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    Someone may of already said this in the thread, but if your friends/bf/gf or whoever is a real friend, they will find other ways to speak to you if you don't have social media. If they stop talking to you because you don't have FB, they're not worth staying friends with.
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    lol OP is a master troll. what a question
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    (Original post by Sulpha)
    I'm happy to get carded for this: You're a moron.

    I pick up the phone and speak to my friends and funnily enough am often at the events with them. They don't need to see the photos.

    Not easy to arrange social gatherings.... Everyone just stayed at home for the last few thousand years before Facebook then did they ? Oh my poor parents, the hurt they must suffered all of their lives before Facebook. They didn't even have mobile phones back then either, it must have been terrible. I wonder when the concept of hanging out with multiple friends actually started - it must have been when the first mobile came out surely ?
    Facebook is the most common way that events are organised in modern society. People contacted each other with letters before email and mobile phones, but you'd be pretty weird to not have email/mobile phone etc. I don't personally see why people would want to make it more difficult for themselves.
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    (Original post by Sulpha)
    If someone didn't log into Facebook and missed a social event as a result, then they're clearly not that friendly with anyone going.
    If you didn't have a phone or email, would you expect people to write you a letter?

    Plenty of events aren't just for your absolute closest friends. Even if it is a close friend, why should they have to inconvenience themselves to suit the one awkward person who doesn't have Facebook?

    If a friend was organising something on Facebook, I certainly wouldn't expect them to contact me separately if I didn't have it - that would be a pretty arrogant attitude IMO, why should they have to go to extra effort just for me?
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    Haha yes I would, someone not having a social media account is definitely not going to put me off dating them. That's a bit stupid imo.
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    My best friend does not have a FB account as he is a clinical psychologist in the NHS and has deleted FB to protect himself professionally. You will also find many teachers, doctors etc who don't have FB accounts to protect themselves against students/patients learning more about them online.

    Maybe OP you need to find a fellow person with no FB account!
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    Me and my boyfriend both have Facebook but I've made it a point not to add him or get him to add me. I don't think it's a necessary part in a relationship, it wasn't a few years ago so I don't see the big deal about it now.

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    Not a problem, but try online dating, as a girl you'll get lots of messages.
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    What, are you 12?
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    I don't have facebook either and I always get the same reaction as you xD

    It did affect friendship in a way - I realised that my 'best friend' want really my best friend. But it didn't really affect my other friendships - I still see them at school, text/call them and meet up with them

    Honestly, I've just been so much happier and stress-free without Facebook so even if it's harder for me to socialise etc, I feel like it's worth it.


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    Quite the contrary. If someone is as apathetic about Facebook as I am then it would be nice.

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    I don't use any social media at all. Stopped fb in 2012, used twitter for about three months then cut that off in 2013 haha.

    So it wouldn't phase me really
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    (Original post by Sulpha)
    I pick up the phone and speak to my friends and funnily enough am often at the events with them. They don't need to see the photos.

    Not easy to arrange social gatherings.... Everyone just stayed at home for the last few thousand years before Facebook then did they ? Oh my poor parents, the hurt they must suffered all of their lives before Facebook. They didn't even have mobile phones back then either, it must have been terrible. I wonder when the concept of hanging out with multiple friends actually started - it must have been when the first mobile came out surely ?
    Why are you talking about photos? If the people you talk to live in different countries, have busy schedules etc, phonecalls are simply not as good as facebook.

    Organising things via phone simply is more difficult than by facebook. No need to be a luddite and shy away from more convenient technologies.
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    (Original post by Sulpha)
    I don't understand your mindset. Even when I used to use Facebook, 99.99% of events I found out about over the phone. Do people even make Facebook events any more ? Do you not go out unless you're invited to Facebook events ?
    Yeah, people use Facebook events quite a lot in my experience. Of course people use phones/speaking as well, but not using Facebook is still restricting things/being awkward unnecessarily in my view. Fair enough if people don't care about not finding out about stuff, but then you see people moaning "I don't have Facebook and didn't know about xxxx", well it's their own fault for not having it.
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    Yes, it wouldn't bother me. My boyfriend has a Facebook account but he doesn't use it that often and I didn't have one for about 6 months; it has never caused any problems.

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    I've always had thes events organised by whatsapp, even at uni. Never really saw the necessity of FB in that regard.
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    (Original post by Sulpha)
    Skype has been around for years for dealing with people overseas.

    There was and still is a platform just as easy as Facebook for every type of communication. All I'm saying is that people choose to use Facebook because it also grants them an ego stroke they need to for validation and allows them to snoop on other's live anonymously. It's simply factual.
    What a sheltered life you must live. Try skyping someone when there's an 8 hour or greater time difference.

    Facebook by far is the most convenient way to deal with this stuff. The fact you seem to be actively against it, rather than promoting what is most convenient, shows that you have an issue with facebook that has nothing to do with whether it is useful or not :stupid:
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    Yes. Although my boyfriend does have Facebook I don't. So I can't "stalk him" (as you phrased it) so it makes no difference to me if he had it or not.

    In the past a few people have asked why I don't have it and told me to get an account. But I deactivated mine for a reason so I have no interest in setting it back up again. If a friend or partner is worth having then they will ask you what ever is on their mind instead of stalking your Facebook looking for answers.

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    (Original post by Sulpha)
    Skype has been around for years for dealing with people overseas.

    There was and still is a platform just as easy as Facebook for every type of communication. All I'm saying is that people choose to use Facebook because it also grants them an ego stroke they need to for validation and allows them to snoop on other's live anonymously. It's simply factual.
    For a lot of us, it's easier to keep in touch with people via Facebook. I have a lot of family in America; so phone calls aren't practical - especially if I want to speak to several at once.

    Many of us aren't sad enough to snoop on other's lives ononymously.

    Oh and if it wasn't for Facebook, there wouldn't be (I'm not a member anymore for numerous reasons) a local music group. That was first of all set up via Facebook and then we contacted the local paper.
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    (Original post by Sulpha)
    Oh for goodness sake. Skype has an IM just like Facebook does, it's not just about calls.

    I'm incredibly sorry to the point where my heart breaks for you all but if your excuse for using Facebook over Skype is because "it's easier to keep in touch", then you're all either complete liars or sadly mistaken.

    You all use Facebook because in addition to all of the benefits many other platforms give you, you can also either snoop on other people or use it as an advertising billboard for your ego stroke or both. It is as simple as that, get over it and move on with your lives.
    What actually is your problem with Facebook? I've used Skype once and can't say I enjoyed it. Ditto Google Hangout.
 
 
 
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