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Guys do you check your girlfriends facebook inbox & ask her about guys she talks to?

No matter what you do, dont be a control freak. And dont let her control your social media too. But that doesnt mean you can cheat with other girls. Dont be crazy and combine your facebook account too. That is plain stupid.

Reply 61

thecatwithnohat

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Who even uses fb that often anymore :erm:

Reply 62

marzzy1911

Every couple have a different definition of 'normal'. As long as his girlfriend knows about it and she's okay with it then it can be deemed normal in their relationship. It depends how the couple runs their relationship really. What's normal for them may not be normal to you and your partner.

Reply 63

username1529975

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She doesn't have facebook :colone:

At least... she better not.
:fangs:

Reply 64

Maid Marian

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I'd never do that, it's surely a recipe for jealousy and paranoia. :erm:

Reply 65

Friar Chris

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I once did this, not because I'd ever done it before or because it was something that I felt I should do or would do, but because a guy literally messaged her when I was using her PC and when I flicked over to tell him she wasn't in, the inbox was less than totally innocent.

All in all, she had betrayed my trust, but not to the extent that I believe she was cheating on me or was ever going to. Unfortunately, in my distress and skill-less management of talking to her about it, I managed to drive away the only person I've ever loved.

tl;dr: Don't do it. Obviously don't do it intentionally, but don't even give into temptation. Not worth it.

:nopity:

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 66

hannahhaworth

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Original post by Friar Chris

I once did this, not because I'd ever done it before or because it was something that I felt I should do or would do, but because a guy literally messaged her when I was using her PC and when I flicked over to tell him she wasn't in, the inbox was less than totally innocent.

All in all, she had betrayed my trust, but not to the extent that I believe she was cheating on me or was ever going to. Unfortunately, in my distress and skill-less management of talking to her about it, I managed to drive away the only person I've ever loved.

tl;dr: Don't do it. Obviously don't do it intentionally, but don't even give into temptation. Not worth it.

:nopity:

aww

here4u

Reply 67

Anonymous #4

Original post by Anonymous

So im wondering, ive started going out with this girl and I was talking to a mate of myne who is in a long term realtionship. He told me he checks his girlfriends texts and facebook on a regular basis and he asks her about which guys shes been talking to at work, is this normal ?

while checking your SO's texts harmlessly or for lols is probably okay, what youve described here is an example of abuse... asking who she talks to at work??? monitors her communication!! this isnt a healthy relationship and I think you need to talk to him. Please dont take this lightly . jealousy might be cute but this isnt

Reply 68

RobML

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Original post by thecatwithnohat

Who even uses fb that often anymore :erm:

Are all the cool kids on Google+ now?

Reply 69

ChaoticButterfly

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|f I had one there is no way I would do that. Massive breach of privacy.

Reply 70

Anonymous #4

Original post by marzzy1911

Every couple have a different definition of 'normal'. As long as his girlfriend knows about it and she's okay with it then it can be deemed normal in their relationship. It depends how the couple runs their relationship really. What's normal for them may not be normal to you and your partner.

just because she considers it normal that doesnt make it okay? this isn't something harmless like 'they share toothbrushes and they think its normal its ok' this is hes before very controlling
yikes do you even know how abusive relationships work

Reply 71

Friar Chris

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Original post by hannahhaworth

aww

here4u

I'm not too feely really, but thanks :lol:

It's actually been 2 years, and I'm acutely aware of how sad it seems and have largely on a day-to-day basis been fine with it for about a year now. I find it best to be cognisant of the things that shape who we are, though (perhaps too much training in psychiatry?) - and I'm going to feel like the colloquial 'damaged goods' for a rather long time. It was hardest because she detests me even for things that she claims I did which I never did; and she accuses me of various non-existent betraysls since then, as she doesn't realise that despite the many times she's metaphorically stabbed me, I (even to this day) defend her name even to her old friends and critics. I have no interest in correcting her; I don't do it for her sake or some self-interested motivation but out of ridiculous sense of honour; at heart I am a fool.

If I do die alone, it won't be because I'm totally hideous or lack basic socialising skills, but because I don't trust myself and refuse to betray my own skewed sense of honour. Think what you will of why I drink and then post this **** :rolleyes:

Happier topic now, please. This thread just seemed specifically relevant.

Reply 72

aaronlowe

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Must admit I sometimes check my ex-wife's facebook page. I still care about her but only check it maybe once every 6 months. She has a new boyfriend now which hurts a bit. I guess it makes me feel I wasn't good enough. But at least I know she's still alive.

When you love someone I don't think you ever really stop even when you part. My ex was a significant part of my life and that'll never change. I have a girlfriend now but I still think about the past - no intention of going back though. Time to move on...

Reply 73

aaronlowe

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Original post by SiminaM

Srs dude how ugly are you?

Ouch! I hope that was sarcasm.

I always thought I was quite ugly but my girlfriend thinks I'm a real catch :colone:

It's EOB

Reply 74

Anonymous #1

OP

Each time a girl ignores my text or message even simple stuff like Hows it going ?
I just feel so pathetic. Girls have 100s of guys chasing them and despite girls seeming intrested in person and intiating conversation why they see me. They never reply to my texts or messages its like a glass ceiling and its quite demoralising

And before you say you need better text game i need a response to the first message theese are girls ive known for like a year not random girls at clubs
Strangly its always the girls i fancy that ignore me....

Reply 75

ChaoticButterfly

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Original post by SiminaM

Srs dude how ugly are you?

Ugly people still have girlfriends :huff:

To be honest it's probably more to do with shyness and just generally **** social skills. Although I wouldn't rule out ugliness, my facial appearance is asymmetric what with my deformed ear :sad:

That's objectively bad looking.

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 76

Viva Emptiness

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Original post by ChaoticButterfly

Ugly people still have girlfriends :huff:

So what you're admitting to is being both ugly AND with a terrible personality/bank balance?

Reply 77

SiminaM

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Original post by aaronlowe

Ouch! I hope that was sarcasm.

I always thought I was quite ugly but my girlfriend thinks I'm a real catch :colone:

It's EOB

EOB?

Original post by ChaoticButterfly

Ugly people still have girlfriends :huff:

Then what's the problem?
Saw your edit - idk you seem a nicer person than most tsr guys with gf are *cough* schrodingers cat *cough*
An ear? That can't be that bad

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(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 78

aaronlowe

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Original post by Anonymous

Each time a girl ignores my text or message even simple stuff like Hows it going ?
I just feel so pathetic. Girls have 100s of guys chasing them and despite girls seeming intrested in person and intiating conversation why they see me. They never reply to my texts or messages its like a glass ceiling and its quite demoralising

And before you say you need better text game i need a response to the first message theese are girls ive known for like a year not random girls at clubs
Strangly its always the girls i fancy that ignore me....

I used to be quite depressed about this kind of thing. Then one day I just said, "God, if you want me to be in a relationship then I'll leave that to you to figure out. You have infinitely more experience than me. Meanwhile I'm going to concentrate on enjoying my life so that I'm happy either way."

I've never looked back :smile: