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    (Original post by Maria1812)
    What do you mean you do not leave the house? How do you get food how do you pay rent and bills? If you mean you only leave for work and grocery shop then I know what you mean I hate going outside I feel unsafe in case anything happened I feel like the house is safe and no one can hurt me. Maybe try go grocery shopping and find a new hobby like cooking or some sport or meet up with a family memeber or friend for tea or coffee or sign up to a sports club.

    (Original post by xoxAngel_Kxox)
    I would assume OP lives with parents - though you don't have to leave the house to do any of the things you listed.

    Maybe on disability benefits and can pay all bills online, order shopping online etc. May even be working! There are work from home jobs.
    Yeah I live with my parents. It's a really complicated set of problems I have Maria1812 it's far from oh I feel cosier if I stay indoors, it doesn't just stop at health anxiety and it's something I'm trying really hard to deal with through keeping in contact with my GP.
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    Yeah I live with my parents. It's a really complicated set of problems I have Maria1812 it's far from oh I feel cosier if I stay indoors, it doesn't just stop at health anxiety and it's something I'm trying really hard to deal with through keeping in contact with my GP.
    Gp is not a mental health specialist I would go to a doctor who specialises with the mental health a gp can give you advice have a nice talk but doesn't do anything really I know because I once went i thought it was useless the gp is like a firend giving advice but they do not have any experience or qualifications to give you advice really. I would advice going to a speicalist I would go privately the nhs appointment time are long.

    Do you parents understandyour fears and daily struggles I have fear is well that makes me scared to leave the house or worried but they don't understand really there is nothing worst then people thinking you are over reacting as each individual has its own fears and worries others may have financial and other may be scared of the weather for examples. Many are not supportive as they think it is being riduculous which it is not everyone needs to deal with their problems everyone deals differently with problems.
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    (Original post by Maria1812)
    Gp is not a mental health specialist I would go to a doctor who specialises with the mental health a gp can give you advice have a nice talk but doesn't do anything really I know because I once went i thought it was useless the gp is like a firend giving advice but they do not have any experience or qualifications to give you advice really. I would advice going to a speicalist I would go privately the nhs appointment time are long.

    Do you parents understandyour fears and daily struggles I have fear is well that makes me scared to leave the house or worried but they don't understand really there is nothing worst then people thinking you are over reacting as each individual has its own fears and worries others may have financial and other may be scared of the weather for examples. Many are not supportive as they think it is being riduculous which it is not everyone needs to deal with their problems everyone deals differently with problems.
    Well I know what you mean about feeling like GP's aren't too much help. But they are the middle man between you and other more specialist services. So I have been put on waiting lists as a result of seeing my GP. And even just calling your GP for a chat is better than having no one to talk to about your problems. Equally they have a lot of medical training which will include handling people's psychological distress as well.

    As for my parents, in the beginning they didn't quite recognise the extent of my problems and they tried to force to me to more/certain things which had a totally detrimental effect and they have realised that slow and steady is the only way I'm going to make any progress. So thankfully now they are more understanding.
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    Well I know what you mean about feeling like GP's aren't too much help. But they are the middle man between you and other more specialist services. So I have been put on waiting lists as a result of seeing my GP. And even just calling your GP for a chat is better than having no one to talk to about your problems. Equally they have a lot of medical training which will include handling people's psychological distress as well.

    As for my parents, in the beginning they didn't quite recognise the extent of my problems and they tried to force to me to more/certain things which had a totally detrimental effect and they have realised that slow and steady is the only way I'm going to make any progress. So thankfully now they are more understanding.
    I havnt left the house in a week. My excuse is I have exams soon so solo study suits me... But i feel uncomfortable in public
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    I havnt left the house in a week. My excuse is I have exams soon so solo study suits me... But i feel uncomfortable in public
    Aw why, what do you think or feel when you're out?
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    Aw why, what do you think or feel when you're out?
    I feel really overwhelmed, im wondering what people think of me....

    Im struggling as well since I am in the closet, and scared if someone will find out
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    I feel really overwhelmed, im wondering what people think of me....

    Im struggling as well since I am in the closet, and scared if someone will find out
    Sounds difficult with the added aspect of being in the closet, you a girl or boy?

    In terms of reasons I'm like this I think that everyone that suffers these kinds of problems is wanting to hide from something or protect themselves in some way. I've had loads of interpersonal setbacks and my behaviour became maladaptive as a result and I just sort of didn't see any hope anywhere. I think you have to start opening up to at least a few or even one person about your sexuality that way you'll feel like you're not so closed off. Hopefully slowly you'll be able to build more confidence as you let more important people in your life into your inner world.
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    Sounds difficult with the added aspect of being in the closet, you a girl or boy?

    In terms of reasons I'm like this I think that everyone that suffers these kinds of problems is wanting to hide from something or protect themselves in some way. I've had loads of interpersonal setbacks and my behaviour became maladaptive as a result and I just sort of didn't see any hope anywhere. I think you have to start opening up to at least a few or even one person about your sexuality that way you'll feel like you're not so closed off. Hopefully slowly you'll be able to build more confidence as you let more important people in your life into your inner world.
    I am a girl. yes it is kind of hard but I think im just making it hard for myself

    and i agree with the protecting yourself thing. if i stay at home i know that nothing bad will happen and i will feel calm and content. but then in the long run, i know i would feel better if i was growing and learning outside my comfort zone

    how are you doing? do you have some ideas of some positive steps forward?
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    I have a friend who has some mental health issues, and she was recently telling me about some websites that she has been recommended, which I thought I would mention here incase anyone wants to have a look

    I know Mind is quite well known (http://www.mind.org.uk/) and they also have a Youtube channel with some videos of people discussing their issues (https://www.youtube.com/user/MindWebteam/videos) which may help someone relate.

    The NHS have a Moodzone area (http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/stress-...s-anxiety.aspx) and they also have some free audio guides by a doctor (http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/stress-...io-guides.aspx) which may be worth a listen too.

    I have just spotted some external links on the NHS page aswell, which may be worth a browse.

    You can also look for services near you which may also be worth a look at, to see if there is anywhere local you could attend
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am a girl. yes it is kind of hard but I think im just making it hard for myself

    and i agree with the protecting yourself thing. if i stay at home i know that nothing bad will happen and i will feel calm and content. but then in the long run, i know i would feel better if i was growing and learning outside my comfort zone

    how are you doing? do you have some ideas of some positive steps forward?
    realising I need to look at both body and mind (sounds airy fairy) but I have really strong physical reactions some might describe it as somatisation. That's why I need to keep in contact with my GP because half the time I need to check nothing serious is going on. So he's sending me for tests so that I feel more comfortable in my health.

    It terms of positive steps like i said above to another poster I'm trying not to spend so much energy on people who drain my energy.

    My GP pestered the mental health services to hurry up with my help which was good and I'm really in need of that but it worries me that they're just going to patch me up and send me on my way. I've got so many problems but they're probably just going to address one aspect. Still have to start somewhere and I guess I'll have to do some ground work myself.

    Have you told anyone about your sexuality?
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    incase anyone wants to have a look
    Thanks that's really sweet of you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks that's really sweet of you.
    You're welcome
    I hope it can maybe help you (and others on this thread).
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    (Original post by Suzanne123)
    Do you mean you feel rubbish at having to leave the house, or do you feel rubbish because you want to leave the house more often?
    It makes me feel rubbish being in the house for too long, it mounts feelings of depression and makes me feel like I don't have a point in anything.


    (Original post by xoxAngel_Kxox)
    Do you mind me asking, why do you sometimes go for 5 days without leaving now? Because you still struggle with it, or just because you don't really have anything to do?
    A bit of both. I find it pointless to go out unless if I have a real need to do so, but then I also feel low if I'm at home for too long. Doesn't make sense but oh well.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It makes me feel rubbish being in the house for too long, it mounts feelings of depression and makes me feel like I don't have a point in anything.
    I suggested this to the op as well, but maybe you could try getting out everyday to just have a walk, go to the park, go to the shops etc. I know you said you had no reason to go out, but if you do things like this (which are free) I'm sure you will notice that, even for just 30mins a day or whatever, it makes a difference to your mood
    and if it gets really bad, visit your GP.
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    So depressing in these confines as well, everything just feeds off itself.
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    So depressing in these confines as well, everything just feeds off itself.
    I am agoraphobic and at university. Failed my first year and now salvaging my re-sit year. I can't tell you how rejuvenated I feel even after making a few small steps to improving my life. Your life is in your hands. Going on here and trying to find solutions won't help in the end. You have to take control yourself and be brave as I am trying to be. Good luck.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    realising I need to look at both body and mind (sounds airy fairy) but I have really strong physical reactions some might describe it as somatisation. That's why I need to keep in contact with my GP because half the time I need to check nothing serious is going on. So he's sending me for tests so that I feel more comfortable in my health.

    It terms of positive steps like i said above to another poster I'm trying not to spend so much energy on people who drain my energy.

    My GP pestered the mental health services to hurry up with my help which was good and I'm really in need of that but it worries me that they're just going to patch me up and send me on my way. I've got so many problems but they're probably just going to address one aspect. Still have to start somewhere and I guess I'll have to do some ground work myself.

    Have you told anyone about your sexuality?
    true, i want to do more yoga and meditation i think this will help me keep perspective and improve wellbeing
    and i agree with you about people, its good to surroudn yourself with positive people
    maybe you can open up to them about your problems? they should address them hopefully

    not really... well i met one girl online who is also bisexual and she knows, but noone else.. im starting to open up to the idea of talking to people about it


    but my sleeping pattern has gone pretty bad. i have been focussing on independent studying instead of classes since i have exams next week...

    my goal next term is to go to all my classes......
 
 
 
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