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    (Original post by ChaoticButterfly)
    Not really. I have things I am happy about but I am far to worried and stressed and miserable too much of the time. I'm also a firm believer in continually looking for ways to improve and maximize happiness anyway.

    Also this blog

    http://www.pentadact.com/2011-03-12-analysing-happiness/

    How we expect happiness and success to relate to each other.



    How it really works.



    Hence why I chase happiness rather than success. In order for success to keep you happy you would need to be continually improving at everything all the time, consistency getting a promotion every year etc. Which isn't going to happen.


    The reverse is also true. If something really bad happens you do eventually get over it and revert to the normal mental state. As long as you don;t have continue external factors causing you mental harm on a regular basis you actually feel ok in about any situation. Your mind adapts. I'm working on getting rid of the regular negative external factors though. It is also why getting a job promotion into a much more regularly stressful situation is not worth it in my view.
    Everyone gets stressed though if you didn't I'd be worried, but I understand I worry far too much about unnecessary things.


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    (Original post by Gauntlets28)
    I dunno, when I've been knighted or something. I like to have some kind of awarded symbol that shows appreciation of my work. It's like how it used to be back when I'd receive awards in school. Boy, I miss those awards.
    I always saw them as way of tricking and manipulating me into doing something I wouldn't normally care about from a very early age. I don't give a **** about your stupid house points. Screw the system!

    I was a cynical child that grew up to be a very cynical adult.
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    When I buy a horse. That's my most enduring goal
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    When I'm established in my career with a happy wife and family.

    Wouldn't guarantee happiness mind.
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    When I've got a PhD, earn lots of money, and, although it's not hugely important for this, have a successful business which ultimately makes me a billionaire.
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    Once I have a stable job with an income that my future family can live comfortably on.
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    (Original post by Ndella)
    Once I have a stable job with an income that my future family can live comfortably on.
    do you think you will be the main breadwinner for your family?
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    do you think you will be the main breadwinner for your family?
    Probably not. I should have specified that I'd like my husband to also contribute towards the overall income.
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    (Original post by ChaoticButterfly)
    Not really. I have things I am happy about but I am far to worried and stressed and miserable too much of the time. I'm also a firm believer in continually looking for ways to improve and maximize happiness anyway.

    Also this blog

    http://www.pentadact.com/2011-03-12-analysing-happiness/
    http://www.pentadact.com/2011-03-12-...ing-happiness/
    http://web.yonsei.ac.kr/suh/file/Eve...%20matter..pdf
    How we expect happiness and success to relate to each other.



    How it really works.



    Hence why I chase happiness rather than success. In order for success to keep you happy you would need to be continually improving at everything all the time, consistency getting a promotion every year etc. Which isn't going to happen. Even if it does you then find yourself with less time for hobbies etc and as you happiness levels decrease you become more miserable with less free time for recreational purposes. So unless you enjoy the day to day process of your job it isn't worth chasing a high flying career if you ask me.


    The reverse is also true. If something really bad happens you do eventually get over it and revert to the normal mental state. As long as you don;t have continue external factors causing you mental harm on a regular basis you actually feel ok in about any situation. Your mind adapts. I'm working on getting rid of the regular negative external factors though. It is also why getting a job promotion into a much more regularly stressful situation is not worth it in my view.
    Well i believe that second intersection point on wards can be leveled out more effectively by controlling your emotions.
    Our emotions are just purely reactions to our current circumstances.
    We as humans are able to program our brain into whatever we want, whether that be happiness, success, sadness.
    For example, lets compare the success line with the progress one has in his work place.
    As one makes more progress with promotions we see that their happiness level is raised up to a certain threshold. To be content with where you are at this point you must experience the feeling of being jobless. Only through this, you will truly be happy, keeping that happiness line level.
    Everyone is greedy so i can definitely understand the 2nd graph.
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    2 kids, on £40,000 a year (AT)

    **** i can't wait to have kids hahahaa
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    Hmm in the short term when I get into uni to study my dream- optometry. But then afterwards it will be completing degree getting a job etc etc.
    So I guess in the long term once I'm paying of my debts and living stably relying on no ones else and spending my days doing my dream job. Sigh I want sixth form to hurry up


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    Never.

    The self-improvement struggle only ends when you die.
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    When I've made it into the fire service and have settled down with my own family
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    Majority of the replies are not what I consider success, success is not mediocrity.
 
 
 
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