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    (Original post by Le Nombre)
    Sorry, but that isn't serious peer pressure compared to an intiation. Your mates seemed happy to let you do that, rather than getting 4 big lads to pin you down then pouring alcohol down your throat.
    Ahh allright . None of that really. But I did have somewhat of it when all friends met up in our kitchen to do pre drinking and kinda tried everything to make me drink (not physically but emotionally and verbally), which I was able to resist. Not sure if that counts...
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    (Original post by muffingg)
    As the title says, I (Male) went to uni,
    * Never touched alcohol
    * Never touched a cigarette / shisha
    * Didn't do any drugs
    * Never had sex
    * Never went clubbing
    * Didn't have a single female friend

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    I just didn't get to know many girls. Mainly because I was studying a course that was so male dominated (Civil Engineering). We had 10-15 girls out of 160 students. Also, because I did get to know a few girls in first year, but then my friends circle didn't know any of them, which kinda created a gap and we talked less and less and the friendship kinda finished over time.

    Wasn't really out of choice. I did know a lot of girls, but not really someone I'd stay in contact with after uni.



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    It might sound boring to you. But I can tell you I had the time of my life. There are so many societies which I joined. I went gliding, skydiving, attended a lot of performance events, went on road trips, travelled across the UK and Europe with friends, Socialised with friends every single day doing stuff from eating out to playing PS3, all-night Table Tennis sessions, cook together with friends, etc etc
    Sounds good to me! After all, you go to uni for a degree and better career prospects!

    Where did you go in Europe?
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    (Original post by IbroSaunks)
    Doesn't answer the question. Anyway I can tell you that I've never. You can decide not to believe me, that's no problem
    Never? How old are you?

    You must get wet dreams though?
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    (Original post by dual EMT)
    How did you deal with the constant questioning of why you don't drink, smoke or party?

    I'm assuming that you were asked this by nearly everyone you meet, cause I certainly get it a lot.
    I just told them that I don't drink smoke or party because of personal choice. I just don't like any of these. That's what I tell them and usually they are fine with it. Only the closer friends went into more detail, which happened only once.
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    great thread!
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    (Original post by IbroSaunks)
    Doesn't answer the question. Anyway I can tell you that I've never. You can decide not to believe me, that's no problem
    You should, it's a natural and healthy thing. Ask any doctor, or 14 year old, they'll all tell you the same thing.
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    (Original post by xmertic)
    Sounds good to me! After all, you go to uni for a degree and better career prospects!

    Where did you go in Europe?
    I went to Germany, Paris, Netherlands, and Italy
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    (Original post by muffingg)
    It does occasionally make me feel left out. But then I think to myself, that I'd rather be left out than engage in something I find stupid. I just learnt to live with it and moved on with my life.
    Tbh you have shown great self control over 3 years, have you ever though of teaching martal arts or something LOL.

    But for some people I think its hard because they really are too curious and added peer pressure ect.
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    (Original post by tehforum)
    That's good.

    TBH - I think this is a great thread. It shows that people can have fun at uni without going clubbing and drinking.

    Clubbing is usually on a Friday night. What do people do besides that?
    Thanks. Well, in Nottingham, however, it's pretty much every day except Sunday. Different clubs have different student nights, so there all my friends went out like 3-4 times a week in first year and it was reduced to 1-2 in my final year.
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    (Original post by muffingg)
    Ahh allright . None of that really. But I did have somewhat of it when all friends met up in our kitchen to do pre drinking and kinda tried everything to make me drink (not physically but emotionally and verbally), which I was able to resist. Not sure if that counts...
    Yeah, I get what you mean, been in a similar situation with drugs and it's not easy just flat out refusing. I'd be amazed if anyone resisted booze during intiations for the big men's sports teams (rugby, football, hockey etc.), it's just mental how much pressure you're under.
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    (Original post by muffingg)
    Thanks. Well, in Nottingham, however, it's pretty much every day except Sunday. Different clubs have different student nights, so there all my friends went out like 3-4 times a week in first year and it was reduced to 1-2 in my final year.
    oh wow lol.

    I mean only rarely I go out twice a week.

    A third time would be the limit as there's no other nights on really.
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    (Original post by shahbaz)
    Tbh you have shown great self control over 3 years, have you ever though of teaching martal arts or something LOL.

    But for some people I think its hard because they really are too curious.
    Lol, I've thought about it, but never really got the chance to do it.
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    What do you want? A medal?
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    (Original post by godd)
    Never? How old are you?

    You must get wet dreams though?
    I'm 22. I have them once in a while, not often at all. And most times I don't remember what happened in any of my dreams anyway.
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    (Original post by LavenderBlueSky88)
    What do you want? A medal?
    Child.
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    Classic engineers
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    (Original post by dual EMT)
    You should, it's a natural and healthy thing. Ask any doctor, or 14 year old, they'll all tell you the same thing.
    Thank you for your advice, but I don't think I'll be taking it...
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    Do you consider your lifestyle to be the better option for everyone, or do you recognise that it only works for certain people?
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    (Original post by shahbaz)
    Child.
    Says the 19 year old.
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    I think he's gay...
 
 
 
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