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    (Original post by überambitious_ox)
    If it is quite obvious that there is a mutual attraction between you and a girl, ask her out because the chances of the girl making the first move are very small!!

    Decided to make this thread because I'm in this position, and I will certainly not make the first move.

    So guys, go for it because she probably wants you too!!
    Well not always... sometimes a girl can lead a guy on and just when a guy asks the girl out she out-rightly rejects him and friend zoned him!! Do you know how painful this is?
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    (Original post by überambitious_ox)
    If it is quite obvious that there is a mutual attraction between you and a girl, ask her out because the chances of the girl making the first move are very small!!

    Decided to make this thread because I'm in this position, and I will certainly not make the first move.

    So guys, go for it because she probably wants you too!!
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    (Original post by mojojojo101)
    @OP if you are the kind of the girl who EXPECTS me to make the first move just because I have a penis then you can pretty much count it as fact that it will DEFINITELY not happen.
    Why not??
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    (Original post by überambitious_ox)
    Why not??
    Because it is indicative of an entitled person who expects others to do things for them. Also the aspect others have mentioned about equality/gender roles going both ways...

    Either way, bot someone I am interested in having any sort of relationship with, romantic or not.
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    (Original post by mojojojo101)
    Because it is indicative of an entitled person who expects others to do things for them. Also the aspect others have mentioned about equality/gender roles going both ways...

    Either way, bot someone I am interested in having any sort of relationship with, romantic or not.
    So would you just not doing anything at all? Say you are a girl both really liked each other, would you just leave it to go nowhere?
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    (Original post by überambitious_ox)
    So would you just not doing anything at all? Say you are a girl both really liked each other, would you just leave it to go nowhere?
    Unless I really, really, really liked her (and the chance of that considering we haven't already established contact in some form) then pretty much, yes.
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    (Original post by überambitious_ox)
    If it is quite obvious that there is a mutual attraction between you and a girl, ask her out because the chances of the girl making the first move are very small!!

    Decided to make this thread because I'm in this position, and I will certainly not make the first move.

    So guys, go for it because she probably wants you too!!
    Stop being a coward. No one finds that attractive.
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    (Original post by überambitious_ox)
    So why would we be staring at each other everyday at uni then? Also, I caught him staring first
    He was actually staring at the cuter girl behind you, sorry.
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    (Original post by TroyAndAbed)
    He was actually staring at the cuter girl behind you, sorry.
    Oh, so you think the same girl stands behind me everyday?
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    (Original post by Entangled)
    überambitious_ox,

    Melodrama and generalisations are not that much fun to unravel.


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    (Original post by EatAndRevise)
    You have been told this by whom?

    You have said that you have been staring at each other, but you have not talked to one another. How on earth does that mean he likes you?
    Fatlogic.
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    (Original post by überambitious_ox)
    If it is quite obvious that there is a mutual attraction between you and a girl, ask her out because the chances of the girl making the first move are very small!!

    Decided to make this thread because I'm in this position, and I will certainly not make the first move.

    So guys, go for it because she probably wants you too!!
    You realise this makes you a loser right?
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    Lord above, this sounds like some year 5 bull****
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    (Original post by überambitious_ox)
    So would you just not doing anything at all? Say you are a girl both really liked each other, would you just leave it to go nowhere?
    Thats your plan too isnt it?
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    on behalf of boys everywhere, **** you.
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    (Original post by überambitious_ox)
    It's so obvious; we've been staring at each other at uni everyday! Not now as it's Summer! We've never spoken though - I'm too shy and I think he is too.
    What uni are you at? What if its me
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    If you're interested, make a move. Regardless of gender. It's 2014 for goodness sake. Rejection sucks and you'll get over it and move on. I think the idea that men should make the first move is daft, it places too much pressure on them to carry things forward and sets them up for the potentially painful process of rejection, and it removes a womans ability to exercise any proper power, if you like a guy you can sit there for ages waiting for him to ask you, and although you can argue that women get more choice because they can say yes to any guy they want, it's actually ridiculous, because it depends on the guy she wants asking in the first place, so that she can say yes. If girls make the first move then they get more power, they don't have to worry about saying yes or no to the guy and feeling helpless because someone likes them in a way they can't reciprocate.

    This probably makes no sense. I'm quite sleepy.
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    Stupid thread.
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    (Original post by lee1985)
    You're not alone, there are many girls that think just like you, and the guys know it. Hence why guys are overwhelmingly the ones that make the first move, in one way or another.

    However, a lot of guys are also scared of rejection, and won't make a move unless he knows it's a positive answer. Not something you can be sure of by any standards since many people are just over-friendly and it's taken the wrong way.
    Meh I don't buy the whole fear of rejection thing
    Happy to drop the 'subtle hints' and go in for the kill if necessary :rolleyes:
    But if the guy isn't brave enough to make a move then he isn't the one for me
    Just my opinion though
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    OP your sexist remark about men having to take the initiative is very old fashioned and outdated, it is literally triggering me

    please stop i cant even
 
 
 
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