/or you find her attractive - I don't see what the problem is. Especially if she gives you a hint.. and trust me, it's easier than you think to read positive *hints* from women asking you to approach them.

    What one person thinks is creepy, another will welcome it with open arms. Just keep doing what you think is right until you meet someone that will welcome your actions. As long as you're not hurting anyone I don't see what the problem is.

 
 
 
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