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Maazgha da kharab de, sahey pashtun ne ye spe zai


muta patha nashta chi tu see yay( I said I can't undestand what you are saying). I know read you saying something like, speak to me can't make out the bold area. something like you aren't pashtun spe zai whatever that is.
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Become attractive if you are not?

Or become really rich?

Easy! Then you got em all


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Thankfully, I am relatively good looking(not perfect but not bad at all lol).

Money isn't my goal lol.
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Become attractive if you are not?

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Easy! Then you got em all


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Finally! Somebody found the real, possible, and best solution to this ordeal, thank you Inazuma!
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Not all people are like you Adeel, he is an atheist and in his country people like him get excuted. YOU had it easy, probably surrounded by people like you, and you go to the mosque everyday with your bffs that you have all things in common. He didn't, he never had bffs, he's always felt excluded from BOTH societies (english and pakistani). So please stop annoying him!
Thanks for your comments. It's not that bad lol, I don't really care about Muslims but pakistanis lol. The culture is poisonous. I don't see any good from it ;( At least has some good points lol.
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Thanks for your comments. It's not that bad lol, I don't really care about Muslims but pakistanis lol. The culture is poisonous. I don't see any good from it ;( At least has some good points lol.
I don't either, but then again, i'm not from pakistan, you know more.
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muta patha nashta chi tu see yay( I said I can't undestand what you are saying). I know read you saying something like, speak to me can't make out the bold area. something like you aren't pashtun spe zai whatever that is.
Haha i see your Pashto is kinda weak (unless your pronunciation is different), mine ain't that strong haven't been back home for a while.
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My parents do, I don't think I have any real friends, maybe some close acquaintances but nothing like a true friend. .

I am not actively searching for people based on colour, but I prefer white people in general. I would like to find a nice person, that's it. No matter what skin. I am more in conflict with my culture which has done close to nothing good and is pretty much bad in every way. I want to change culture but is this possible? Can I truly become a person who can choose how to live their life or does the circumstance of my brith dictate my future?
Hey, I have just come across this and have read all of the comments. Some people are incredibly disrespectful, not only to you, but to my culture as well. Funnily enough, I went through a phase (I am not saying you are - don't worry) feeling sad that I wasn't Asian! Maybe I watched too many Bollywood movies haha I am not ashamed of who I am or of my culture, never have been and never will, even if I do disagree with some aspects. Anyway, what I have learnt is that you should be happy for who you are (your personality, your culture etc.). You should embrace your culture and appreciate what it has taught you so far. You are Pakistani and I am White, be proud of who you are. That doesn't necessarily mean that you can't embrace other cultures too like the British culture. (BTW, it is NOT all about drinking and partying and sleeping with people! Any culture can do that and not everyone does it!) Of course, you can change your life and what you want to do with it. It's your life at the end of the day. I feel like I am rambling on now, but what I am trying to say is don't be negative, instead look at the positives. What is it that you like about White people? Also, how are old are you? Anyway, if you are not happy with something then just do something about it. Smile, be happy and be thankful. Take care
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Omg, Pathans are beautiful!


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As someone who comes from a very white, conservative, background, you're way off on this. We never really talk about skin tone, I never knew there was a whole preference for lighter skin in black or Asian communities until I left home. Racist white people from my area don't think black and Asian people aspire to be like us, quite the opposite- that's what they want them to be like. They say no one integrates with our culture at all. While the racism is against people with darker skin, it isn't actually about skin itself. A BNP member doesn't make a distinction between a jet black Somali and an Iranian who is as fair as a southern European.

This preference does exist in pretty much all societies, but it probably comes from the fact that the lower classes work out in the sun and get darker, while the upper classes stay indoors and are thus lighter. I think it's more that than any intrinsic beauty. I do love pale white girls, but I like lots of non white girls too.

Although if you don't think guys are generally into pale girls, see a pretty, pale blonde girl go literally anywhere in the world outside Northern Europe and see guys go crazy.


White people can be discriminated against but they are not oppressed and overall have the upper hand, so there's no such thing as being racist against a white person. A few mean words is nothing compared to genocide, slavery, being beat up and raped because of your skin color and treated like you're less than human due to centuries of deep rooted racism "fixed" by sweeping everything under the carpet.

If The western mentality to sex is so forward then why are men in Canada having sex with dead deers and dogs....Why are divorce rates so high if people fall in love? Why are girls treated as sex toys? Why are people still having sex with animals? Holy **! Don't teach us what to do, brah....

And by the way, they don't value it that's why divorce rates are high. In Canada, so many married women have been caught having sex with neighbors and some other people. Do you like it? Should we become like that?

It is the cultural back ground. With a strong family oriented culture. This culture is different from the West.
But at the same time, it is not limited to Asian parents. Those who care for their children, are worried about whom they mix with and marry.

Western society is a more egoistic society in that the needs of oneself are much more important than the wishes of siblings and family members. No sacrifices are made in this regard, while in India, sacrifices are often made for the greater wellbeing of the family.

The elderly are alienated, kids move away from home as soon as they are 18, and somebody who is older and still lives with mom and dad is considered weird, pathetic and a loner. People here are scoffed at for going with their parents to movies, etc. once they are adults, because Western culture expects you to do that with your girlfriend/bodyfiend/spouse.

Indian culture teaches you to respect and worship god. It teaches you to respect the motherland- india and its people, your elders, your relatives. Call them by dear names and with respect. Like a maternal aunt would be called pathi'. It teaches you to obey your parents, and the generation before you, to treat all other Indians as your brothers and sisters. What more can you ask for?
Western Culture - call everyone by name, abuse your elders, relatives, disobey all and respect none.

In Indian culture there is concept of compound family. All will enjoy life in one house of all the family members of all 3-4 generations. Though it is changing little bit. But old is gold. Respect to elders means respect to their years of experience. Family is like a company. Everybody will be a part of team. Everybody will respect to each other. Elders will take important decisions. And kids will always enjoy by following elders decisions. Whole compound family at one place is like a powerful team.

Indian parents are not like Whie parents. Indian parents love lot to their kids. They are not like western parents who change their spouse every after few years. Western parents are selfish for their enjoyment so they change their spouse. Indian parents will have priorities like kids, kids education, kids marriage etc and will not think of saving money for their retirement plan. As the Indian parents look after welfare of kids till the parents are alive. Western parent will think of their retirement plan first and save money for them.

I don't say western culture is bad, but it is not good..... the bad things like rape, sucide, drugs,,teenager mothers ,pornoevolved from western,,, not to mention about lesbian, gay and AIDS.
westerns have a lot to learn from us..

No.This is because white women tend to be easy ,they dress like sluts so people buy them drinks and use them for sex only ,but never consider to marry them. How to date a white woman (aka whore)? Just to to a club, offer her a few drinks and she`ll start your "date" by sucking your **** in the toilette of the club. Simple as that. Our beauty standards in terms of colour, hairdos, plumpness, colours of eyes, voice quality, mannerism, value system etc are totally different to western standards. So we prefer to marry Indian girls only.

We follow our culture sense of unity and bonding in family........... not the cheater wife with multiple partners with STD'S...... Au revoir!.
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Hey, I have just come across this and have read all of the comments. Some people are incredibly disrespectful, not only to you, but to my culture as well. Funnily enough, I went through a phase (I am not saying you are - don't worry) feeling sad that I wasn't Asian! Maybe I watched too many Bollywood movies haha I am not ashamed of who I am or of my culture, never have been and never will, even if I do disagree with some aspects. Anyway, what I have learnt is that you should be happy for who you are (your personality, your culture etc.). You should embrace your culture and appreciate what it has taught you so far. You are Pakistani and I am White, be proud of who you are. That doesn't necessarily mean that you can't embrace other cultures too like the British culture. (BTW, it is NOT all about drinking and partying and sleeping with people! Any culture can do that and not everyone does it!) Of course, you can change your life and what you want to do with it. It's your life at the end of the day. I feel like I am rambling on now, but what I am trying to say is don't be negative, instead look at the positives. What is it that you like about White people? Also, how are old are you? Anyway, if you are not happy with something then just do something about it. Smile, be happy and be thankful. Take care
Maybe it's because I am alone, in limbo?
I have given up my pakistani-ness when I left the religion yet I am not white. I have nobody that I can really to talk without lying. I have spent 2-3 years lying to almost every single person that I have known. I have become too good at lying .

I wish I COULD be myself when I wake up, but could I really? Could I leave my family behind just to be 'me'. Leave my younger brother who doesn't understand much just because I wanted to be 'me'?
If I was to ever ask a girl out at college, or if my family saw me with a girl, they'd be royally ****ed.

I am 19 BTW.
Bollywood is non-sense , I don't even watch T.V.
I don't want to party, have sex or alcohol, wasn't really ever into that before I left Islam or even after. Would rather be in a library reading a book or having fun with someone close lol.

It's the same with japan, france, english or whatever, these people are much more free-er to do anything they wish, without their family looking down(like it used to in England and typically japan also).

I am always happy, I smile and make good of bad situations, like if I miss a bus, it makes me happier as I'd rather walk or something. lol.
But soon or later, I will have an ultimatum to make.
Though I do, do most of my stuff alone.

But maybe that happiness isn't real? Maybe that's also a lie. TBH, I have been seriously depressed a while ago( I am completely fine now ), but when **** was really hitting the fan I was alone, in my room. No one even knew or cared.

I guess there is more to this than I thought :rolleyes:
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You from Bradford? or something similar. I grew around white people so I can't relate, however I've met attractive Pakistani girls that are quite white in the way they act. (A coconut if you will, same here tbh).

Maybe towards the south you'd find some Asian girls your type. However being atheist would be a problem for some, either way its your life man, do what you want, **** everybody else :P just don't be ashamed of your ethnicity, just try to embrace it.
Naw, but similar. Of course there are sexually attractive people, that's important, but I mean to attractive as a person. Not someone who will listen to me all the time, but someone who will argue their point and be on the same footing as me.

I am currently doing so. But soon it will be my family, or me. This is a hard choice, for sure. Timing is also essential lol.

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Yup they are. Sadly though, I don't think any pathan I know really have their own set of belief, they inherit it. I don't want to be too close with people who can't think for themselves and make their own decisions.
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I think it's more to do with my facial structure and my eyes. I look semi-japanese/chinese too lol. It's 100% obvious that I am asian. Also I don't want to harm myself with them substances. This thread is more about culture rather than actual colour buddy.

Thanks. Yeah, I want to become a hard working English person. I was born in England. At least many white people, many are racist, but they are at least on the level that people are equal. We haven't grasped this concept. Add Islam and then we got a truly evil recipe. People use religion as a mean of getting advantage. Do this your parents, if you don't, you won't even see heaven lol. Though, I don't like the Army, but never really liked war either.

I will move out mate, when I go to uni next year. Can't wait. There are literally 0% white people I know in real life, it's completely pakistani only area. I hope though in uni I make friends of all races.
Great. Well i think we are on the whole more racist against Islam than we are skin coulor and also the fact that Asians tend to hang with Asians so if you end surrounding yourself with white, atheist friends and after uni move to a white area then you can end up as English as anybody and more importantly bring your children up as English and not joint English-Pakistani which living near Bradford i see a lot of people doing.
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Maybe it's because I am alone, in limbo?
I have given up my pakistani-ness when I left the religion yet I am not white. I have nobody that I can really to talk without lying. I have spent 2-3 years lying to almost every single person that I have known. I have become too good at lying .

I wish I COULD be myself when I wake up, but could I really? Could I leave my family behind just to be 'me'. Leave my younger brother who doesn't understand much just because I wanted to be 'me'?
If I was to ever ask a girl out at college, or if my family saw me with a girl, they'd be royally ****ed.

I am 19 BTW.
Bollywood is non-sense , I don't even watch T.V.
I don't want to party, have sex or alcohol, wasn't really ever into that before I left Islam or even after. Would rather be in a library reading a book or having fun with someone close lol.

It's the same with japan, france, english or whatever, these people are much more free-er to do anything they wish, without their family looking down(like it used to in England and typically japan also).

I am always happy, I smile and make good of bad situations, like if I miss a bus, it makes me happier as I'd rather walk or something. lol.
But soon or later, I will have an ultimatum to make.
Though I do, do most of my stuff alone.

But maybe that happiness isn't real? Maybe that's also a lie. TBH, I have been seriously depressed a while ago( I am completely fine now ), but when **** was really hitting the fan I was alone, in my room. No one even knew or cared.

I guess there is more to this than I thought :rolleyes:

Personally, I don't think you should leave your family to be 'me'. They love you and want the best for you and that is why they have certain attitudes and beliefs. Sadly, it seems they are not open-minded so it seems you are in a difficult situation as it would be hard for them to change their views. However, don't lose hope or whatever. Continue to talk to them if that is possible. How about joining clubs or finding a new hobby where you can interact with a diverse group of people? I know you said you live in a very Pakistani area, but surely there is someone in your city or town where you can go? Why can't you talk to girls or other people from different ethnic backgrounds without being judged? Why won't your parent's allow you? Have you spoken to a counsellor about the way you feel? They may be able to help you and give you some suggestions on what to do.
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White people can be discriminated against but they are not oppressed and overall have the upper hand, so there's no such thing as being racist against a white person. A few mean words is nothing compared to genocide, slavery, being beat up and raped because of your skin color and treated like you're less than human due to centuries of deep rooted racism "fixed" by sweeping everything under the carpet.

If The western mentality to sex is so forward then why are men in Canada having sex with dead deers and dogs....Why are divorce rates so high if people fall in love? Why are girls treated as sex toys? Why are people still having sex with animals? Holy **! Don't teach us what to do, brah....

And by the way, they don't value it that's why divorce rates are high. In Canada, so many married women have been caught having sex with neighbors and some other people. Do you like it? Should we become like that?

Western society is a more egoistic society in that the needs of oneself are much more important than the wishes of siblings and family members. No sacrifices are made in this regard, while in India, sacrifices are often made for the greater wellbeing of the family.

Indian culture teaches you to respect and worship god. It teaches you to respect the motherland- india and its people, your elders, your relatives. Call them by dear names and with respect. Like a maternal aunt would be called pathi'. It teaches you to obey your parents, and the generation before you, to treat all other Indians as your brothers and sisters. What more can you ask for?
Western Culture - call everyone by name, abuse your elders, relatives, disobey all and respect none.

Indian parents are not like Whie parents. Indian parents love lot to their kids. They are not like western parents who change their spouse every after few years. Western parents are selfish for their enjoyment so they change their spouse. Indian parents will have priorities like kids, kids education, kids marriage etc and will not think of saving money for their retirement plan. As the Indian parents look after welfare of kids till the parents are alive. Western parent will think of their retirement plan first and save money for them.

I don't say western culture is bad, but it is not good..... the bad things like rape, sucide, drugs,,teenager mothers ,pornoevolved from western,,, not to mention about lesbian, gay and AIDS.
westerns have a lot to learn from us..

No.This is because white women tend to be easy ,they dress like sluts so people buy them drinks and use them for sex only ,but never consider to marry them. How to date a white woman (aka whore)? Just to to a club, offer her a few drinks and she`ll start your "date" by sucking your **** in the toilette of the club. Simple as that. Our beauty standards in terms of colour, hairdos, plumpness, colours of eyes, voice quality, mannerism, value system etc are totally different to western standards. So we prefer to marry Indian girls only.

We follow our culture sense of unity and bonding in family........... not the cheater wife with multiple partners with STD'S...... Au revoir!.
Racism is just treating people differently based on their race, it doesn't require any historical context. I didn't mention racism against white people anyway, so not sure why you wrote that.

Was that meant to be a reply to me? I didn't mention our attitude to sex.

Divorce rates largely went up (they've actually decreased lately) because we stopped brutally stigmatising divorced women. I'd rather have divorces than widespread domestic abuse that there's no way out of (referring to our past rather than Pakistan's present, though I don't doubt there's lots of people trapped in miserable marriages there too).

That's a pretty bad generalisation. Asians may generally be more family orientated, but my mum has made great sacrifices for our family.

Respect should be earnt, not demanded. What if your family are rapists and thieves? You should think for yourself.

Our parents love is usually unconditional. Indian parents sacrifice so much... unless the kid says they are gay, or atheist, or another religion, then half the time they are treated like ****.

You're seriously deluded if you think those things don't exist in other cultures.

Yes, you can make racist stereotypes too, I get it.

You've ranted a lot, but not really addressed anything I've said?
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Pakistanis and Indians (from India) are ethnically the same people....

If you are A PAKISTANI Pakslike you are so desperate to ingratiate themselves with the very same Europeans who despise them as inferior subhumans, that they actually resort to spewing their hatred against other dark-skinned races in the futile hope that this will win them the love of the whites whom they adore as gods. Never have I comes across a race with so huge and overweening an inferiority complex.

White women are sluts. Their mothers were sluts and half of them just don't know who their father is. Who dates such uncultured filth?

People who mix have problems, its easy for them to hide behind political correctness but ultimately its nonsense and doesnt apply to the real world and when they have kids they essentially throw them under a bus and hope they deal with it somehow.

when they teach mixed kids that race is worthless, so worthless in fact that anyone who does value what they are Must inherently be racist... they immediately trap those kids into looking at people of a particular race who have issues as their parents did...as being "normal". they force their kids to dip into a small pool of broken people.

and those mixed kids in turn help perpetrate the idea that the only 'problem' with race mixing would be good old fashioned racism, rather than viewing interacial mixing as a social itself in and of itself. 

Highest divorce rate on the planet more than any other race, fake, sex addict, manipulative, can't cook, do not know how to be a parent, materialistic, pushy, lazy, crazy(psychopath), ignorant, arrogant, etc and etc and etc. Who wants to even date or get married with a White woman? You know your life will suck the moment you get involved with people.. Yuckity puk

The average white woman is ugly overweight, high school educated, has 3 kids on welfare, works at Walmart, and looks like a mass shooter. They are only good for black men, and even that's debatable.
You clearly weren't raised very well.
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Troll or very shallow/dumb... Either way, I don't care about you.
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Personally, I don't think you should leave your family to be 'me'. They love you and want the best for you and that is why they have certain attitudes and beliefs. Sadly, it seems they are not open-minded so it seems you are in a difficult situation as it would be hard for them to change their views. However, don't lose hope or whatever. Continue to talk to them if that is possible. How about joining clubs or finding a new hobby where you can interact with a diverse group of people? I know you said you live in a very Pakistani area, but surely there is someone in your city or town where you can go? Why can't you talk to girls or other people from different ethnic backgrounds without being judged? Why won't your parent's allow you?
Sadly, due to their religion and culture they are blinded. I don't like having a blind man guide me. I would rather help the blind man, because I am able, but I can't. I wish I could save them, but I can't. They same way they feel for me. This ignorance will be cured with time, but sadly there are about 5 generations before this get close to happening.

I honestly want to die sometimes when I speak to my mother. I can see her love, I can see it. But I can't accept it. She is loving a liar, someone who isn't as great as she thinks he is. This is why I stay alone. I don't deserve her smile. I don't want to make people see me as someone I am not. I don't want to form bonds with other people due to this. I don't go out that much, there is no one with me and I have become very introverted, so I just go out for essential things. I sit alone in class.

Consult Islam as to why I can't even speak to other girls without being judged. Islam completely restricts opposite-sex mingling.

If I was white, I wouldn't go through this. Maybe this is why I want to be white. I want to be me without the BS.

Thank you for your posts. You have made me realise a lot about myself which, as saddening as it is, I am thankful for.
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Racism is just treating people differently based on their race, it doesn't require any historical context. I didn't mention racism against white people anyway, so not sure why you wrote that.

Was that meant to be a reply to me? I didn't mention our attitude to sex.

Divorce rates largely went up (they've actually decreased lately) because we stopped brutally stigmatising divorced women. I'd rather have divorces than widespread domestic abuse that there's no way out of (referring to our past rather than Pakistan's present, though I don't doubt there's lots of people trapped in miserable marriages there too).

That's a pretty bad generalisation. Asians may generally be more family orientated, but my mum has made great sacrifices for our family.

Respect should be earnt, not demanded. What if your family are rapists and thieves? You should think for yourself.

Our parents love is usually unconditional. Indian parents sacrifice so much... unless the kid says they are gay, or atheist, or another religion, then half the time they are treated like ****.

You're seriously deluded if you think those things don't exist in other cultures.

Yes, you can make racist stereotypes too, I get it.

You've ranted a lot, but not really addressed anything I've said?
He is a troll, I think. I think he thinks Indians are supreme, just ignore him.
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Troll or very shallow/dumb... Either way, I don't care about you.
Thanks for your opinion.
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Let me begin with hating being a pakistani! I am an atheist and can't tell anyone except only my trusted friend. I live in pakistani area which is complete ****. I go to college with mostly pakistanis. But honestly wish I was born into an english family. I hate the culture. I hate the religion.

I am relatively white, you could tell that I was from asia but you wouldn't assume I was from pakistan.
I want to have a white girlfriend or (black, if I love her) but I feel all the white people in general hate us. White girls look much much more beautiful than pakistani girls on a whole(I have meet 10,000+ asians so I KNOW from quite a big sample).

Honestly, there are about 4 white girls in my college and they are all much better looking, but the way they live life in general is far more important to me and I love the fact that they act like a companion and someone you want to go through life with than the typical pakistani who just married when young, have sex, lots of children and stay at home. THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS AROUND ME, I KNOW pakistanis will comment on this thread negatively but if you are going to do that, remember this is my opinion. I want real help, not hate.

How is an ex-muslim even meant to find a girl friend when most think he is just a stupid pakistani?(I am pretty clever too).
I wouldn't mind going out with anyone in general but not religious people.
I meant white in the OP as like a white family( go out together, have fun, sing, xmas), doesn't have to be literally white.

Any advice on anything at all will help.
I can't tell if this is genuine or you want to start your own English girl grooming practice, Pakistani males don't have a good record in that sector of society.
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