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    Because I work in a male-dominated profession and I don't have time to go out aimlessly trying to attract women.
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    At my age, all the attractive girls are married or have boyfriends.
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    (Original post by MissLalaxx)
    yeah but rejection sucks more. Forever on my lonesome.
    That's true, oh well
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    I haven't found anybody I would like to be in a relationship with to be honest, I don't know many boys older than me and I find boys my age way too immature. I don't mind though, I enjoy my freedom and not having the stress of a relationship. Plenty of time for that in the future!
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    (Original post by Ndella)
    Shyness sucks doesn't it?
    I know dat feel, I used to be very shy as a kid and teenager, it's only in the last few years I've been able to speak to the opposite sex as easily as I can with my own.
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    It is a rude question. Since most people who ask that question assume that being in a relationship is the most desirable relationship status, they're asking you to admit your 'failings' to them. I doubt they really want to hear the truth, especially the sort of reasons that you guys have been listing. And think how weird it would seem if you asked someone why they are in a relationship.
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    I'm female, 22 and single because I'm suffering some kind of quarter life crisis. Full blown panic attacks depression, the lot. It's strange though rather than boys being like omg cannot be arsed with that they seem to be being really nice and interested. But the thing is I'm aware of how shady my situation is at the moment and I know I'm opening myself up to worse mental health if I enter a relationship at this stage and then it fails so I'm putting that stuff on hold.

    To be honest though I would love to be in one right now it would be a massive support and just make me feel a lot better about dealing with all these problems. That's in an ideal world and in a good relationship but they seem to be one in a million so I'm better off trying to sort myself first.
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    Because I'm gay and not comfortable with it - it's confusing. I'm not homophobic, in any way, but I'm just not comfortable with myself being gay.
    Unsurprisingly, it's hard to find a relationship with someone when I'm not comfortable with it. I'm not comfortable to admit it to myself, so I'm not going to start dating/getting into a relationship with guys that despite liking I won't be happy with.

    Also, there's not many gay guys around my age that I know, or friends know. So, that's the other big problem.
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    (Original post by Vikki1805)
    Relationships are hassle and time consuming.

    If I spend on average 12 hours a day, 5 days a week working.
    That's 60 hours out of the 168 hours we're given.

    That leaves me with 108 hours, I (try to) spend 7 hours a day, 7 days a week sleeping.
    That's 49 hours out of the 108 I had remaining.

    That leaves me with 59 hours, I spend roughly an hour and a half every day consuming food and drinking lukewarm coffee.
    That's another 10.5 hours off the 59 that were left.

    That leaves me with 48.5 hours, I spend at least 3 hours a day socialising with my family and friends, or posting pointless comments on TSR.
    That's another 21 hours taken from the 48.5 remaining.

    That leaves me with 27.5 hours, I spend between 45 minutes - 2 hours a night dealing with work related stuff.
    That's another (up to) 14 hours stolen from the 27.5 that were left.

    That leaves me with 13.5 hours, I like to spend a good 1 and a half hours each evening to just relax, watch telly, exercise and generally do my own thing.
    That takes 10.5 hours off the 13.5 hours I had.

    I'm now left with 3 hours, across the whole week. I can't cram a relationship into 3 spare hours.
    I'd rather have an extra 25 minutes in bed each day.

    That's why I'm single.
    Holy **** you're hot!
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    (Original post by catsis)
    Yes but back in the days it was different.


    OP, I'm single because I want to save myself for marriage and I'm not ready for marriage so no point in dating, really.
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    I became single after recently breaking up with my bf and do not regret the decision made. I think being single is much better because you won't have additional problems on top of your already existing tensions and worries. Being a single is like being liberated;you can do whatever you want without having to feel guilty.
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    I'm in exactly the same boat as you, OP. I've been single for almost 3 years now and have only had one relationship. Now I'm 26, I seem to be encountering it more often, as if we're expected to find someone within a certain amount of time. "Marrying age" it'd seem. It really grinds me up when people ask me, as if my whole life revolves around finding someone and as if humans are completely dependent on being with a partner and that is our life goal and we can't function without another half. I'm perfectly happy being single, I'm not looking to be in a relationship right now, I'm not attracted to anyone right now and I just started a degree so the LAST thing I want is for my precious remaining free time to be spent making someone else happy, as selfish as that may sound. I like having time purely to myself and there's precious little of that available as it is.

    It's like being single is weird. Why is it weird? It's not weird. Why do some people think it is? Maybe some feel we're happier in relationships and that being single = unhappy. I can wholeheartedly confirm this isn't the case.
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    I've always been single...I guess I am too picky. On the other hand, every guy I have been interested in has turned me down and every guy that has said they are interested me, I haven't liked in that way - and i'm really not into leading people on just to see what may happen.

    There is nothing wrong with being single - often people find someone when they least expect to.
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    Because I want to focus on my own life right now and live independently before committing.
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    (Original post by Vikki1805)
    Relationships are hassle and time consuming.

    If I spend on average 12 hours a day, 5 days a week working.
    That's 60 hours out of the 168 hours we're given.

    That leaves me with 108 hours, I (try to) spend 7 hours a day, 7 days a week sleeping.
    That's 49 hours out of the 108 I had remaining.

    That leaves me with 59 hours, I spend roughly an hour and a half every day consuming food and drinking lukewarm coffee.
    That's another 10.5 hours off the 59 that were left.

    That leaves me with 48.5 hours, I spend at least 3 hours a day socialising with my family and friends, or posting pointless comments on TSR.
    That's another 21 hours taken from the 48.5 remaining.

    That leaves me with 27.5 hours, I spend between 45 minutes - 2 hours a night dealing with work related stuff.
    That's another (up to) 14 hours stolen from the 27.5 that were left.

    That leaves me with 13.5 hours, I like to spend a good 1 and a half hours each evening to just relax, watch telly, exercise and generally do my own thing.
    That takes 10.5 hours off the 13.5 hours I had.

    I'm now left with 3 hours, across the whole week. I can't cram a relationship into 3 spare hours.
    I'd rather have an extra 25 minutes in bed each day.

    That's why I'm single.
    *25 minutes in MY bed each day.


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    (Original post by Dr Pesto)
    I know dat feel, I used to be very shy as a kid and teenager, it's only in the last few years I've been able to speak to the opposite sex as easily as I can with my own.
    Here's hoping my adult years end up like yours I went to a girls' school so it was quite hard speaking to the opposite sex once I started uni haha
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    I'm single because of how shy/quiet I am around new people I meet, so I don't have the confidence to ask people I like if they ever fancy doing something.

    So yeah, it's probably going to be me waiting on someone asking me out, which never happens as men are meant to make the first move right? ;p
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    Because ive always been rejected.
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    I like such threads. I can name another reason every time.

    Being single means to live the life for yourself, not to divide it with a partner in a relationship. I don't like it to make compromises.
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    Couldn't agree more.

    I've been asked why I'm single a couple of times recently. I don't really see why it's anyone's business and I don't understand why you'd ask it either.

    Being in a relationship isn't the be all and end all (in fact I'm happier single than I was in my previous relationship) and I haven't met anyone recently who I 100% want a relationship with. I'd rather be single for the time being and I see nothing wrong with that
 
 
 
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