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    (Original post by franditella)
    It is not thinking about others suffering can relieve your own, it is thinking of the things that you have and feeling grateful that you do. Like those people in abused families or orphans that have no one beside them. But be greatful you have a shelter over your head and a father that loves you.
    Exactly hopefully OP will heed your advice many of the ones who suffer the most seem to overcome it and have a far better outlook than those that don't.
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    hi,

    so i have a friend who has recently moved to my area, we don't see each other a lot, in fact hardly at all, but we get in touch now and again and we've known each other since we were little.
    anyway, since we were teenagers she's done so much better than me. My mental health has deteriorated and most days i feel close to death, i had to drop out of uni and am essentially a womanchild still living at home with my dad, whereas she got a first class degree in languages and now has a good paying job in admin, lives on her own and has loads of friends. she's also had lots of boyfriends in the past though i dont know if she has one now.
    now while i'm glad for her sake she's doing so well it does leave me in a rather awkward position as I just don't feel we have anything in common anymore. she has her own social life, she doesnt really need me. still she will write to me on facebook now and again, but we havent been able to meet since she moved because I've been too ill and she's been working.
    the other day she also thought it was appropriate to send me a link through facebook of a day hospital for people with mental health problems. i know she was probably only trying to help but it still bugs me.
    what do i do about this, do i cut her off completely, just wait for her to contact me again or what?
    i'm not good at making friends and keeping them. she's the only person outside of my family who bothers to ask me how i am every now and again.
    dont cut her off, she seems like she makes an effort for you, it doesnt matter that she is successful or whatever
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    hi,

    so i have a friend who has recently moved to my area, we don't see each other a lot, in fact hardly at all, but we get in touch now and again and we've known each other since we were little.
    anyway, since we were teenagers she's done so much better than me. My mental health has deteriorated and most days i feel close to death, i had to drop out of uni and am essentially a womanchild still living at home with my dad, whereas she got a first class degree in languages and now has a good paying job in admin, lives on her own and has loads of friends. she's also had lots of boyfriends in the past though i dont know if she has one now.
    now while i'm glad for her sake she's doing so well it does leave me in a rather awkward position as I just don't feel we have anything in common anymore. she has her own social life, she doesnt really need me. still she will write to me on facebook now and again, but we havent been able to meet since she moved because I've been too ill and she's been working.
    the other day she also thought it was appropriate to send me a link through facebook of a day hospital for people with mental health problems. i know she was probably only trying to help but it still bugs me.
    what do i do about this, do i cut her off completely, just wait for her to contact me again or what?
    i'm not good at making friends and keeping them. she's the only person outside of my family who bothers to ask me how i am every now and again.
    I'm jealous of a distant cousin. You don't see me making threads about it.

    But tell me more about this mental health thing. I have intermittent explosive disorder. We can help each other with self-enlightenment.
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    (Original post by pocahontas lol)
    I'm jealous of a distant cousin. You don't see me making threads about it.

    But tell me more about this mental health thing. I have intermittent explosive disorder. We can help each other with self-enlightenment.
    Congratulations.
    Explosive disorder? Sounds nasty.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Congratulations.
    Explosive disorder? Sounds nasty.
    Eww.

    No, seriously. It is another way of saying "anger issues." Google iz yo freen.
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    (Original post by pocahontas lol)
    Eww.

    No, seriously. It is another way of saying "anger issues." Google iz yo freen.
    why are you jealous of your cousin?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    why are you jealous of your cousin?
    I'm not. I was just messing with you.
    But now that you ask,
    I do have my dad's niece n nephew for one of his sisters
    They have a better life.
    We lived in their basement when I was younger, and evicted us when my mom got pregnant and couldn't pay the bills.
    You know how the Dursleys treat the Potters...

    yea. We're the Potters. Except less magical.

    *Borat accent* True story!
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    (Original post by pocahontas lol)
    I'm not. I was just messing with you.
    But now that you ask,
    I do have my dad's niece n nephew for one of his sisters
    They have a better life.
    We lived in their basement when I was younger, and evicted us when my mom got pregnant and couldn't pay the bills.
    You know how the Dursleys treat the Potters...

    yea. We're the Potters. Except less magical.

    *Borat accent* True story!
    interesting. i dont really get your sense of humour.
    youre the Potters? were your parents murdered by a psychopathic terrorist?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    interesting. i dont really get your sense of humour.
    youre the Potters? were your parents murdered by a psychopathic terrorist?
    I wasn't being humorous. I was being dead serious. Someone told me I should write a memoir.

    And Harry is also a Potter. Was he killed by a psychopathic "terrorist?"

    No. The main relation between the Dursleys and the Potters is they treated them like scum. How could you not get the connection when I just said we lived in a basement and they kicked us out. How would that be funny? Did you try to find humor in something so grim?
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    (Original post by pocahontas lol)
    I wasn't being humorous. I was being dead serious. Someone told me I should write a memoir.

    And Harry is also a Potter. Was he killed by a psychopathic "terrorist?"

    No. The main relation between the Dursleys and the Potters is they treated them like scum. How could you not get the connection when I just said we lived in a basement and they kicked us out. How would that be funny? Did you try to find humor in something so grim?
    no, just when you said you were kidding about your cousin. i just dunno why youd say something like that if wasn't true. it's a bit like saying: i like the colour red too. and then: naaah just kidding. :dong:
    forget it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    no, just when you said you were kidding about your cousin. i just dunno why youd say something like that if wasn't true. it's a bit like saying: i like the colour red too. and then: naaah just kidding. :dong:
    forget it.
    Are you okay?
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    (Original post by pocahontas lol)
    Are you okay?
    not really.
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    she's been living here for two months and we haven't met once. last time i saw her was i think in october. this is not entirely her fault as she has been busy and i will give our friendship another try, but if we lose touch after that im thinking of sending her this.

    http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/atta...d=354945&stc=1
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    There are more people like you than you realise. Everyone is messed up in one way or another.

    If you truly want to get better, follow these steps. Understand that all our thought patterns are different and habits are formed.

    Your friends life in terms of money and happiness is in my view nothing. That's the basics of life.

    Step 1: Buy Dr Claire Week's Books - There are two of them (Best books ever written on health anxiety and OCD and Depression.) BEST BOOKS EVER WRITTEN on Health Anxiety, BEST DOCTOR. LISTEN.

    Step 2: Do not rely on doctors, unless you can afford the best. They can only do so much and are not as smart as you'd hope or people tell you they are. They are very very stupid, trust me.

    Step 3: How long have you been suffering? Understand that you have built damaging habits in the way you react both consciously and unconsciously to your stimulated enviroment, which will not be removed instantly or harmoniously. You have to fight for this. You want a normal life! Fight for it. Follow the book step by step. When you become better, it all seems like one big joke, when you look back to it.

    Step 4: You will soon start noticing, that you are becoming better. You need to start with the basics, go jogging, have a meal with a friend, start acting positive, accept.

    Step 5: Once you have had the medical tests that you require to ease your mind. You have to be prepared to accept that you are fine and you have to accept death as an ultimate. Accept that if you die right now, it does not matter, accept DEATH.

    Accept your position now and work towards improving it, if every day you commit one percent towards becoming better mentally, physically, educationally spiritually, eventually you are and will be considered normal.

    "To go on despite fear, is the greatest feat."

    Society wants you to believe that a pill can make you better overnight, it just does not work! Society wants to make you believe that people are happy and normal, a majority are not.

    You might be having a hard time now, but you become stronger as a person, and when your kids in the future are going through these types of problems, instead of having to suffer, they can ask their mother for advice and she will be awesome at giving the best advice.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    There are more people like you than you realise. Everyone is messed up in one way or another.

    If you truly want to get better, follow these steps. Understand that all our thought patterns are different and habits are formed.

    Your friends life in terms of money and happiness is in my view nothing. That's the basics of life.

    Step 1: Buy Dr Claire Week's Books - There are two of them (Best books ever written on health anxiety and OCD and Depression.) BEST BOOKS EVER WRITTEN on Health Anxiety, BEST DOCTOR. LISTEN.

    Step 2: Do not rely on doctors, unless you can afford the best. They can only do so much and are not as smart as you'd hope or people tell you they are. They are very very stupid, trust me.

    Step 3: How long have you been suffering? Understand that you have built damaging habits in the way you react both consciously and unconsciously to your stimulated enviroment, which will not be removed instantly or harmoniously. You have to fight for this. You want a normal life! Fight for it. Follow the book step by step. When you become better, it all seems like one big joke, when you look back to it.

    Step 4: You will soon start noticing, that you are becoming better. You need to start with the basics, go jogging, have a meal with a friend, start acting positive, accept.

    Step 5: Once you have had the medical tests that you require to ease your mind. You have to be prepared to accept that you are fine and you have to accept death as an ultimate. Accept that if you die right now, it does not matter, accept DEATH.

    Accept your position now and work towards improving it, if every day you commit one percent towards becoming better mentally, physically, educationally spiritually, eventually you are and will be considered normal.

    "To go on despite fear, is the greatest feat."

    Society wants you to believe that a pill can make you better overnight, it just does not work! Society wants to make you believe that people are happy and normal, a majority are not.

    You might be having a hard time now, but you become stronger as a person, and when your kids in the future are going through these types of problems, instead of having to suffer, they can ask their mother for advice and she will be awesome at giving the best advice.
    I will give the books a go. I already am trying to get involved in activities so I can get back into mainstream society. Sadly though part of my condition is that I have to rely on doctors all the time, I find it impossible not to.
    Oh I will never ever have children. It would be a crime against humanity if I did.
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    Once again your thinking in instant terms. Like once you read the book, you will somehow magically just lose all the depressive and anxious habits you have formed to help you cope in one day.

    Read the reviews on amazon, it's not a book. It's a doctor, explaining each area, she is now dead. She dealt with similar situation in her young age. She later became a doctor and specialised and is famous. She is of course dead now; think she died at age 84.
    I dont expect anything to magically work. You say things take time, believe me when I say I know. Ive been really ill now for years.
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    OP, I'm curious. Have you ever been placed in a residential unit for your disease or even been warned that you will? It sounds as if your illness is a lot worse than when I was ill. However, I was very nearly placed under the mental health act to be put in a unit and was advised on two occasions to voluntary commit myself to one.
    You say you have been ill for years and would find it quite strange, and quite frankly very unprofessional, if you were never at least advised to commit yourself to a unit.

    Have you ever considered this? Or even going to a unit for the day only?

    Although, it is possible to get over this disease without doing that. As in your recent comments, I'm glad to hear you've since been exploring some activities to try and ease you back into normal every day life. I hope this has given you a more positive outlook. Every little step and every little thing will help you heal, no matter how small, never doubt that.
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    OP, I'm curious. Have you ever been placed in a residential unit for your disease or even been warned that you will? It sounds as if your illness is a lot worse than when I was ill. However, I was very nearly placed under the mental health act to be put in a unit and was advised on two occasions to voluntary commit myself to one.
    You say you have been ill for years and would find it quite strange, and quite frankly very unprofessional, if you were never at least advised to commit yourself to a unit.

    Have you ever considered this? Or even going to a unit for the day only?

    Although, it is possible to get over this disease without doing that. As in your recent comments, I'm glad to hear you've since been exploring some activities to try and ease you back into normal every day life. I hope this has given you a more positive outlook. Every little step and every little thing will help you heal, no matter how small, never doubt that.
    None of the doctors ive spoken to think I should be sectioned. I did ask a few times to go in voluntarily but it doesn't work that way.
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    None of the doctors ive spoken to think I should be sectioned. I did ask a few times to go in voluntarily but it doesn't work that way.
    There is a possibility of going private. Although, I've heard it's hard to get a place due to waiting lists and it would end up being very expensive.

    If the doctors don't think it would help then I would go off that. Sometimes, people who have been sectioned actually get worse or leave with a new, different illness.

    But well done for having the motivation to try new activities etc. Just summoning the motivation can be really hard, I'm like that at the moment. Hope you find something that you enjoy and that you can get stuck into. It's a step to recovery, be proud.
 
 
 
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